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287th Friday Blog Roundup

You know when you haven’t exercised in a while and you return to running and you take a few gingerly-conducted jogs in place for a moment, wondering if you’ve still got it?  That’s sort of how I feel about writing the Roundup.  I mean, I wrote yesterday just as I write every day, but I also got my hair chopped off and I usually find that cutting off my hair affects my writing ability–not to be crazy or anything.

But it’s really short.

Like…football-helmet-made-out-of-hair short.

I did some deep breathing on the ride home, wondering why I didn’t give her more scientific instructions on how I wanted the cut to go.  My mother had suggested bringing pictures of hair I like, but that’s sort of the thing: there is no hair style I like that would also go with my hair type.

When I see people later in the day, I’ll ask them to take a picture.  It sort of looks like when-flappers-go-bad.

On the other hand, while I was a sniveling mess on the inside about her haircut, the ChickieNob mounted the salon chair and sat calmly for fifteen minutes, serenely smiling to herself while the stylist trimmed several inches off her hair.  She came out looking adorable and all of my fears were quelled when she returned to being her little spicy self, entertaining the other ladies at the salon with her sassiness.  She still has the personality of a southern-fried Sabra.


The Weekly What If: what if the greatest hair stylist in the world was willing to cut and style your hair for free for the rest of your life, but you’d have no say in what style she chose for you.  It would never be terrible since this person would be the stylist to the stars, but you’d have to roll with whatever style she thinks works best with your face and trends in the moment.  Would you do it?


The book finally has a name.  I mean, yes, it had a working title, but now it has a final title–one that is being slapped on the galleys.

Life from Scratch

So…an enormous thank you to everyone who helped name the book.  A specific thank you to A, who threw out “from scratch” and Lisa who suggested throwing the word “life” before that.  I love the new title.  It is cozy and stable and makes me smile.


And now, the blogs…

Creating Motherhood has a post about that desire to speed up time while simultaneously slowing it down.  It is about being in that uncomfortable panic where you have to sit with the fact that you can’t know the future.  And just trust.  It’s a moving post.

Infertile Follies has a post about a question a friend asked: “is it the lack of a baby, or the lack of control that makes infertility painful for you?”  It is about finding clarity and understanding how much infertility shakes her feeling of purpose.

Bottoms Off and On the Table has a post about rebuilding love.  She begins with the route she thought that renewal of love would take and then veers onto her own road, which she describes as “It didn’t come from a place of joy where love is easy. It came from a place of despair. We had a choice and we chose us.”  It is just a gorgeous post.

Lastly, Two Shorten the Road has an eerie post about a song.  The post gave me pause because I too have a song that keeps popping up in my life.  The title of the song is a family joke of something my grandfather once said to me, and the song has played continuously in moments connected to my grandparents, including the graveyard at my grandmother’s funeral.  I don’t mean that we played this song…but you’ll need to read her post in order to understand.

The roundup to the Roundup: We all survived the Big Cut of 2010.  Answer the Weekly What If.  There’s a title for the book!  And lots of great blogs to read.


1 Kristin { 05.07.10 at 8:33 am }

Love the book title!

I think I would accept the hairstylist opportunity.

2 Rebecca { 05.07.10 at 8:41 am }

The thing about hair, love, is that it grows.

And I’m betting you look adorable.

3 Steph { 05.07.10 at 8:45 am }

I would totally say YES to the hairstylist! I’d trust that they wouldn’t make me look horrible.

And the book title is fabulous!

4 a { 05.07.10 at 9:05 am }

I would absolutely take the haircuts. You mentioned the magic words…For FREE!

Can’t wait to read the book…

5 Heather { 05.07.10 at 9:13 am }

LOVE that title!! Congrats!

I would roll with the haircut if Tabatha Coffey would do my hair.

6 Michelle { 05.07.10 at 9:20 am }

I would not take the haircuts. I hate getting my haircut, I hate going to the salon. So free or not.. I’m not interested 🙂

7 Susy { 05.07.10 at 9:48 am }

Can’t wait to see your cut! I’m such a hair freak, though. So, yes, I’d definitely do the what if. I love re-inventing every couple of months. Woot woot!!! for a name! I’m loving it! And off to read Infertile Follies’s post. I have a feeling it’ll totally go with my “what if” coming to life this week, my post about it, and how it made me have to explain it b/c some think “the after” is rainbows and cookies for all of us. Have a great weekend!

8 PaleMother { 05.07.10 at 10:02 am }

The hair deal? My dream come true. In fact, that’s pretty much what I do now.

I pay more than I should for haircuts (and therefore go too long in between to spread out the ouch) because I have a stylist that I can trust (which is way too rare). She rescued me from a bad color job way back when. And she’s never done anything to me that I regretted cut-wise.

I’ve had long hair. I had pixie cuts for years. All I care about it that it’s flattering. And after years of haircuts, I know someone else is more qualified to figure out what ‘flattering’ looks like on me.

9 Kristi { 05.07.10 at 11:03 am }

I love the new book title I can’t wait to read it.

My current stylist is the best in the world I love her. So Yes I would let her do whatever she wanted.

10 FET Accompli { 05.07.10 at 11:47 am }

Congrats on the hair cuts (yours and your daughter’s!) I guess I would accept the hairstylist opportunity. I had long hair for years and years and would never let anyone cut my hair without showing me that they did not cut more than 1/2 inch. I was pretty obsessed. But since I’ve had to wear wigs and have experimented with different styles as my hair grew back (who’d of thunk I’d have a pixie cut?) I am way more open to different looks.

11 Geochick { 05.07.10 at 12:20 pm }

Can’t wait to see your cut! I would totally take the hair deal. I change my hair frequently anyway and spend way too much money doing it. 🙂

12 Genevieve { 05.07.10 at 1:45 pm }

I would TOTALLY love to have someone be my stylist. I like hair change….about the only change I DO like. Can’t wait to see pics of yours.

13 nic { 05.07.10 at 2:47 pm }

Love the book title!
I would accept the hair cut, I am always bored of my hair style being the same!

14 S { 05.07.10 at 2:59 pm }

I would never entrust decisions about my hairstyle to someone else, no matter how famous or skilled, especially if I didn’t know/him/her. For one thing, I am way too much of a control freak, and for another, I consider my hair one of my few really good features and would FLIP if anything ever happened that made it look some way I didn’t like.

Now if I could entrust my hair to my OWN hairstylist of 10 years, I would totally do that. . . . because though he would likely be more adventurous than I in picking styles (and change it up more frequently), I would trust him not to screw up my look. 😉

BTW, I also love your book title!

15 Billy { 05.07.10 at 3:08 pm }

Nice name 🙂

As I am really not a person of styles, I wouldn’t mind having my hair styled in whatever way the stylist decides suits me best, but only as long as I do not have to do anything special to maintain it (i.e – not put any creams or the likes. Just wash and brush it)

16 lis { 05.07.10 at 11:15 pm }

i have no clue what to do when it comes to my hair. i have been going to the same girl for 14 years and she does a beautiful job- i just tell her to do whatever she thinks will look nice and she does! i think that is the main part-finding someone who you trust won’t make you look like an ass. someone with style greater than your own (not hard for me, who is completely lacking not just in the hairstyle area)
it sounds like you don’t get your hair cut enough to have found that one special person you want to spend all your cuts with. i hope it happens for you soon 🙂

17 lis { 05.07.10 at 11:17 pm }

oh, p.s.
i also mention my complete aversion to styling my own hair and insist she cut it accordingly. so im lucky that i can pretty much get up and go.

18 S.I.F. { 05.08.10 at 2:49 am }

I would absolutely go with that deal! I used to have a stylist in San Diego who I let do that anyway. I never know what I want, so if I trust someone I’m willing to go with what they think is best! It takes the pressure off me!

19 Erika { 05.08.10 at 2:28 pm }

I would love the stylist opportunity! I dream about someone snatching me off the street and giving me a fabulous hair cut. Frankly I never care how my ends up as long as I look better! I’ve had a few REALLY bad cuts, but usually I love them!

20 mrs spock { 05.08.10 at 6:41 pm }

Yes, I would do it- as long as they styled my hair regularly too, since my skills are nil beyond pulling a brush through it.

21 nycphoenix { 05.08.10 at 9:52 pm }

the hair deal. that’s my deal now. One really fancy colorist is in love with my hair and if i keep it longish he’ll keep coloring and highlighting for free. I could never afford him. My stylist works in a salon i cant afford so he cuts my hair in his home for less money and i let him make the decision

22 Calliope { 05.08.10 at 10:19 pm }

loooooooooooooove the name. love it!

And free hair? Sign me up. The best haircuts I ever got were ones I scored for free during down time at my old job. I never had a say when a cut would be offered or what it would be. It was literally just a, “hey- I’m bored! Come sit in my chair.”

23 Valery Val { 05.09.10 at 12:33 pm }

For years and years and years I hoped my hair would grow really loooong. Dreamed of twirling it around, being able to sit on it, hiding in it.. But alas my hair doesn’t grow much past my shoulders. So donating 10 inches isn’t an option. If the hypothetical stylist would do extensions every now and then I would do it I think…

24 Kir { 05.10.10 at 10:25 am }

Of course, I always say if I won the lottery the first thing I’m getting is someone to wash/style my hair every day. Since I love it short..nothing really bothers me about hair, I actually feel MORE like myself in the days after a haircut, like I am MORE ME.
But yes, if they wanted to “Jessica Simpson” me up every day, have at it! 🙂

love the book title, my mom was asking what had been decided…even she wants to read it ! It’s the BEST title, I can’t wait for it.

hope you had a great weekend 🙂

25 Battynurse { 05.11.10 at 3:00 pm }

I think I’d take the hair stylist thing too as long as they weren’t going to do something that required me to spend an hour doing my hair every day. Like an hour with a round brush and flat iron. That’s not going to happen. I tend to be pretty calm about hair cuts etc though because I know that even if I don’t love it, it will grow back.

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