Comments on: Rock Star Embryologists, Alexander Technique, and Visiting the Past

By: Baby Smiling In Back Seat

Baby Smiling In Back Seat — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 15:55:07 +0000

I was actually thinking about that yesterday since I was in the neighborhood. I wouldn’t mind seeing one nurse (the one that actually performed the successful IUI, and who was so excited when it worked) and the ultrasound tech, but everyone else I don’t care if I ever see again. I’m supposed to send them pictures of the babies. It’s on the list, along with a hundred other things.

By: Bea

Bea — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:26:51 +0000

I would like to go back one day. I think just so I can remember how much better life is that I don’t have to go there. But probably I will end up going to try an FET, so I will have to be there, so it won’t be the same.

Bea

By: But a Moment

But a Moment — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 22:00:54 +0000

I, too, feel like it would be a punch in the gut to someone waiting in the waiting room. I remember how those “success” visits felt when it was me in the lobby chair on the verge of tears. I couldn’t do that to someone else.

But the clinic does have some of my frozen embryos and if a second child is in our future, I will again be sitting in those lobby chairs. . .

By: calliope

calliope — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:00:00 +0000

wow. that is an intense dream.
I am not done with the clinic where my embryos are at boarding school. But I don’t really have many warm fuzzies with the place. I mostly associate it with the Hep C/donor egg saga and that makes me sad because then it makes me think of the liver doctor I saw that then treated my Grandmother and that makes me miss my Grandmother. It’s all connected. I do, however, keep in touch with one nurse from the Alabama clinic where I had 13 IUI’s. This was a nurse that was so supportive and lovely and had an awesome habit of slipping me drug samples into my purse. I e-mailed her updates throughout my pregnancy and when W was born she sent the sweetest card. I try to only think of this nurse and not the dozens that were involved with my journey that treated me horribly because I am single.

By: Jen

Jen — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 06:53:50 +0000

We went back after we had our son, to take them a picture to put up on their wall of success. It was a family Christmas picture we had done right after Jack was born. It was good to see them and give them hugs. Our RE was so not Mr. Personality, nor was he warm and fuzzy, but despite that, he will always hold a special place in our hearts. That said, after this last IVF cycle which was an utter flop, I’ve still not scheduled a follow-up appointment, and that upset was March 5th. So, guess I’m not in any hurry there am I?

By: nycphoenix

nycphoenix — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 04:03:43 +0000

I have no bitterness to my clinic but I don’t see myself going back there. I don’t see the point to it. Its not their fault I have POF

By: Tara

Tara — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 03:38:26 +0000

I am done with my RE clinic and I would love to go back and chatty chat with my RE and the couple of nurses that worked there that I liked that helped make my miracle happen. I’d love to show her to them and tell them how special she is and thank them…. except it would never be like that. Everything has changed since we were there for our last cycle, including the staff. And I just don’t think they’d care as much as I do. They’re making money and doing their job. I’d like to think we had a special “connection” but that was probably just me trying to romanticize a shitty situation. Also – I wouldn’t feel good about walking through the doors with my daughter for fear of further hurting the hearts of the infertiles who are there undergoing treatment.

Soooo… in summary, in my fantasy world I would totally love to go back and visit and let them all dote over Ruby and feel proud of the beautiful angel that they helped create, but in reality… never gonna happen.

By: Jamie

Jamie — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 03:18:52 +0000

I only saw an actual RE briefly. I started out with my OB, had a m/c, went back to OB, got sent to RE, had a m/c then went back to OB and got pregnant before I went back to RE.

Okay, I know that wasn’t exactly what you asked but I do feel like I really bonded with my OB. When I was cycling, I would go in once a month for an u/s and she did both of my D&Cs. After all my OB visits, I had my six week follow and as I was leaving I couldn’t believe I didn’t have an appt to come back. Before she left the exam room I wanted to fling myself at her feet and shout, “Let’s hang out! I know we can be friends!”

By: wifey

wifey — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 03:02:48 +0000

I don’t think I’ll ever leave my clinic. My RE sees women for yearly exams and PAPs, and I’d so rather go sit in a waiting room filled with my fellow fertility challenged ladies than I would in a regular OB/GYN office. I’ll be going to my fertility doc until I’m 70.
(My feelings might change if/when we do IVF, because I’m sure the emotional investment is huge, and I might freak the fuck out after a failed IVF).

By: jaymee

jaymee — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 00:18:29 +0000

i have been back to one of our clinics. i loved that re, and when i was in need of one for metabolic problems he is the one i ran to. it was a horrifyingly traumatic experience. he was against me having an ablation, so when i showed back up post-surgery he was irate. the last time that someone talked to me like that was when i was a small child. there was also the fact that i was taken down the hall full of baby pictures. when we were trying to conceive i was always asked if i wanted to go down that hall and this time no one thought that it may be a painful thing. after that visit i sat and cried in my car for almost an hour. i made the best choice i could for myself and just because it was not what he would have advised i was treated so very badly.