A News Story That is Going to Bother You
There are so many ways this article is going to bother you that I’m erasing the first line I just wrote listing out all the various angles it will come from to poke you. Which begs the question — why am I sharing it with you if it’s just going to sit in your stomach the way it is sitting in mine? I don’t know. Because misery needs company? Because I think in hearing other people’s thoughts, it can help harmonize my own?
A woman named Kristy Gaffney met a man (Emmitt Dippold) online and began dating him. She says that he presented himself as a divorced businessman who had been unable to have children with his wife due to infertility. They continued to date and Gaffney became pregnant. At first she says that he wanted her to have an abortion, and then changed his mind, asking her to sign some papers that would enable him to be listed as the father. Though she didn’t understand the paperwork, she signed it anyway.
The baby was born, the man fixed up his house so the three of them come live together, and then one day, before they could move in, the man did not return the baby. This is when she learned that the man and his infertile wife (he was not divorced) were adopting the baby. The paperwork she had signed ended her parenting rights.
The judge ruled the adoption fraudulent. The man and his wife are appealing that decision. The woman says she was misled in various ways as to the nature of their relationship (she met him on a dating site, he told her he was related to the Duponts). The man implies that their relationship was akin to a traditional surrogacy agreement (albeit without paperwork or through any traditional channels).
I’m going to encourage you not to read the 693 comments on the Today Show article. I started and then had to stop.