378th Friday Blog Roundup
Last Friday, instead of getting work accomplished, I spent most of the day cleaning up my sidebar. There were just a lot of… words. Now there are more pictures. There are little icons for places where I’ve always been such as Facebook or Twitter. And there are new ones such as Pinterest (looky — I made a page for Life from Scratch). Plus, there is a brand spanking new email list you can add yourself to (it’s the orange book icon) if you want to be informed when the sequel and future books (because yes, I have outlines for three more Rachel Goldman book) are coming out.
It’s nice and neat now, and I like the less-cluttered look.
I started yoga this week, and I wish I could tell you that it has changed my life and brought me tons of inner peace, but I’m finding that I’m really not the yoga sort. At the same time, I have already purchased the mat and paid for the classes, so I will be doing yoga since I am the practical sort.
The first day I went, I ate a yogurt and drank a cup of coffee beforehand. The website told me not to, but I knew I needed my energy. About three minutes into the 75-minute “continuous flow” yoga class (which is just a fancy way of saying that you never stop moving, holding each pose for only one breath. Or, in my case, one gasp), as I was hanging in downward-facing dog, I realized that I wanted to vomit. The yogurt and coffee were fighting their way into my throat, burning a hole in their path. I went home fairly miserable for the rest of the day, leaving myself a reminder to go on an empty stomach next time.
The second class was more my speed (meaning, we paaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaused for a loooooooooooooooooong tiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiime) and I wasn’t internally fighting with a container of Greek yogurt, but it still didn’t grab me in the way that running does. My third class was attended with a friend of mine, so I spent most of the time trying not to laugh as our classmates got themselves into impressive positions while we fudged it. And then we went out for a beer, which sort of negated the whole yoga thing but was the thought that kept me in the class for the full 75 minutes.
Perhaps yoga will grow on me; I’m not ruling that out. And even if it doesn’t, I’m going to keep doing it for the time being. Plus, I’ve lost 6 pounds so far by changing my eating habits and adding in yoga. Pretty damn good progress.
And now the blogs…
But first, second helpings of the posts that appeared in the open comment thread last week as well as the week before. In order to read the description before clicking over, please return to the open thread:
- “Meryl Streep in The Iron Lady Asks How We Define Womanhood” (Stirrup Queens) — thank you!
- “Thin Ice” (Kmina’s Blog)
- “Guilt” (Seriously?!)
- “The Toddler Inside” (Better Full Than Empty)
Okay, now my choices this week.
The Kir Corner has a post titled “Because It Wasn’t Enough” (fine, it was from last Thursday, but I didn’t read it until Friday night) about how she feels about working while parenting after infertility. It’s not only an interesting post; it’s an interesting discussion in the comment section (and you should jump in too). The part I love is what she will tell her children: “Because even though I wanted you with every ounce of my being, even though I struggled and beat the odds to even get pregnant with you, even though just the sight of you makes me struggle for breath because you are mine forever and always… motherhood wasn’t enough. I needed something for myself, just like every other mommy I know.” Go over and read the post in full.
MoJo Working has a very honest post this week about the problem with infertility blogs, namely, the fact that they often change direction. She admits: “Whatever the reason, I am finding myself deleting more and more of my familiar blogs from my reader, and seeking out new ones.” I liked it because she said what I suspect a lot of people think, and because the post challenged me to consider a different point of view.
Mission: Fertile Soul has a post about feeling strange about feeling okay. That she isn’t upset, and this is what feels weird and new. She explains: “But, it’s almost as if I’m looking at my particular IF journey as an observer and not the person experiencing it. There’s no more intense sadness, or guilt, or anger, or frustration. I’ve gotten teary, because I want to hug that part of myself that experienced all of that crap and ended up stronger and with a bigger zest for life on the other side (even without currently having a baby or being pregnant). I don’t feel wounded or scarred.” It’s a post that proves the idea that children resolve childlessness, but they don’t resolve infertility. That is something every person must do on their own.
Lastly, Magpie Musing has a post about loving her daughter and how she marries that with the grief she felt over all the cycles which didn’t result in a child. The whole post is fantastic, but I love this thought: “Can you grieve that, a procedure that didn’t work? Most attempts at pregnancy don’t work; lots of fertilizations the “normal” way end up in early miscarriage, so early that the woman doesn’t even know she was pregnant. So, yes, I was sad that it didn’t work, with all those dollars down the tube to boot, but that’s not really grief, is it?”
The roundup to the Roundup: Obviously bothered by the defunding of Planned Parenthood. Check out my new icons (and sign up for the book news email list if you want to know when the next book will be released). I started yoga, and I can’t say that I love it. And lots of great posts to read. So what did you find this week? Please use a permalink to the blog post (written between January 27th and February 3rd) and not the blog’s main url. Not understanding why I’m asking you what you found this week? Read the original open thread post here.