Happy Birthday to Me
Standing in the last hours of being 35; squinting at the next year of being 36.
In Hebrew, our letters double as our numbers and each letter has a numerical value. Sometimes numbers inadvertently form words, the most famous being “chai” or life, which is written with the same letters that are used to write “18.”
Denominations of 18 have special significance in Hebrew because they’re tied via gematria to “life” (hence why Jews often make donations or give gifts in denominations of 18). So 36 is a special year. Josh told me “no tears” when I started wailing a few nights about growing older as he held me on the sofa. “This year is double life.”
For my birthday, he took me to the aquarium this past weekend and when we walked in under the waterfall and saw the trout larger than my arm swimming back and forth as we waited to get through the entrance, I knew in my bones that we had picked the perfect spot to say goodbye to being 35.
Happy birthday to me.





107 comments
Happy Birthday!
Yom huledet sameach! Waiting with bated breath to see what blessings you bring to the world in this next year and beyond!
Happy Birthday! My Aunt (who’s 65) always tells me, “Life just keeps getting better, dear.”
Happy Birthday!! I’ve often had that thought of double life as I head toward 36 (I’ve got 7 months until then). I think it will be a wonderful year for us all!
And, the song in the video? That was wonderful. I’m a chemistry prof and I will definitely be appropriating that for my intro class this summer!
Happy Birthday! (I’ll be turning 36 in two days.)
Happy happy happy…Go 1974!
Happy birthday! (To me–aged 39–36 seems young. . . . )
Happy Birthday! I hope you have a great one.
Yay! Birthdays are awesome!!! Have a very happy one!!
Wishing you many birthday blessings!
Happy birthday sweetie! Double chai!!
Happy Birthday, lovely Mel!
When they say, “Life begins at 40,” it sounds like all BS cliche. But you know, in a lot of ways it’s true; not BS at all. I also think that … as much as we fret about some of these birthdays, there will be so many where we look back and the idea that 36 … or forty-anything is ~old~ … will seem ridiculous. Hopefully will all still be blogging about it.
Here’s to double life and here’s to you, someone who is living so very, very well – a fne reason to celebrate. Thanks again for all you do. The day you were born was a blessing to everyone who knows you … even if it’s just the virtual “know.”
Lots of love and best wishes for the best year yet.
Many happy returns of the day! 35 is a good age, I thought. You are at the height of your powers, and yet still have plenty of time ahead. Enjoy it thoroughly!
Oops. 36, I meant. Never was very good with numbers!
Happy happy birthday, Mel. May all your hopes and dreams come true.
Happy Birthday! I love thinking of 36 as extra special because it’s double chai! As a Jewish woman who often donates to charities and gives gifts in multiples of 18, it never occurred to me before. I’ll be 36 on my next birthday, and thinking of it this way will definitely make me smile.
Happy Birthday, double chai!
Happy birthday!! If you think turning 36 is traumatic, wait until 50 — that’s what I have to look forward to next, lol. But hey — it sure beats the alternative, doesn’t it? ; ) I hope you have a fabulous day!
Happy Birthday!! I hope this next year will be the best one yet!
Double chai! I love it!!!! Thinking of you and hoping you are having the most kickass of days! Xxxooo
Happy Birthday, youngster!
Happy Birthday Mel!! I hope 36 treats you great!
Happy Birthday!!!
Happy Birthday!
Happy (almost) birthday to you!! (It’s tomorrow, right?) Here’s wishing you all the most wonderful things this year can bring, a year of double life!!
Happy Birthday! Turning 36 in Chinese tradition is very important as it’s “your” year. This sounds like the Mel we’ve come to know:
“Those under the year of Tiger are courageous and powerful. They can be lovable, sensitive, hardworking and independent. They can show a lot of sympathy towards others and be very idealistic.”
Happy Birthday!!
Happy 36 Birthday, Mel! I have been in the land of 36 for a month or so and so far so good! I have a good feeling about this one. Enjoy! L’chaim!
Happy Birthday, dawling!! I agree w/ Josh! Double life, live it up, my friend! xoxo
Twice chai!! How nice
I just discovered my mother (who btw shares your birthday!) was born in the Hebrew year תרצח (=murder). Ouch!
and of course
!!! Happyy Happy Birthday !!!
Just think, you will always be 5 years younger than me. That should give you a smile.
Have a great day!
Happy Birthday!
Cheater! Not until tomorrow!
Happy Birthday!!
Happy birthday, Mel! So many of my favorite people have birthdays in the first week of June; my mom’s birthday is also tomorrow. (Probably all favorites because of Aquarius-Gemini compatibility.) Hope you have a marvelous day and year!
Happy birthday, Mel! Wishing you all the best things in life that money can’t buy!
Double life, I like that
Do everything twice as well and with twice as much enthusiasm!
Ah, 36. It was a very good year! And so was 46. At 50 I was moaning to my son about not wanting to be 50. He looked at me and drawled, “mama, it beats the alternative.” Well, yes it does!
I hope your year of “double life” brings you as many blessings as you bring to others.
Many blessings to you for your birthday and every day, Mel! You are so fabulous – may you always know this, even when you are feeling discouraged.
Okay. (takes a sip of water)
Here goes.
Happy birthday, to you! Happy birthday, to you! Happy birthday, dear Me-el! Happy birthday to youuuuuuu!
Blessings for the day and the year ahead.
Many happy wishes for your new year, Mel!
Happy Birthday gorgeous Mel!
I love that video and song, isn’t the underwater world just amazing ?
Just like YOU! xxx
Happy Birthday- didn’t not know that about the numbers in Hebrew, that is so cool. Here’s to “Double Life” for you
So young and so wise! Happy Birthday, Melissa!
Happy Birthday!
Happy, happy Birthday Mel
May your thirty sixth year bring you all your heart desires.
Happy Birthday
A very happy birthday indeed Melissa! Double life – may it be full of blessings this year!
Your late 30′s are all about surveying where you’ve been and all you’ve accomplished, building on that, and sitting back once in a while and contently surveying it all. Enjoy every minute of this era-it’s all good!
Welcome to the 36 club!
Happy Birthday!
Happy birthday! And many happy returns!
I love the idea of double life. I will have to remember that this year, as I turned 36 in April.
Happy birthday!
I’m getting ready to disembark from 36 next week. It’s been good, although the “advanced maternal age” thing has its drawbacks.
I agree with what other commenters have said about the mid thirties providing excellent perspective.
Great video! I bet the aquarium people would love it.
Happy Birthday!! =)
Happy Birthday!!
I hope you had a great day!
Thanks for sharing the video. I loved the jelly fish.
Mazel Tov and Happy Birthday!
Happy Birthday dear strawberry friend!!!! Much love and happiness to you this year.
Someday I want a full gematria lesson from you.
Happy birthday, my sweet friend. I certainly enjoyed your 35 with you.
Happy Birthday!
Happy happy birthday!!
cheers to double life, my friend!
I write this at 8:59 pac time, which is the last minute of your 35th year!
wishing you the happiest of moments and days today. much love to you.
and now it’s midnight and your birthday! let me be the first to wish it again. happy happy happy day, melissa!
Happy Birthday, Melissa. I hope you had a great time at the aquarium.
Happy Birthday!!
Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!
Happy Birthday!!!!
Happy happy birthday!
Happy birthday Mel! I hope it was a great one!!
Happy Birthday!!!! I hope you are having a fantastic day!!!
Happy happy birthday! Happy happy birthday! Happy happy birthday to a great person!
(it sounds better in person where you can hear the melody, I swear!)
Happy birthday! Love your tune at the end there. Have a great… well, every day from now forwards!
Bea
Happy Birthday you wonderful special woman!
xxx
Happy Birthday! 36 is indeed a very special number!
Happy birthday, Mel!
I had heard about the number 18 being the Hebrew number for Life but thought it was just one of those random things people tend to make up. I am glad to see you confirm it for me. (I was born on the 18th day of the month). But wait! This isn’t about me! Happy Birthday Mel and thanks for all you do. You are an anchor to us all and deserve the very best on your birthday and the rest of the year. Have a fabulous one!
Happy Birthday, hope you have a fabulous B-day & an even more fantastic year:)
Happy, Happy Birthday!
Hi Mel, Happy Birthday!!!
Stay Gorgeous!
Happy birthday!
Happy Birthday, Mel! Wishing you a year filled with the same joy you give to others.
Happy birthday!
Happy birthday to my dear, amazing, gorgeous, funny, talented, sweet friend. I can honestly say that my life is better because you are in it.
Happy 36th, Mel! Thanks for all you do for the IF community! =)
Happy Birthday, you spring chicken! I’m turning 40 this year. YACK. I turned 35 a couple of months before my twins were born, but 36 will always be the ‘year of the twins’ babyhood for me. It certainly is ‘double life’
Does this mean that you could be having another twin pregnancy in your future????
happy Birthday to my friend, my advisor, my “internet Hero”
DOUBLE LIFE indeed…and it does get better.
36 is only the beginning of your NEW INCREDIBLE JOURNEY. Mazel Tov! HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY BEAUTIFUL Girl!
Hope you have a great day! Happy Birthday!
Happy birthday!!!!
Happy Birthday!
Happy Birthday! I love the story about the numbers and double meanings. I am not Jewish and had no clue. It is always interesting to me to learn about other religions. Thanks for sharing.
Happy Birthday! And thanks for all the fish!
Happiest of birthdays, Mel! Wishing you a sweet year.
With 47 approaching in 3.5 weeks, 36 sounds pretty young to me.
Happy birthday, Mel! May your birthday candles shine as brightly as you do for the ALI community.
Yes, yes yes! In Chinese (and Japanese) tradition, the zodiac places importance on multiples of 12. You must be a Tiger (like I am since I too just turned 36 in April). According to many who believe in this tradition, 2010 promises to be a year with exciting professional and personal developments for Tigers! I found this to be incredibly comforting and quite exciting. It’s the dawn of a new day! Happy, happy birthday!
Happy Birthday!!
Happy Birthday !!
I’m turning 36 too, in August.
Another birthday is another opportunity to ask ourselves what we will do with our one wild and precious life. Best wishes to an amazing, accomplished woman!
Happy birthday! You are just spring chicken. Congrats on selling the book too. That post may have been written a long time ago, I just realized, but you recently linked to it . . . so a belated congrats, at least.
Happy birthday Mel!! I wish you all the best on your special day
Happy Birthday Mel! Ah to be 36 again!
Happy Birthday and happy double chai. I wish you a wonderful year.
Oooh, I get to be the 100th person to wish you happy birthday on your blog. Happy, happy birthday to a wonderful woman – you ARE the change you wish to see in the world – so glad I “met” you here in blogland!
Happy Birthday, it’s your birthday!
Hop around, skip around, jump around the table!
Fingers in the frosting, blow out the candles
Haaaaaaappy Biiiirthday!
Wish I could sing that to you – it’s a family favorite!
Happy (belated) Birthday!!!!
Happy Birthday to you!!!
Happy Birthday!!
May you have happiness and luck and health as your steady companions always!
Happy Belated Birthday!
Happy Birthday! Superlate…sorry…
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