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The first full week of January has traditionally been International Delurking Week and since I usually forget until sometime towards the end of the month and then curse myself and try to catch up and have no one delurk because delurking was sooooooo two weeks ago, I am quite pleased with myself for remembering early.

So happy International Blog Delurking Week and in honour of this worldwide holiday, please delurk because there is a huge discrepancy between the number of readers in actuality and the number of readers I actually know are reading.  Or a tongue-twister like that.

It is fairly easy.  Leave a comment in the comment section below admitting that you’re here.  You can simply raise your hand and meekly admit that you’re here with a simple, one-word “here” comment; or you can proudly raise your hand and tell us all a bit about yourself (my preferred method); or you can tell me what sort of ice cream flavour you’d be if you were a lump of ice cream (see, I’m trying to make it easy for you by even providing a comment prompt).  The point is that I want to know about the people who read me.

And not to make y’all feel guilty, but I’m trucking through writing 200+ Creme de la Creme blurbs so you certainly know that I have been on your blog.  Now it’s your turn to tell me that you’ve been on mine.

Did the guilt trip work?


1 cubby { 01.04.10 at 10:10 am }

Hi, Melissa. I am an avid blog follower who comments occasionally. I read numerous blogs on a daily basis with my favorites being Sprogblogger’s Weblog, God’s Faithfulness Through Infertility, 999 Reasons To Laugh At Infertility, Waiting For Mavis, Chasing A Child, and of course Stirrup Queens. You have also been kind enough to respond to a comment I left a the Lushary as well as to a request for information regarding parents of children through DI.
I am a married gay mom with 6 children ranging in age from 30-11 months. I have serious blog envy…but with many excuses not to commit at the moment. Thanks for letting me come out all over again 🙂

2 christina { 01.04.10 at 10:18 am }

HERE! Comment here and there, but I am definitely a bad blogger. I am coming off of my first m/c after 3+ years of TTC. Thanks for including me in the LFCA, the support meant a lot.

As for ice cream, right now I would be the fattiest, most calorie-filled kind you can imagine. Thus, my detox and PCOS diet start again TOday! Thanks for all you do.

3 Lindsay (LTF525) { 01.04.10 at 10:22 am }

I’m here. New to the stirrup community but an avid blog reader. I’ve enjoyed scrolling through the blogs in your blog roll.

4 Jendeis { 01.04.10 at 10:30 am }

I’m here! Inspired by you (my John Lennon), I ordered the Wii and Wii Fit Plus last night. Can’t wait till it gets here!

5 WiseGuy { 01.04.10 at 10:31 am }

…I do come around often…I just don’t leave words here that often though… *oops*

6 Lisa { 01.04.10 at 10:46 am }

I’m here! I read you almost every day from work and home. No blog of my own. 5 years medicated TTC, multiple IVFs- no baby.
I love Stirrup Queens and have recommended it to other IF friends. I also have followed other blogs through yours and have found a lot of information here. Thank you for the untiring and selfless energy that you have put out into the IF world.

7 Megan { 01.04.10 at 10:48 am }

Lately I would have to say that I am a lump of melty spumoni because it looks a little puke-ish, as do I.

8 Circus Princess { 01.04.10 at 10:50 am }

I’m here, and if I were an ice cream flavor I’d be superman on the surface, rainbow colored and fun, but rum raisin on the inside, yellow, yummy and with a twist.
Love what you do, so keep on doing it 🙂

9 Pie { 01.04.10 at 10:52 am }

Hi Mel! I’m here too! While I’m not always here, I do try to check in with you a few times each week!

And I would be a Caramel Fudge Crunch swirl – a little bit of everything, and some nuts too.

10 Stimey { 01.04.10 at 10:56 am }

In an effort to suddenly be everywhere in your life, I’ll be here too.

11 Michelle { 01.04.10 at 11:01 am }

Here! Reader for just over 6 months now. Your link is on my blog and I own your book. Love everything you do for us!!
When are you coming back to NJ for the book signing that Swine Flu ruined?

12 Blanche { 01.04.10 at 11:02 am }

::waves enthusiastically:: “Hi Mel!” I was the lucky recipient of a Wii and Wii Fit Plus for Christmas, so now I’m just waiting for the nausea/tired to pass so I can enjoy in moderation.

13 Erica (Rebel) { 01.04.10 at 11:05 am }

Well I have been here since the begining Mel!! I did something funny today before I even read this post… I delurked on my own Blog!! I was terrified to hit publish, but I did it, and now I feel so much better!! Oh and if I was Ice Cream, I would be a Startbucks White Chocolate Mocha!!!

Erica (Rebel)

14 Betty M { 01.04.10 at 11:06 am }

Hi – read everything here and comment occasionally too so this is a semi delurk I think.

15 Clio { 01.04.10 at 11:14 am }

Hi Mel!!
I haven’t been very active these past few months in the community, but have lurked once in a while, so this is a great opportunity for me to come out! – of lurkdom, I mean 😉
happy new year!

16 Sarah { 01.04.10 at 11:14 am }

Hi Mel –

I read every single post, but only comment occasionally. Happy New Year!

17 Rebecca { 01.04.10 at 11:17 am }

I always read but I rarely comment.

I would be coffee ice cream.

18 Kitty { 01.04.10 at 11:20 am }

Here! This year I’m a 2 year veteran of TTC with nary a BFP to show for it, so far unexplained except for some mild endo. I also got a Wii and Wii Fit over the weekend and am so super freakin’ excited to use it!

Oh, and if I were an ice cream flavor I’d be peppermint with oreos and marshmallows. Mmm…

Happy New Year and IBDW!!

19 Rachel { 01.04.10 at 11:21 am }

I read, but don’t comment often. Still feeling new to this whole thing in blogland!

20 loribeth { 01.04.10 at 11:26 am }

I’m here (but then, I usually am). ; ) Nice to see so many delurkers!

21 HereWeGoAJen { 01.04.10 at 11:26 am }

Peppermint ice cream. Because it is the only ice cream worth eating by itself.

But I am always here, so you already know me. Right? RIGHT? 🙂

22 Battynurse { 01.04.10 at 11:38 am }

I’m here. Still, always, and all that stuff.

23 Lea { 01.04.10 at 11:43 am }

I’m here. 🙂 This may be my first time commenting! Just wanted to be counted…and say thanks.

24 Meredith { 01.04.10 at 11:47 am }

I love your blog and LFCA!! I truly appreciate your idea that comments are the new hug. This analogy has inspired me to comment on each post that one of my friends writes from Afghanistan, where he’s deployed. We’ve grown closer as a result. Thank you so much Mel! I’ll comment more here in 2010…I love your analogies in general because they rock.

I would be chocolate chocolate cookie dough ice cream. =)

25 liljan98 { 01.04.10 at 11:48 am }

*rasing my hand and saying “Here!”* I’m single, no kids and am not really planning on ever having kids, which probably makes me the one in a million among your readers here and I guess that’s also the reason I seldom (or never until now?) leave a comment.
But I really like your attitude towards life in general and a lot of other things in particular and enjoy reading what you have to say, even if I can’t relate to everything you write about.

26 Christina { 01.04.10 at 11:50 am }

I’m here! I went through 18 months of TTC and now have a beautiful 2 month old daughter!

27 babyattheend { 01.04.10 at 12:06 pm }

Hi, Mel! I’d be neopolitan ice cream, and the strawberry portion would have large chunks of real strawberries in it. Hope you don’t mind if I steal this ice cream idea in attempts to get my readers to delurk!

28 Annacyclopedia { 01.04.10 at 12:09 pm }

Hi Mel – I’m always reading even though I’m commenting here even less than usual. One of my hopes for this year is to be a bit more regular in my commenting – we will see how it goes! If I was an ice cream flavour, I’d be maple walnut. Is that a universal flavour or just a weird Canadian thing?

29 Rachel { 01.04.10 at 12:16 pm }

I don’t comment as much as I used to, but I’m still reading.

30 Searching for Serenity { 01.04.10 at 12:18 pm }

Still here, can’t tear myself away. (Not that I want to, I’m just saying that I’m a Stirrup Queens junkie.)

In a nutshell, blogging (or lack there of) for a year and half. Mother of a 6 month old boy after 2 years TTC.

So grateful I found you and LFCA. The people I’ve connected with through you have changed my life.

31 May { 01.04.10 at 12:21 pm }

Hi Mel!

Always reading, rarely commenting. PCOS, 4 pregnancies, 2 early losses, one stint of preterm labor with three months in the hospital (now my 4-year-old daughter) and one placenta previa pregnancy that morphed into an amniotic fluid embolus at delivery, resulting in complete kidney failure for me (now resolved) and my not-quite-2 year old son.

I love LFCA as it makes it very easy for me to find other women on bedrest and try to support them through their pregnancies.

You rock, by the way. Kumbayah, baby.

32 Lin { 01.04.10 at 12:28 pm }

The guilt trip definitely worked! I’m HERE! 🙂 A bit about me…currently expecting our first child after battling MFI. We got our BFP the week we were going in to sign our consent forms for IVF. We saw a beautiful, healthy heartbeat last week and go back for one last appointment at the RE next week! Still awed and humbled at this miracle!

My favorite ice cream flavor? I had Dreyer’s Drumstick ice cream flavor for the first time last week. YUM! A perfect balance of sweet and salty!

Love all you do!

33 Tracy { 01.04.10 at 12:28 pm }

::raises hand::

Hi Mel! I read all your posts but rarely comment. Thanks for all that you do, I have learned so much from you!

As for the ice cream, I’d be rocky road. 🙂

34 KLTTX { 01.04.10 at 12:40 pm }

Avid reader and occassional commenter. Mom to two boys – one via birth and one via adoption. Will be gearing up for a new adoption in the new year.

35 Hevel { 01.04.10 at 12:41 pm }


Hevel here! I love this post, especially because some blog friends and I declared January the Virtual Tea Party and Commenting month!

We, a same sex couple and the mother of my sons are in the middle of two international adoptions and an adoption from disruption after 2 years of trying to get pregnant (same mom as my twin boys).

36 Melissa G. { 01.04.10 at 12:46 pm }

Well played Goldstein, well played.

ALRIGHT, guilty as charged. We’re currently at the beginning of a TTC break. We did six straight months of IUI’s and are now financially and emotionally wiped out.

My next plan of action is to get back to things I enoyed in my life before trying to make a baby took over. I think I’ve really lost touch on a lot of things, so it’s time to focus on me and my marriage. Which means I may not be posting or commenting as much. The last year was spent significantly consumed by blogging, so now I need to find a healthy balance. Hope you all can forgive me.

And if I hadn’t just started Weight Watchers, I’d be down for some Ben & Jerry’s Phish Food.

Thanks for everything Lollipop!

37 Krystal { 01.04.10 at 12:50 pm }

I’m here! I read always, but rarely comment. I’m dumb like that, sorry.

38 Nicole { 01.04.10 at 12:55 pm }

Present! I read nearly every day–yours and many others–but I am very guilty of not always making my presence known. I’m an IF vet, with years under my belt trying to have a munchkin. Now we are waiting to become parents via domestic infant adoption with a private agency. I am grateful beyond words for what you do here and around the ALI community, even if I don’t always delurk to say so. Maybe I will work on that for 2010?

39 Lucy { 01.04.10 at 12:58 pm }

I’m here. 🙂

40 Quiet Dreams { 01.04.10 at 1:01 pm }

I read always, comment sometimes. Delurking and happy new year’ing to all!

41 ks { 01.04.10 at 1:09 pm }

I lurk and comment once in awhile. I am 4 years into ttc. It’s been a wild rollercoater with an unexpected dx, but with a hopeful heart..we will prevail.
Thanks to IF and treatments…my ice cream choice is Chunky Monkey! I think no explanation is required!

42 Flying Monkeys { 01.04.10 at 1:13 pm }

Still here though I don’t comment because I’m a notorious deleter and I can’t find the delete option for comments on your new blog. I often feel like a giant exposed dork after I comment, over think it and come back and delete. I do it on Facebook too. It’s annoying.
My blog has little to do with TTC and IF other than I lived it and I occasionally want to jump back on the ride. I discovered blogging and the blog world after I decided to leave the platform so I question my place in the sphere. I mostly blog about how I over think everything, trying to deal with therapy, the kids and the hubby, I try to add a weekly recipe and I’m probably one of those “share too much” bloggers you speak of.
Happy New Year!

43 Eve { 01.04.10 at 1:19 pm }

I’m here too! I try to comment each time I read, but I’ve been extremely unreliable in the blogosphere as of late. I’m an ‘IF veteran’ as well, currently in a high-risk pregnacy with IVF twins. I’ve been back and forth to L&D a lot lately, so I’ve been tending to do more reading then writing these days!

Happy New Year!!!!

44 jenn { 01.04.10 at 1:23 pm }

Hi! I’m a usual reader, but sporadic commenter… Parenting my wonderfully precocious pumpkin after 20 ttc cycles & a hail mary miracle iui.
If I were an ice cream flavor I would be black raspberry, not the most popular, but sweet, dreamy & a great bright cheerful pink!
Happy new year!

45 Myndi { 01.04.10 at 1:29 pm }

Hi, Mel! You are in my reader, so I read everything you post. I’ve been blogging and reading blogs since around May of 2009, but have curbed commenting since my m/c 2 weeks ago. I appreciate the shout out on LFCA…it has brought in loads of additional support that I was never expecting, and definitely has helped a great deal. Thanks for all you do!

46 calliope { 01.04.10 at 1:48 pm }

sorry. raising hand. I’m here!

47 TheMrs { 01.04.10 at 1:50 pm }

Guilt trip worked! I always read & rarely comment. I will try to better this year.

48 coffeegrl { 01.04.10 at 1:52 pm }

I’m still here! I try really hard not to read so many blogs that I can’t comment on them all but sometimes it happens. I also have a tendency to compose emails and comments in my head (after a great deal of thought and consideration) and then NEVER send them. Doh.

49 Io { 01.04.10 at 1:54 pm }

I’m here though I am embarrassed to admit it because then you know that I have been reading but not commenting or blogging for a few months.

50 Heather { 01.04.10 at 2:01 pm }

I’m not really a lurker, but I’m here! I’m Heather: (domestic, open) adoption blogger and LFCA clicker.

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