Comments on: Bloggers Unite: Project IF http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2010/04/bloggers-unite-project-if/ Wed, 08 Feb 2012 16:03:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Deirdre http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2010/04/bloggers-unite-project-if/comment-page-10/#comment-68542 Deirdre Mon, 11 Apr 2011 16:55:38 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/?p=4971#comment-68542 What if I was much closer to my dreams of having a baby that I realized? What if I knew how to use the Law of Attraction to have my baby? (That's how I ended up having my very healthy Law of Attraction Twins after 3 miscarriages.) What if I was much closer to my dreams of having a baby that I realized? What if I knew how to use the Law of Attraction to have my baby? (That’s how I ended up having my very healthy Law of Attraction Twins after 3 miscarriages.)

]]> By: maz http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2010/04/bloggers-unite-project-if/comment-page-10/#comment-68509 maz Sat, 09 Apr 2011 20:22:21 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/?p=4971#comment-68509 What IF my beautiful daughter never stops asking where the baby in my tummy is? What IF she still looks at me in years to come, and asks whether she will be a big sister soon? What IF I my pregnancy with my daughter was my only one? I don't remember enough of it! What IF my only experience of a newborn child in our home was blighted by PND? What IF I end up hating my friends and family that have bigger families than me? What IF this is how I feel forever? What IF my beautiful daughter never stops asking where the baby in my tummy is? What IF she still looks at me in years to come, and asks whether she will be a big sister soon?

What IF I my pregnancy with my daughter was my only one? I don’t remember enough of it! What IF my only experience of a newborn child in our home was blighted by PND?

What IF I end up hating my friends and family that have bigger families than me?

What IF this is how I feel forever?

]]> By: StephBucher http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2010/04/bloggers-unite-project-if/comment-page-10/#comment-66964 StephBucher Thu, 10 Feb 2011 18:36:31 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/?p=4971#comment-66964 What if I can never let go of the sadness? What if I can never be satisfied with the life I have? What if I'm always longing for more? What if my husband leaves me because I can't be happy with only him? What if I can never let go of the sadness? What if I can never be satisfied with the life I have? What if I’m always longing for more? What if my husband leaves me because I can’t be happy with only him?

]]> By: Erin http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2010/04/bloggers-unite-project-if/comment-page-10/#comment-64422 Erin Wed, 19 Jan 2011 20:28:08 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/?p=4971#comment-64422 What if we reach the end of this journey, childless, and resent one another for the outcome? What if I finally have the baby I've longed for and he/she doesn't love me as much as I love him/her? What if we reach the end of this journey, childless, and resent one another for the outcome?

What if I finally have the baby I’ve longed for and he/she doesn’t love me as much as I love him/her?

]]> By: Cara http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2010/04/bloggers-unite-project-if/comment-page-9/#comment-59972 Cara Wed, 21 Jul 2010 01:04:28 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/?p=4971#comment-59972 What if we have to sell our house? What if I have to go overseas because the treatments cost less? What if our families don't understand? What if we spend everything we have money, time, energy, love and we never get to hold a baby of our own? What if we have to sell our house?
What if I have to go overseas because the treatments cost less?
What if our families don’t understand?
What if we spend everything we have money, time, energy, love and we never get to hold a baby of our own?

]]> By: Penny http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2010/04/bloggers-unite-project-if/comment-page-9/#comment-59762 Penny Fri, 09 Jul 2010 05:08:08 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/?p=4971#comment-59762 What if I didn't resent all pregnant women and women with IF who already have a child? What if the only pregnancy I'll ever carry is to 19 weeks? What if I had been more grateful for that pregnancy and not worked 80 hours a week during it? What if I hadn't been so quick to believe the MDs about the problem with my baby and had not terminated the pregnancy? What if that baby is the only chance I will ever have to see our biological child? What if pursuing an MD and the demands of my training contributed to my baby's cardiac defects and now I'm IF because I waited too long to have kids? What if I never finish my medical training because I had to take a break to do IVFs and physicians don't understand needing to take time off for IUIs, retrievals, and transfers and that working 30-hours in a row is not good for making eggs, implanting embryos, or carrying a healthy baby to term. What if I had known the IUIs weren't going to work and went straight to IVF? Or to DE? or to adoption? What if I didn’t resent all pregnant women and women with IF who already have a child?

What if the only pregnancy I’ll ever carry is to 19 weeks? What if I had been more grateful for that pregnancy and not worked 80 hours a week during it?

What if I hadn’t been so quick to believe the MDs about the problem with my baby and had not terminated the pregnancy? What if that baby is the only chance I will ever have to see our biological child?

What if pursuing an MD and the demands of my training contributed to my baby’s cardiac defects and now I’m IF because I waited too long to have kids?

What if I never finish my medical training because I had to take a break to do IVFs and physicians don’t understand needing to take time off for IUIs, retrievals, and transfers and that working 30-hours in a row is not good for making eggs, implanting embryos, or carrying a healthy baby to term.

What if I had known the IUIs weren’t going to work and went straight to IVF? Or to DE? or to adoption?

]]> By: Molly http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2010/04/bloggers-unite-project-if/comment-page-9/#comment-59032 Molly Mon, 07 Jun 2010 05:46:20 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/?p=4971#comment-59032 What if I never talk to SIL again cause she had an abortion while I was undergoing my third IVF and told me "yeah you really wish it doesn't work again or you will end up like me" (she is not very fond of her kids, mildly said) What if I never talk to SIL again cause she had an abortion while I was undergoing my third IVF and told me “yeah you really wish it doesn’t work again or you will end up like me” (she is not very fond of her kids, mildly said)

]]> By: Emma http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2010/04/bloggers-unite-project-if/comment-page-9/#comment-59022 Emma Sat, 05 Jun 2010 13:14:19 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/?p=4971#comment-59022 What if our surrogate tries to keep our baby What if our surrogate tries to keep our baby

]]> By: katyc67 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2010/04/bloggers-unite-project-if/comment-page-9/#comment-58934 katyc67 Wed, 02 Jun 2010 17:00:27 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/?p=4971#comment-58934 What if I can't give my IVF/ICSI daughter a sibling? What if, because we are older parents, she ends up alone in the world and has no one to lean on? What if we are in nursing homes and she is left to deal with the emotional and financial burden? What if the clinic had not given us incorrect instructions for our October 2009 IVF , telling my husband who has severe male factor to ejaculate less than 48 hours before the egg retrieval (at which I got TEN mature eggs, which is amazing for me....and we got zero fertilization)? What if I can never forgive my husband for not being aware enough of his own condition to know that that was too close a time for him to ejaculate before giving his sample at the egg retrieval? What if this cyst that I now have never goes away and I lose my chance for the one last IVF/ICSI cycle that our clinic is "willing" to do with us? What if at 42.5 it is just too late? What if I never get over this and can't fully enjoy/give happiness to my daughter, who is the most beautiful miracle in our lives....what if I worry so much about her future that I can't enjoy the present? What if I can’t give my IVF/ICSI daughter a sibling?
What if, because we are older parents, she ends up alone in the world and has no one to lean on? What if we are in nursing homes and she is left to deal with the emotional and financial burden?
What if the clinic had not given us incorrect instructions for our October 2009 IVF , telling my husband who has severe male factor to ejaculate less than 48 hours before the egg retrieval (at which I got TEN mature eggs, which is amazing for me….and we got zero fertilization)?
What if I can never forgive my husband for not being aware enough of his own condition to know that that was too close a time for him to ejaculate before giving his sample at the egg retrieval?
What if this cyst that I now have never goes away and I lose my chance for the one last IVF/ICSI cycle that our clinic is “willing” to do with us?
What if at 42.5 it is just too late?
What if I never get over this and can’t fully enjoy/give happiness to my daughter, who is the most beautiful miracle in our lives….what if I worry so much about her future that I can’t enjoy the present?

]]> By: If wishes came true http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2010/04/bloggers-unite-project-if/comment-page-9/#comment-58784 If wishes came true Fri, 28 May 2010 17:24:25 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/?p=4971#comment-58784 What if I never achieve the dream of being a mom? What if I can never look at another baby without crying a little inside? What if I never achieve the dream of being a mom?

What if I can never look at another baby without crying a little inside?

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