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IComLeavWe: December 2011

SPECIAL PRIZE FOR THIS ICOMLEAVWE: One participant from December’s IComLeavWe will be randomly chosen to move their entry into the 4th slot on the Creme de la Creme list (getting more eyes on their post).

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

  • The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere — blog writers and/or blog readers.
  • Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: The list is closed.
  • Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
  • Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
  • I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
  • Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
  • The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.
The December 2011 List
    1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
    2. Here We Go Again (parenting, random)
    3. Geebaby (life, waiting, early)
    4. Love Life Project (health, life, balance)
    5. Words and Pictures (humour, stories, life)
    6. If You Don’t Stand For Something (infertility, family, hobbies)
    7. Adventures in Mommyhood: Mommy Ournumbered (mommy, crunchy, life)
    8. Survive and Thrive (pregnant after infertility)
    9. The 2 Week Wait (infertility pregnancy humor)
    10. The Cornfed Feminist (pcos, irony, oversharing)
    11. Created Family (unexplained infertility, social worker, ttc #1)
    12. Biago – Baby, If All Goes Optimally (secondary infertility, fet, bfp)
    13. Bring on the Babies… (IVF, recurrent miscarriage, immune testing )
    14. Scrambled Eggs-A Journey from IVF to Baby-Maybe- to Twins (ivf, twins, family)
    15. Three Cats And A Baby (parenting, infertility, adoption)
    16. Waiting For Little Feet (pcos, ivf, wine)
    17. Lessons from an Infertile Social Worker (transracial open adoption)
    18. My Life in a Nut Shell (IF, miscarriage, everyday life)
    19. Infertiles Laughing (adoption, infertility, humor)
    20. Feeling Beachie (life, humor, family)
    21. Detour (miscarriage, infertility, endometriosis)
    22. The Advo.cat (pregnancy, miscarriage, humour)
    23. The Days of Our Lives (adoption, waiting, marriage)
    24. Journey to the Finish Line (infertility, running, everything)
    25. MissConception (IVF, twin loss, pcos )
    26. For We Are Bound by Symmetry (pregnant after IVF)
    27. Where Do We Go From Here? (infertility, parenting, life)
    28. Les Terres Fertiles (unexplained, infertility, struggle)
    29. Unruffled Lanie (infertility, ivf, vegan)
    30. Ambition: Motherhood (pregnancy, dIUI, MFI)
    31. A Miracle in the Works (pregnant after unexplained infertility)
    32. My Lady of the Lantern (neonatal loss, about to give birth again, hope and worry)
    33. It Is What It Is (Or Is It?) (domestic adoption, adult adoptee, life)
    34. The Pursuit of Pregnancy (lap, septum, endo)
    35. Donor Diva: Mother via Egg Donation (egg donation, parenting, secondary infertility)
    36. Nursing Infertility (infertility, tests, financial)
    37. Our Little Family (infertility, adoption, frustration)
    38. Our New Normal (pregnancy loss, adoption, life)
    39. Creating a Family (infertility, adoption, parenting)
    40. Let’s Conversate About Irregardless (ttc, ranting, 80s)
    41. Life is Simple, It’s Just Not Easy (TTC#1, IVF, post-cancer)
    42. The Rocky Road To Motherhood (life after IVF)
    43. Polycystic Inside (ttc updates, rants & dreams, art)
    44. Building a Family Through Donor Insemination (donor sperm, infertility, life)
    45. Kay Khronicles (infertility, food, life)
    46. Hapa Hopes (infertility, life, relationships)
    47. Compromised Fertility (FET, 2WW, hope and patience)
    48. Notes from the Ninth Circle (waiting, IVF, frustration)
    49. Sometimes it’s hard to get pregnant (infertility, everything about infertility)
    50. This Blondie Wants Babies (ivf, miscarriage, life)
    51. Relaxing Doesn’t Get You Pregnant (parenting, humor, expletives)
    52. Exploring Chaos (IF, parenting, TTC # 2)
    53. Between the Paper Sheets (early pregnancy, iui, marriage)
    54. kate: uncensored (life after infertility)
    55. Home Grown Love (infertility, home, love)
    56. A Little Blog About the Big Infertility (and Adoption too!) (adoption, pregnancy loss, adenomyosis)
    57. Searching for our silver lining (IVF, unexplained infertility, balance)
    58. Infertile in a Fertile World (TTC break, TTC with IF, endometriosis)
    59. Living Our Life In Cycles (endometriosis, IUI #1, coping with IF)
    60. Wistfulgirl’s World (life, adoption, PCOS)
    61. TTC A Modern Medicine Miracle (pregnancy loss, donor sperm, military life)
    62. The Elusive Second Line (TTC #1, PCOS, infertility)
    63. Hoping for a Due Date in Good Time (IVF #1, endometriosis, infertility)
    64. Ambitious Knits (knitting lawschool birth)
    65. All in God’s Time (infant adoption, infertility)
    66. the stork drop zone (infertility, humor, life)
    67. Not Just An Army Wife (military, miscarriage, pcos )
    68. The Journey to Baby G (ivf, early pregnancy, anxiety)
    69. A Half Baked Life (food, parenting after IF, yoga)
    70. A Blanket 2 Keep (infertility, life, hope)
    71. RelaxedNoMore (TTC, pregnancy loss, infertility)
    72. Knocked up by Another Man (parenting, alaska, de-ivf)
    73. A Bend in the Road (life after stillbirth)
    74. Our Roller Coaster Through IVF (IVF, family, early pregnancy)
    75. Cherish This Day (family of 4, Sagittal Craniosynostosis, TTC after IF)
    76. Getting There (adoption, life, work)
    77. Holly’s Narrative Dream (secondary infertility, life writing)
    78. Being Joyful Always (adoption, infertility, weight loss)
    79. Lil Family Blog (motherhood, lesbians, adoption)
    80. MotherNatureSchmature (secondary infertility, FET)
    81. Just Let Go (adoption, rpl, humour)
    82. A Mommy’s Thoughts (mom after pcos)
    83. Fractured Family Tales (life, kids, snark)
    84. believing in june (mfi, ttc #2, hopeful)
    85. Hope Delayed (infertility, ivf, life)
    86. Give that girl a tall cappuccino (scrapbooking, life, travel)
    87. Metholic (ttc, IVF, foster care)
    88. Outlandish Notions (parenting infertility general)
    89. Donating Hope (sif, egg donor, faith)
    90. Wishing and Hoping and Thinking and Praying (1st iui, pcos, ttc)
    91. Carneyexploits (crafts, IVF, homemaking)
    92. Buck Up, Buttercup (2nd trimester pregnancy after loss, twins, creativity)
    93. BattleFish (life, early pregnancy, IVF)
    94. Life As I Know It (twins, parenting, life)
    95. It’s Definitely Possible (SMC, pregnancy, 3rd trimester)
    96. Scrambled Eggs (infertility, IVF, life)
    97. The list is closed.

Q: What if I miss a day?

A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments – 12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What if I have two blogs? Can I sign up twice, listing both blogs?

A: Yes, but you also need to double your comments. If you have two blogs listed, you should be leaving 12 comments per day.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?

A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?

A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is red, the next month it will be yellow, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?

A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?

A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours). The list closes around 11 p.m. EST on the 21st.

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?

A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?

A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

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