20 Seconds on the Clock
You know how Tosh puts 20 seconds on the clock and rattles off as many responses as he can to a video? I’d like to try that with a quote from the recent Jezebel article about fundraising for IVF.
For most of us (devout Catholics aside), it doesn’t have anything to do with the actual procedure, since undergoing IVF has become a very common practice. It’s more that being asked to fund someone else’s fertility treatment feels a little bit, well, annoying—like being asked to give money instead of gifts at a wedding. I think it’s because IVF seems so entirely optional and personal. While chipping in to someone’s adoption can be seen as an altruistic act, paying for a friend’s IVF seems closer on the spectrum to being asked to help pay for a chin implant to help make their dream of not hating their face a reality.
Aside: my feeling is that we walk a very slippery slope when we deem some personal fundraising as altruistic or admirable (or understandable) and others as gauche because the worth is always in the eye of the asker. All receivers of the message can choose to ignore. I’m all for the author pointing out that all money requests make her uncomfortable, but think it just makes her look heartless to write about how this request like… gags her with a spoon.