Comments on: Dump

By: Paz

Paz — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 08:53:09 +0000

Some of the neighborhoods in The Land of IF suck mightily, maybebaby is a seedy place that draws you in with its sparkle, because some people escape with the ultimate prize . And the hope of it, it’s addicting. And it is one of the most beautiful places ever.

I gave away a lot of baby things last year. Except, this one pile. And there are a few other things. Oh, and another little cubby with a few things. One striped, knitted jumper, in particular, does me in every time I see a flash of its heathered-blue-and-redness: makes me remember my hard-to-get baby and the three year old he has become, and the fact that there won’t be anymore babies for me. And yet, I keep those stashes.

I wish I could make it all better for you Mel. hugs.

By: jodifur

jodifur — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 23:32:49 +0000

It’s so easy for me to say it is just stuff and stuff can be replaced, but I know it is more than that, it is giving away, what if? But what if is sometimes not as good as now.
You will be ok, and Disney will be amazing.

By: TeamWinks

TeamWinks — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:12:42 +0000

*sigh* One would assume that the cleaning out would be a easy task, but life is not that simple. You sound like you handled it the best you could.

By: LJ

LJ — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:05:10 +0000

Beautiful, albeit difficult, post. I know your heart is breaking, but this is the best decision for you for right now. If down the road, you decide to welcome another child into your home, we’ll all throw you a bash to build your house back up with clutter

By: Bleu

Bleu — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 00:34:28 +0000

Oh how I cannot imagine. I save everything too and just recently found out car seats expire so got a new one but other stuff?? I say to myself I will make something out of it in the future.
I have finally let go of old broken things…lol.

I love you my strawberry friend. Big hug coming your way.

By: Photogrl

Photogrl — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 22:18:21 +0000

I was right where you are 2 years ago.

It was so, so, so hard. But it needed to be done.

((HUGS))

By: Sunny

Sunny — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 21:24:49 +0000

Letting go of the physical is often so much more about the emotional. You are wise and strong to move forward with this purge. The baby stuff can be replaced if needed, and I hope there was some healing in the process.

By: B

Tue, 09 Mar 2010 21:05:20 +0000

Sigh.

Looking at that which hurts to look at. Accounting for it as part of your present reality……… I’m sorry there isn’t another little one here for you Mel. You are clearly an inspirational mother.

I hope you find the right place to put all that energy, creativity and love.

Love B

By: Kir

Kir — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 20:41:39 +0000

wow, I am just literally sitting here trying to hide the tears. This post was so emotional and filled with so many moments where I just wanted to grab you through the computer and sit here and cry with you.
I often think about baby #3 and I’m not sure why. I know that I was ok with just the boys and yet lately, I’m missing that other baby, that other life. Even in the midst of my crazy , too filled one right now.
Sometimes just cleaning up, reorganizing and rearranging is good for the soul…it’s not a goodbye..it’s just a goodbye..for ..now.

hugs

By: JJ

JJ — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 18:58:57 +0000

Im sending you big hugs, Mel. This post really touched heart strings–I hope that the “dumping” of things is as easy on you as possible–I know that I had the overwhelming urge to get rid of all things baby the other day when I got a bad report at the dermatologist.
Lots of love to you