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IComLeavWe: November 2011

SPECIAL PRIZE FOR THIS ICOMLEAVWE: One participant from November’s IComLeavWe will be randomly chosen to move their entry into the 6th slot on the Creme de la Creme list (getting more eyes on their post).

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

  • The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere — blog writers and/or blog readers.
  • Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: The list is now closed.  The December list will open on the 1st.
  • Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
  • Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
  • I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
  • Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
  • The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.
The November 2011 List
    1. Stirrup Queens (twins, books, writing)
    2. Feeling Beachie (life, humor, family)
    3. Bio Girl (parenting, infertility, endometriosis)
    4. Here We Go Again (parenting, random)
    5. Four of a Kind (parenting, secondary infertility, loss)
    6. Geebaby (life, early, waiting)
    7. Searching for Our Silver Lining (infertility, ivf, life)
    8. Life and Love in the Petri Dish (donor egg, 6 m/cs, life)
    9. Life As I Know It (twins, parenting, life)
    10. The Days of Our Lives (infertility, adoption, marriage)
    11. Hiding Scars in my Yarn (loss, children, crafts)
    12. The Elusive Second Line (infertility, pcos, fertility doctors)
    13. The 2 Week Wait (infertility pregnancy humor)
    14. Where Do We Go From Here? (infertility, life, family)
    15. Planet Hausfrau (crafts, cooking, kids)
    16. Donor Diva: Mother via Egg Donation (egg donation, parenting, TTC #2)
    17. A Miracle in the Works (preparing for IVF #1, TTC #1)
    18. Someday (expecting, gratitude, home-birth)
    19. Searching For the Missing Piece (waiting family, adoption, life)
    20. Write Mind Open Heart (open adoption, mindfulness, perfect moments)
    21. Somewhere in the Middle (infertility, DIA, waiting)
    22. My Lady of the Lantern (neonatal loss, grief, pregnancy)
    23. Survive and Thrive (early pregnancy, hope)
    24. Endo and Beyond (food, miscarriages, trying to decide what to do next)
    25. As Good As It Gets? (parenting, infertility, adoption)
    26. BattleFish (ttc #1, ivf #3, life)
    27. Ginger and Lime (infertility, religion, trashy TV)
    28. It Is What It Is (Or Is It?) (domestic adoption, being adopted, life)
    29. The Pursuit of Pregnancy (surrogacy, adoption, autoimmune)
    30. Our New Normal (adoption, pregnancy loss, weight loss)
    31. Hobbit-ish Thoughts & Ramblings (expecting #2, parenting, cooking)
    32. Created Family (ttc #1, unexplained infertility, social worker)
    33. Babylicious Tales (parenting, newbie, life)
    34. Ambition: Motherhood (pregnant, donor sperm)
    35. Journey to the Finish Line (infertility, running, everything)
    36. The Perpetual Aunt (azoospermia, fertility options)
    37. Becoming Parents (IVF, TTC #1, habitual aborter)
    38. Wistfulgirl’s World (adoption, parent death, life)
    39. Digital-Damita.net (clomid, pcos, ttc)
    40. CD1 Again (infertility, family, taking a break)
    41. Musings of a Hormonal Egg Basket (parenting after IVF)
    42. Meier Madness (PCOS, IVF, keeping the crazy at bay)
    43. Notes from the Ninth Circle (stalled, frustration, stress)
    44. A Year On… Our New Beginning {hopefully} (stillbirth, secondary IF, IVF)
    45. Donating Hope (egg donor SIF)
    46. The Good Stuff (parenthood, crafts, life)
    47. Lessons from and Infertile Social Worker (transracial open adoption)
    48. Eggs In A Row (coping, PCOS, marriage)
    49. An Engineer Becomes a Mom (adoption, infertility, random)
    50. Searching for Serendipity (ivf, faith, randomness)
    51. A Fine Mess (miscarriage, infertility, adoption)
    52. Hapa Hopes (infertility, life, intercultural)
    53. Donor Eggs Journey (FET, Thailand, trying 4 2nd)
    54. What IF? (infertility, ivf, health)
    55. Hoping for a Due Date in Good Time (IVF, endometriosis, infertility)
    56. Cablearms (art, life, miscarriages)
    57. Not Just An Army Wife (loss, ivf, military)
    58. Detour (infertility, loss, endometriosis)
    59. Holly’s Narrative Dream (infertility, life, moving forward)
    60. For We Are Bound by Symmetry (TTC#1, IVF#1, clinical trial)
    61. Praying for a Pregnancy (ivf, pregnancy, ivf)
    62. Kate; Uncensored (life after infertility)
    63. Dragondreamer’s Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, crafts)
    64. TTC Baby E (ivf, pregnancy, twins)
    65. Between the Paper Sheets (infertility, weight loss, marriage)
    66. Hannah Wept, Sarah Laughed (infertility, writing, waiting)
    67. Pink Lipgloss & Prenatals (IVF, FET, infertility)
    68. The Rocky Road To Motherhood (life after ivf)
    69. Bodega Bliss (recovering from pregnancy loss)
    70. Living Our Life In Cycles (endometriosis, IF, hope)
    71. Relaxed No More (TTC, pregnancy loss, TTC)
    72. Zeroguarantees (Suro twins arrived)
    73. Colours of Cattiz (pregnancy after ivf, 1st trimester)
    74. So This is Love (love, family, rambles)
    75. The Stork Drop Zone (infertility, humor, life)
    76. Chasing Our Stork: From ART to Adoption (international adoption, miracle pregnancy, faith)
    77. The Cass Family (infertility, parenting, family)
    78. Metholic (infertility, fostercare, humor)
    79. Taking the Long Way (rpl, MTHFR, new baby)
    80. Bring on the Babies… (IVF, recurrent miscarriage, immune)
    81. MissConception (infant loss, TTC#1, PCOS)
    82. Fox In The HenHouse (infertility, ectopic pregnancy, loss)
    83. The Cornfed Feminist (pcos, iui, irony)
    84. This Space For Rent (infertility, ivf, army)
    85. Lil Family Blog (lesbian, family-life, adoption)
    86. Waiting for Little Feet (infertility, PCOS, treatment)
    87. Cinderella Wore Glass Slippers (international adoption, life)
    88. Cherish This Day (finally a family of 4, Sagittal Craniosynostosis diagnosis)
    89. Marriage 2.0 (infertility, adoption wait, life)
    90. Fit to Parent (adoption, waiting, preparing)
    91. The misadventures of missohkay (adoption, pregnancy loss)
    92. Mompreneur Mogul (blogging, parenting,humor)
    93. Getting There (adoption, parenting, life)
    94. Trying to Conceive (life after IVF)
    95. Infertiles Laughing (adoption, infertility, humor)
    96. Just Waiting for My Turn (infertility, fibroids, life)
    97. Historias Secretas (pregnancy after ICSI)
    98. All I Ever Wished For (if, ivf, life)
    99. Scrambled Eggs (infertility, pcos, life)
    100. A Second Line (baby, stillbirth, infertility)
    101. Hope Delayed (infertility, ivf, life)
    102. The Kay Khronicles (food, infertility, life)
    103. A peek into our journey (pg with triplets, IVF #2, infertility)
    104. My Life in a Nut Shell (miscarriage, healing, infertility)
    105. Connecting the Dots (infertility, parenting, non-profits)
    106. Carney Exploits (infertility, debt, homemaking)
    107. A Woman My Age (adoption, infertility, parenting after 40)
    108. 3hearts2hold1love (parenting after IF, secondary IF, life in general)
    109. Plan B: DIYBaby (ivf, yoga, wellbeing)
    110. Life is Simple, It’s Just Not Easy (infertility, ttc#1, post-cancer)
    111. Weathering the Storm (transracial adoption, parenting, life)
    112. The Well-Read Wife (books, life, kids)
    113. A Freckled Life (infertility marriage life)
    114. Wonderfully Ordinary (parenting, infertility, life)
    115. my dusty uterus (humor, first pregnancy)
    116. Our Journey (pcos, wife, mom)
    117. Our Roller Coaster through IVF (infertility, life, family)
    118. Biago – Baby, If All Goes Optimally (secondary infertility fet)
    119. Ricecakes & Redemption (infertility, foster parenting, endometriosis)
    120. The list is now closed.  The December list opens on the 1st.

Q: What if I miss a day?

A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments – 12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What if I have two blogs? Can I sign up twice, listing both blogs?

A: Yes, but you also need to double your comments. If you have two blogs listed, you should be leaving 12 comments per day.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?

A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?

A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is navy blue, the next month it will be yellow, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?

A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?

A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours). The list closes around 11 p.m. EST on the 21st.

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?

A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?

A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

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