Delurkify
The first full week of January has traditionally been International Delurking Week and since I usually forget until sometime towards the end of the month and then curse myself and try to catch up and have no one delurk because delurking was sooooooo two weeks ago, I am quite pleased with myself for remembering early.
So happy International Blog Delurking Week and in honour of this worldwide holiday, please delurk because there is a huge discrepancy between the number of readers in actuality and the number of readers I actually know are reading. Or a tongue-twister like that.
It is fairly easy. Leave a comment in the comment section below admitting that you’re here. You can simply raise your hand and meekly admit that you’re here with a simple, one-word “here” comment; or you can proudly raise your hand and tell us all a bit about yourself (my preferred method); or you can tell me what sort of ice cream flavour you’d be if you were a lump of ice cream (see, I’m trying to make it easy for you by even providing a comment prompt). The point is that I want to know about the people who read me.
And not to make y’all feel guilty, but I’m trucking through writing 200+ Creme de la Creme blurbs so you certainly know that I have been on your blog. Now it’s your turn to tell me that you’ve been on mine.
Did the guilt trip work?
157 comments
Hi, Melissa. I am an avid blog follower who comments occasionally. I read numerous blogs on a daily basis with my favorites being Sprogblogger’s Weblog, God’s Faithfulness Through Infertility, 999 Reasons To Laugh At Infertility, Waiting For Mavis, Chasing A Child, and of course Stirrup Queens. You have also been kind enough to respond to a comment I left a the Lushary as well as to a request for information regarding parents of children through DI.
I am a married gay mom with 6 children ranging in age from 30-11 months. I have serious blog envy…but with many excuses not to commit at the moment. Thanks for letting me come out all over again
HERE! Comment here and there, but I am definitely a bad blogger. I am coming off of my first m/c after 3+ years of TTC. Thanks for including me in the LFCA, the support meant a lot.
As for ice cream, right now I would be the fattiest, most calorie-filled kind you can imagine. Thus, my detox and PCOS diet start again TOday! Thanks for all you do.
::WAVES::
I’m here. New to the stirrup community but an avid blog reader. I’ve enjoyed scrolling through the blogs in your blog roll.
I’m here! Inspired by you (my John Lennon), I ordered the Wii and Wii Fit Plus last night. Can’t wait till it gets here!
…I do come around often…I just don’t leave words here that often though… *oops*
I’m here! I read you almost every day from work and home. No blog of my own. 5 years medicated TTC, multiple IVFs- no baby.
I love Stirrup Queens and have recommended it to other IF friends. I also have followed other blogs through yours and have found a lot of information here. Thank you for the untiring and selfless energy that you have put out into the IF world.
Lately I would have to say that I am a lump of melty spumoni because it looks a little puke-ish, as do I.
I’m here, and if I were an ice cream flavor I’d be superman on the surface, rainbow colored and fun, but rum raisin on the inside, yellow, yummy and with a twist.
Love what you do, so keep on doing it
Hi Mel! I’m here too! While I’m not always here, I do try to check in with you a few times each week!
And I would be a Caramel Fudge Crunch swirl – a little bit of everything, and some nuts too.
In an effort to suddenly be everywhere in your life, I’ll be here too.
Here! Reader for just over 6 months now. Your link is on my blog and I own your book. Love everything you do for us!!
When are you coming back to NJ for the book signing that Swine Flu ruined?
::waves enthusiastically:: “Hi Mel!” I was the lucky recipient of a Wii and Wii Fit Plus for Christmas, so now I’m just waiting for the nausea/tired to pass so I can enjoy in moderation.
Well I have been here since the begining Mel!! I did something funny today before I even read this post… I delurked on my own Blog!! I was terrified to hit publish, but I did it, and now I feel so much better!! Oh and if I was Ice Cream, I would be a Startbucks White Chocolate Mocha!!!
Hugs,
Erica (Rebel)
Hi – read everything here and comment occasionally too so this is a semi delurk I think.
Hi Mel!!
I haven’t been very active these past few months in the community, but have lurked once in a while, so this is a great opportunity for me to come out! – of lurkdom, I mean
happy new year!
Hi Mel –
I read every single post, but only comment occasionally. Happy New Year!
I always read but I rarely comment.
I would be coffee ice cream.
Here! This year I’m a 2 year veteran of TTC with nary a BFP to show for it, so far unexplained except for some mild endo. I also got a Wii and Wii Fit over the weekend and am so super freakin’ excited to use it!
Oh, and if I were an ice cream flavor I’d be peppermint with oreos and marshmallows. Mmm…
Happy New Year and IBDW!!
I read, but don’t comment often. Still feeling new to this whole thing in blogland!
I’m here (but then, I usually am). ; ) Nice to see so many delurkers!
Peppermint ice cream. Because it is the only ice cream worth eating by itself.
But I am always here, so you already know me. Right? RIGHT?
I’m here. Still, always, and all that stuff.
I’m here.
This may be my first time commenting! Just wanted to be counted…and say thanks.
I love your blog and LFCA!! I truly appreciate your idea that comments are the new hug. This analogy has inspired me to comment on each post that one of my friends writes from Afghanistan, where he’s deployed. We’ve grown closer as a result. Thank you so much Mel! I’ll comment more here in 2010…I love your analogies in general because they rock.
I would be chocolate chocolate cookie dough ice cream. =)
*rasing my hand and saying “Here!”* I’m single, no kids and am not really planning on ever having kids, which probably makes me the one in a million among your readers here and I guess that’s also the reason I seldom (or never until now?) leave a comment.
But I really like your attitude towards life in general and a lot of other things in particular and enjoy reading what you have to say, even if I can’t relate to everything you write about.
I’m here! I went through 18 months of TTC and now have a beautiful 2 month old daughter!
Hi, Mel! I’d be neopolitan ice cream, and the strawberry portion would have large chunks of real strawberries in it. Hope you don’t mind if I steal this ice cream idea in attempts to get my readers to delurk!
Hi Mel – I’m always reading even though I’m commenting here even less than usual. One of my hopes for this year is to be a bit more regular in my commenting – we will see how it goes! If I was an ice cream flavour, I’d be maple walnut. Is that a universal flavour or just a weird Canadian thing?
I don’t comment as much as I used to, but I’m still reading.
Still here, can’t tear myself away. (Not that I want to, I’m just saying that I’m a Stirrup Queens junkie.)
In a nutshell, blogging (or lack there of) for a year and half. Mother of a 6 month old boy after 2 years TTC.
So grateful I found you and LFCA. The people I’ve connected with through you have changed my life.
Hi Mel!
Always reading, rarely commenting. PCOS, 4 pregnancies, 2 early losses, one stint of preterm labor with three months in the hospital (now my 4-year-old daughter) and one placenta previa pregnancy that morphed into an amniotic fluid embolus at delivery, resulting in complete kidney failure for me (now resolved) and my not-quite-2 year old son.
I love LFCA as it makes it very easy for me to find other women on bedrest and try to support them through their pregnancies.
You rock, by the way. Kumbayah, baby.
The guilt trip definitely worked! I’m HERE!
A bit about me…currently expecting our first child after battling MFI. We got our BFP the week we were going in to sign our consent forms for IVF. We saw a beautiful, healthy heartbeat last week and go back for one last appointment at the RE next week! Still awed and humbled at this miracle!
My favorite ice cream flavor? I had Dreyer’s Drumstick ice cream flavor for the first time last week. YUM! A perfect balance of sweet and salty!
Love all you do!
::raises hand::
Hi Mel! I read all your posts but rarely comment. Thanks for all that you do, I have learned so much from you!
As for the ice cream, I’d be rocky road.
Avid reader and occassional commenter. Mom to two boys – one via birth and one via adoption. Will be gearing up for a new adoption in the new year.
Hi!
Hevel here! I love this post, especially because some blog friends and I declared January the Virtual Tea Party and Commenting month!
We, a same sex couple and the mother of my sons are in the middle of two international adoptions and an adoption from disruption after 2 years of trying to get pregnant (same mom as my twin boys).
Well played Goldstein, well played.
ALRIGHT, guilty as charged. We’re currently at the beginning of a TTC break. We did six straight months of IUI’s and are now financially and emotionally wiped out.
My next plan of action is to get back to things I enoyed in my life before trying to make a baby took over. I think I’ve really lost touch on a lot of things, so it’s time to focus on me and my marriage. Which means I may not be posting or commenting as much. The last year was spent significantly consumed by blogging, so now I need to find a healthy balance. Hope you all can forgive me.
And if I hadn’t just started Weight Watchers, I’d be down for some Ben & Jerry’s Phish Food.
Thanks for everything Lollipop!
I’m here! I read always, but rarely comment. I’m dumb like that, sorry.
Present! I read nearly every day–yours and many others–but I am very guilty of not always making my presence known. I’m an IF vet, with years under my belt trying to have a munchkin. Now we are waiting to become parents via domestic infant adoption with a private agency. I am grateful beyond words for what you do here and around the ALI community, even if I don’t always delurk to say so. Maybe I will work on that for 2010?
I’m here.
I read always, comment sometimes. Delurking and happy new year’ing to all!
Here!
I lurk and comment once in awhile. I am 4 years into ttc. It’s been a wild rollercoater with an unexpected dx, but with a hopeful heart..we will prevail.
Thanks to IF and treatments…my ice cream choice is Chunky Monkey! I think no explanation is required!
Still here though I don’t comment because I’m a notorious deleter and I can’t find the delete option for comments on your new blog. I often feel like a giant exposed dork after I comment, over think it and come back and delete. I do it on Facebook too. It’s annoying.
My blog has little to do with TTC and IF other than I lived it and I occasionally want to jump back on the ride. I discovered blogging and the blog world after I decided to leave the platform so I question my place in the sphere. I mostly blog about how I over think everything, trying to deal with therapy, the kids and the hubby, I try to add a weekly recipe and I’m probably one of those “share too much” bloggers you speak of.
Happy New Year!
I’m here too! I try to comment each time I read, but I’ve been extremely unreliable in the blogosphere as of late. I’m an ‘IF veteran’ as well, currently in a high-risk pregnacy with IVF twins. I’ve been back and forth to L&D a lot lately, so I’ve been tending to do more reading then writing these days!
Happy New Year!!!!
Hi! I’m a usual reader, but sporadic commenter… Parenting my wonderfully precocious pumpkin after 20 ttc cycles & a hail mary miracle iui.
If I were an ice cream flavor I would be black raspberry, not the most popular, but sweet, dreamy & a great bright cheerful pink!
Happy new year!
Hi, Mel! You are in my reader, so I read everything you post. I’ve been blogging and reading blogs since around May of 2009, but have curbed commenting since my m/c 2 weeks ago. I appreciate the shout out on LFCA…it has brought in loads of additional support that I was never expecting, and definitely has helped a great deal. Thanks for all you do!
wooooo!
sorry. raising hand. I’m here!
Guilt trip worked! I always read & rarely comment. I will try to better this year.
I’m still here! I try really hard not to read so many blogs that I can’t comment on them all but sometimes it happens. I also have a tendency to compose emails and comments in my head (after a great deal of thought and consideration) and then NEVER send them. Doh.
I’m here though I am embarrassed to admit it because then you know that I have been reading but not commenting or blogging for a few months.
I’m not really a lurker, but I’m here! I’m Heather: (domestic, open) adoption blogger and LFCA clicker.
Hi! I stop by every week or so and I’m not sure I’ve ever commented. We’ve been TTC for 2 years and the only known issue so far is DH’s not-so-great-but-not-so-horrible SA. I don’t talk about IF on my blog, with the exception of the most recent post where I sorta came out of the closet.
I would be rainbow sherbet, a whole mix of colorful emotions.
Delurking. I don’t comment much, but I’ve been a reader of your blog since 2007. I dealt with IF for 3 years before having my twin daughters (5th IUI) in 2008.
Thanks for all you do! You were the first commenter on my blog back in 2007.
Ice cream flavor….chocolate chip cookie dough. Just because it’s my favorite.
across the ocean, hiding in a small country. After two years of waiting, 1 year TTC, 1,5 year of hospital visits I’m dreading my next appointment. Afraid they will tell me there really really is nothing they can or will do for me: No Eggs = End of Story. That I should just go to counseling to get over it.
started my attempt at blogging in November 2009, read you every day. Thank you for being you.
It’s about time I said hello, Melissa.
I’m new to the IF blogging world, and am finding it an amazingly great way to vent, learn and support other women. Thank you for all that you do. Your site is always one of my first stops whenever something new comes up at the RE (like IUI). Thank you!
Hey…still around even though I haven’t been blogging much. My sister and her two boys moved in with us so I have limited computer time. BUT, we are thinking about trying again so I will start blogging again…probably. I’m still trying to keep up with posts and I try to comment.
Hi! I’m here! I just started my TTC blog in November and you have been an huge inspiration! We have been TTC for 6 years now, and we are now ready to move on to IVF. Appointment with RE is Jan 13th.
Can I do IBDL on my blog too?
Hi Mel! Been reading for some time now and commenting every now and then. Finally getting around to getting my blog a little more out into the blogosphere too.
I would totally be coffee ice cream. Yum.
Worked on me! I’m here. I read almost daily, but don’t comment nearly enough. I’m overwhelmed and humbled by the time and work that you dedicate to our community. Even if I don’t read a single other blog in a day, I read LFCA. Thanks
I always comment on here, probably too much commenting across the board, so I am not sure I am delurking, or if it is perhaps considered stalking, but I am here too. I would probably be a bitter ice cream flavor these days, like vanilla extract flavored ice cream. I might smell good, but yick.
all that you do changes the world. that is all. xo
Hello! I comment occasionally, but am a bit of a champion lurker in most situations. I made a New Year’s Resolution not to be and everything. Wish me luck with that.
I have been reading your blog for, blimey, two, three years now? It is marvellous and Creme de la Creme is marvellous and LFCA is marvellous and I do adore you. Quietly.
Hey! ((waving)) I read often but only comment once in awhile. Lost my daughter in March and have been TTC since May.
I love your blog and read it daily, but I don’t think I have ever commented! You seem to be able to say exactly what I’m thinking, but in a much more eloquent way. I’ve forwarded many of your posts on!
Here. I always read, but seldom comment. I don’t have a lot of current info or advice. I send lots of prayers and good thoughts for those in need on the LFCA.
I’ve been reading ALI blogs for almost 2 years. Stirrup Queens was the first blog I found and I’m so glad. I was in the midst of a deep depression over a loss I suffered before most of you were born. Even though I went on to adopt two wonderful sons, that first little angel baby has never been forgotten.
Thanks, Mel, for all that you do for this community.
Much love to you.
Ice Cream: Maple Walnut!
Um… not a lurker talk too much actually and cant help but put my two bobs worth in
Blogging for 6 months now approx… IF journey for 4 years… not in a great place right now but still trucking along…
I am here, as well. I read all the time, but rarely comment. I do not comment all that often, unfortunately. Right now I am waiting on the arrival of our baby boy. We finally conceived with our first IVF/ICSI cycle, and are due in the next week or two. I feel like it cannot come soon enough!
Oh, and my favorite ice cream flavor is chocolate chip cookie dough.
Ok, so I blatantly stole your post and the ice cream idea… and then forgot to comment. So sorry…
I will admit that I don’t comment as often as I read, but I love your ‘voice’ and you often communicate what I’m thinking so much better than I can ever hope to.
As for ice cream… only strawberry, with big chunks of the berries in it will do!
Hi, Mel. I read everyday, but don’t think I have ever commented. I tend to sneak-read from work, but not comment until I am home in the evening. Your blog moves so fast that I often feel my comment will just get lost in the shuffle with my late night commenting. At any rate, I am still here reading and will try to sneak in a commet here or there from work. Gasp!
I’m just a confused jumbled mess these days – treatments ended last February and we are still not sure what is next. Sigh.
Thanks for all you do and for keeping everyone so pulled together.
::waving::
I read but this is my first comment! Yikes! =) As far as ice cream, I’m definately a chocolate cookie dough! As far as me, I’m a 3yr TTC veteran and finally have my 1yr old little boy!
Hi there, delurking here! A little about me…I have PCOS, have been TTC a little over a year, had a miscarriage at 9 weeks in October, and tonight I will be doing my first ever injection for my first ever IVF cycle. It’s a big day for me, I’m hoping it is the start of a great journey.
Love your blog, thanks!! (oh and I’d be strawberry ice cream if I could, yum.)
I’m here. I’ve been reading since nearly the beginning, I think. I have a problem with comments, I always spend so dang long thinking about what to say and composing, and half the time I click away from the site before hitting submit. I have the same problem with any writing in general (which is why my blog is not updated as often as I’d like), but it seems particularly dumb with comments.
I’d be vanilla ice cream. Not because I think I’m plain, I just really, really love a good vanilla ice cream. We’re in the midst of trying again for baby #2. The first time around we dealt with annovulation and low morphology. This time, my cycles are relatively consistent, but morphology is still low. The RE wants us to try on our own a few more months. So it goes.
And thank you for Creme de la Creme – you do a great job with it. Oh, and thank you for the delurking week reminder, I need to put up my delurk post as well.
I’ve been following for a short time now and want to say hello! A little about me…..DH and I are currently pursuing domestic adoption with an attorney. My IF history is too long to even type so I don’t want to bore you. You have a great blog! Keep up the good work!
I’ve been reading for a few months now–I still have no idea how I missed finding the IF blog community when I was going through my own years of treatments, etc. But, somehow I did. Now, even though I’m done with all that and parenting my two kids, I’m reading. I guess I’m still working through how damn hard it all was. I sure wish I’d know about you then, though. How my misery could have used the company! It makes me glad to know that other folks going through it now do have this, though–hopefully not feeling quite so alone.
I am a terrible, chronic lurker, but am trying to reform my ways.
So, uh…hi
If I were ice cream, I’d probably be a blizzard, all chunky-like. In fact, I’ve eaten so many of them over the years that it’s no small wonder I haven’t actually turned into one. That is another reformation in the offing, I hope.
I am one of those dumb jerks who got pregnant easily, but I got schooled when one of our children died as a newborn.
Hi! I commented once – on the “wishes” post. Fairly new to the IF community. Found your blog and then got the book, which has been a total lifeline.
Here from Jacksonville, FL. (And NO—sadly it has not been warm this week. We’ve had frost and temperatures in the teens—what the heck???) But I’d still eat some Mint Chocolate Chip ice cream anyway.
Hi Mel! I’ve become a stranger this past year, but am trying to revive the blogging in me. Because I wasn’t posting as much, I did lurk here and there, and admit that sometimes feel I don’t belong (anymore :sad face:), even though my heart totally feels and does belong in this community. But this year, I’m back! and ready to be the shoulder and ear I was before, as well as chatty blogger I once was. I started a new blog – so feel free to add me to Roll.
Oh, and nowadays, I’d rather be a klo.ndike bar since I’d be surrounded by the yummy yummy chocolate shell.
I have been following you for a long time. And the Naked Ovary til she disappeared.
I am an infertile that stopped reading infertility blogs long ago since it seems all but poor little old me has gotten pg.
Made the wrong decision on which path to use in domestic adpotion. One failed match that lasted 7 months and now it has been over 2 years and we’re still waiting. ~sigh~
Love your blog!
Standing up and waving! You know I’m always here!
I am here!!!
I usually just lurk, but may be commenting more as we ramp up our IF treatments. IVF consultation scheduled for Jan 14, with tentative plans for March 2010.
Also, Mel, I read your book over Christmas break & loved it. Planning on reviewing it over on my page later this month. Interested in doing an author interview?
I’m Trish. I lurk for two main reasons: 1) Google Reader 2) Survivor’s Guilt.
1) Reader makes it easy to read right through and go to the next thing w/o going to a page where I can make a comment. So unless I have something I really *must* say, I often don’t.
2) Having come out the other side of infertility with a RLB, I sometimes feel weird leaving comments on blogs of those still in the trenches. Particularly a new blog who doesn’t “know” me, who might click on my blog name and be accosted with pictures of my kid. (Which there are a LOT of on my blog now.) I maybe should change my “name” to “Trish (kids mentioned.)” or something.
Also, I hate to be repetetive, so sometimes if 10 people have already said “Sorry.” or “Cute kids!” or “EFF YOU, YOU SUCK.” I don’t feel like I have anything to add.
::Here::: I’m Shauna. A thirty-something nurse practitioner that used your info and blog roll to blog my way to a new baby. A new baby that I’m so desperately in love with that I’ve lost the concentration to keep up my own blog. But I’m still here reading. And I still love you more than words could ever say for helping me to realize my dream with the breadth of information that you provide on a daily basis.
Me, me, me!!! I wish I had more to say… but today has been a bad day!
thank you for all of your posts. they are helpful and funny. they have really helped me find my way through all of the IF and Pregnancy Loss issues.
Here, and now accounted for. What can I say about myself? Hmmm. I just started reading blogs about infertility. I’m starting all the diagnostics tomorrow at 7am sharp. Not so fun. Been TTC for under a year (so therefore not legitimately infertile according to most criteria I read and probably not entitled to say I have issues). Nonetheless worried and would rather get more info sooner than later. Tired of being asked repeatedly when will I be having children.
If I could be an ice cream flavour I’d be Rum ‘n’ Raison: a little unusual but worth seeking out (also happens to be my favourite). Thank you for your blog.
I’m here! And I’m a guilty lurker on many, many blogs. :hangs head in shame: I WILL do better in 2010~
It’s very weird to see the hundreds and hundreds of people who visit my blog daily and never stop to say “hello” – I must remember to do unto others.
Thank YOU for all YOU do!
I am a bad, bad commenter. But I want you to know that I LOVE and read your blog every day. I promise I will comment more often and “delurkify.”
Here! I have no blog, but get so much solace from reading about the experiences of others. Mel, you are my freakin’ IF-sucks-but-living-is-good hero. Cannot image wading through these waters without you.
Crap! Imagine, not image. Sigh.
Here I am. Always reading, but a terrible commenter lately, as I’m not great at one handed typing. Now get your minds out of the gutter, people. It’s because the other hand is holding my 5 week old miracle. She is here in large part to you, Mel. Oh, goddess of the ALI blogosphere. My wonderful embryo donor found me through LFCA. Seriously AWESOME!!!
I’m here most days, even if I only get the time for a brief peek.
I will second your encouragement not to be shy, and to delurk. I remember the thrill of getting my first comment for a stranger- a stranger who is now a friend. To those lurking- don’t be afraid to decloak- we are all friendly here in the Neutral Zone!
I’m here too. I have to admit that I’m always awe-struck when I read someone else’s blog and you, the leader of the infertility bloggers, has left a comment. It’s like an Oprah sighting. I always wonder if that person feels like they have “arrived” because you are following their blog.
you know I’m reading. but now you’ve REALLY got me thinking. — what kind of ice cream I’d be? hmm. wow. that’s a tough one. mint choc chip — refreshing with a little fudgy surprise? homemade chai — warm and spicy yet so cool? espresso bean fudge chunk — racy and substantial? I could go on…
i lurk & read erratically. I have pcos, had one miscarriage and one pregnancy that yielded my adorable 2 yr old son. been trying again for 6 mos to no avail so i’m reading a bit more frequently for support.
thanks for your writings.
i’d like to think that I’m B&J’s coffee coffee buzz buzz buzzz
Yay for delurking! I’ve tried to be less of a lurker thanks to your comment luv teaching. Thanks for spreading the luv!
If I were an ice cream I’d be my favorite: breyers chocolate chip cookie dough. Yummy!
Here! (raising hand)… I’ve been a lurker for a bit, so perhaps I should get better at making my presence known! As far as intros… I am in social work. I like shoes and thrift stores. I like to knit. If I could do whatever I wanted in life, I’d open a bakery that sold only pie, muffins, and bacon (cause what else goes with pie and muffins?). We’ve been TTC since 2005, and have gone through multiple failed Clomid cycles, and 2 failed IUI’s with injectibles. On our way to a third and final attempt at IUI. It is nice to de-lurk!
Oh- Ice cream…. today I would be Blue Bell Dutch Chocolate…
Wow, you’ve had a lot of people come out o the closet because I had to scroll waaaaaay down!
Now that I have ice cream on my mind…..oh, must focus. Rocky road…..chocolate richness with a few little nuts and some gooey parts to be too. I’m Jen….about to embark on IVF#3 but the first one with donor eggs from my dear dear friend. So excited. All of the bloggers I’ve met have saved my sanity through this process! Thanks for what you have here. 
I don’t know if I count as a lurker, but I’ve been a crummy commenter (and an equally crummy blogger, though I am hoping to change on both fronts) lately. I’m still around, though.
I am here. lol…lurk occasionally, blog more frequently but am a horrible commenter.
Thats me in a nutshell.
Jo
I’m just plain old vanilla.
And a plain old reader.
And a not-often-commenting-lurker.
I’m just kind of here…like vanilla.
I’m here…but, then you knew that…LOL. Don’t know what to say that you don’t already know but I AM HERE!
Hi Mel, I’m here. Barely hanging on in the sleep deprivation phase with a 10 day old baby, but I wanted to delurk and tell you that I am so appreciative of all that you do for this community. I don’t know how I would have survived the last two years without it. Thank you!
I don’t think of myself as a lurker, but I must comment on your blog more often because you’re awesome and I appreciate you so much.
I think I am latte icecream if there is such a thing!
Can I borrow your idea and start a delurking stream on my blog?
I’m a good reader, but a terrible commenter!
I’m here and I’m old news…I think everyone who wants to know about me already does.
Not the commenter I used to be, but hey, I’m not a lot of the things I used to be.
Lurking…
HEEEERE! Barely, though, with 10 week triplets at home after miscarriages and IVF. Yours was the first IF blog I ever read.
I’m a 42yr old homeschooling Mom of two kids, 16yr old son and 11yr old daughter, on my second marriage experiencing secondary age related infertility. I quite possibly could be the slackest blogger on the planet. On a treatment break due to finances and finalizing the decision to use donor eggs as my ovaries are crusty and my eggs are hard boiled. It’s an awkward position as I feel guilt at conceiving my 2 children easily and frustrated that this time around trying to get pregnant is a nightmare. I fluxuate between extreme gratitude to be a Mom already and feeling selfish and undeserving at wanting one more (Hubby is older and has no bio children).
I read your blog, well, because it is interesting, educational, hilarious and sometimes heartbraking. Thank you for playing such an important part in the “infertility community).
Yes Mel, the guilt trip worked. I commented on your blog during ICLW but I’m here to do it again! But I have nothing worthwhile to say, except thanks for doing what you do. Which, on second thoughts, is pretty worthwhile comment after all.
Here! I always stop by your blog Mel, and sometimes I comment, sometimes not, it depends if I have anything useful to say…. so today I’ll just say that I would be a scoop of cinnamon ice-cream and I love the de-lurking week idea.
You know me, right?
I should ask the same of my lurkers
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Yes, it worked
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Read a lot, rarely post, I know I have a lot of lurkers too and I’m trying to blog much more this year so come on over!
The Grey Lady here. I’ve been reading and commenting for quite a while, since I actually stumbled across your site reading my girl Kym’s blog (I’m a Smart One).
I have a boatload of lurkers, and few commenters. It’s ok. I write for me, for the boys, and if I inspire a few people, that’s a great thing. I am not out for notoriety. I am in it for the one-liners, guest-bloggers, inspiration towards life, my kids, myself, helping others who are infertile and barren feel like it is possible… fill the emptiness… the shell of self. Poetry… music. That’s what my life is all about so it’s all mixed together.
I love to cheer others on in life so you’ve created quite the community, Mel. Kudos for the incredible multi-tasking and dedication superb…
Hey Mel! Not technically a lurker, but I don’t comment nearly enough anymore. I’m still here, though, and loving all that you do for this community!
Hello! I felt like a huge celebrity left a post on my blog. Now, I am posting again. Today I go in for CD 3 testing to start IVF cycle #1. Booyah!
Heya, Mel. I think I’ve commented before… If I haven’t, I’ve given you many a virtual high-five in my head.
I actually picked up your book again last night and re-read certain parts. I had grabbed another IF book over the weekend (dispensing with holiday gift cards, woo!) and found it so lacking and actually kind of mocking. Why is it that a lot of the IF books out there make me feel like crap? It sent me running back to your book for an empathetic, insightful voice. I wonder if you truly know just how freakin’ supportive you are to those of us in this community. You’re a gem.
Here!
I’m a consistant reader but a slacker when it comes to commenting…oops! Sorry. One of my resolutions this year is to be a better blog buddy, so this is a good start.
As for me, I’m a PCOS gal who is expecting our first child after 4 years of TTC/IF and multiple losses. I must say that finding your blog while going through my wilderness was a Godsend…as are you! Thanks so much for the info, encouragement and support.
And as for the ice cream, I’m a Ben & Jerry’s Chubby Hubby girl…as a matter of fact, I may have to go out and get some right now!
Hi Mel!
Just popping in to say “Hi!” You addressed my concerns on whether I wanted to go for #2, again, after 2 m/c, a chemical pregnancy, and a recent diagnosis of a bleeding disorder AND a clotting disorder in a Barren Advice Column.
SO… today I am 30 weeks pg with a girl, could not be happier. Thanks for helping me through!
*HERE*
Happy New Year my Internet friends 
Here!!
Lol, that reminded me of elementary school when the teacher calls roll. I’m always reading, but I dont think I commented on anything outside of the HSG comments page.
Here! Mint chocolate chip.. commenting is scary, I should probably do it more and confront the fear.
New to the ‘blogosphere’, this site has been invaluable for linking me to so many incredible, relevant, uplifiting blogs! Thank you!
I read more than I comment. You can blame that on The Boy. I’m a diehard Cowboys fan, a new adoptive mommy, and loving this weather in the desert. Woot!
Here I am! Always lurking around Mel. What we all do without your blog?!? I have commented a few times here and there. We are stating IVF this month and I am scared! Scared that it won’t work, scared that it will… it is all confusing and has made me a bit of a basket case. Here’s to hoping 2010 will be my year!
Can’t talk, reading crème de la crème (and commenting there incidentally).
I’m a new reader/lurker, who whew that I got the introductions out of the way!
I read all your posts, but usually don’t have anything to say..
I’m Here! I’ve been reading your blog (and therefore the others) for the last 6+ months. I post comments occasionally. And I would be chocolate raspberry truffle ice cream from Gannon’s….one of the many flavors that we served at the ice cream sundae bar we had at our wedding!
I am always around. Hi!
Ok, Ok,
I’ve been reading for over a year now and not commenting. I will do better! I’m a single mom (to be) by choice, after struggling with infertility issues and getting pregnant after 2 rounds of IVF.
I love your blog, and it was a lifesaver when I needed IVF info, and to read about other’s stories. Thanks for being here. Oh – and I’d be chocolate ice cream (really, is there any other kind?)
I never lurk. I visit, I read, I comment.
hello! i’m newish to all this…but SO loving the blog, as well as your sense of humor!
ps. it’s too hard to choose JUST ONE kind of ice cream!!
Hi! I’m here! I’ve commented a few times and I started my blog in August. I too appreciate you so much for all that you do, and you book helped me as well. Mainly b/c to my surprise…my hubby picked it up and READ IT!!! =)
De-lurking to say I visit to read. I don’t have a blog but am a blog-addict, specially IF, IVF and adoption related. I actively battled IF for 4 years then managed to produce our son on my first IVF attempt. I live in Australia with my partner of 14 years and our 6 year old son.
I’m here! You were my first IF blog experience. Thanks to the LFC A site for the massive support during the loss of our twins. Wow. Still amazes me to think back to those supportive notes. Working with donor eggs (no eggs left after chemo in my 2o’s) and we’re starting a FET with our two frozen embies soon.
Here’s to all the IFers *cheers*, may 2010 be the year for all of us. Peace.
De-lurking!!!
Present! (and not lurking)
I’m here! I started my blog in May, but I’m not nearly as good at writing as some bloggers like yourself are, and I have definite blog envy. Mine’s not fancy or anything. Just what I threw together. I participate in ICLW and I did bingo once, but couldn’t keep up with it!!
Here ! I still don’t know what delurking means but I read your blog !
I read almost everything you write, and have a few old posts of yours that I’ve been mulling over for so long I HAVE to go back and find them and comment. I read a lot on my phone when I have a few minutes of downtime, but it’s not always so convenient to comment via the phone.
I totally want a Wii, and your recent post made me feel like I can justify spending the money (I float back and forth on that!). I’m due any day, will be stuck in the house in wintery NewEngland, and will want some exercise…I’m obsessed with getting it at a good price, since I almost bought right before Christmas for a steal (the sale had ended the day before I went back to buy it!).
Love everything you’ve created for this now-not-so-little community.
I’m here but trying to get though my massive list of unread posts so am crap at commenting
I’m here! Formerly of Lifeandtimesofkimbosue.blogspot.com with new digs at WP as of 11/2009. I read all the time, comment hardly ever. Boo hiss, I know. I will do better in 2010. Promise!
I’m here…. I always read but don’t comment too often…
As for ice cream, if it reflects my life, it would be a little nutty, a little fruity, semi-sweet and…..hmmm..
maybe Rocky Road?!
I’m a lurker, and occasionally a commenter, but I read every day! Thanks for doing what you do.
I’m here reading along, but my commenting isn’t always so great
I’m here!
I always read! I suck at commenting, though.
Here! I love this place!
hey ho!
I’m here! I’m reading along most days, but admittedly haven’t been very good about commenting (here or anywhere else) lately. I really do love this place, though, Mel.
We just welcomed our beautiful little boy in mid-December, conceived via IUI. Your blog (and your awesome blogroll) got me through not only the torturous days of IF treatments but also the paralyzing fears of “what if” after the BFP. Thank you so much for everything you do for this community!
I’m here, too! I visit frequently, but don’t post often. This site has been amazingly beneficial to me, Mel, thank you for all you do for us!
I’m a frequent visitor who doesn’t comment near enough (as I hide behind my laptop) – please forgive me! After TTC for a year and my first miscarriage, Stirrup Queens was my bible. Thank you!
As for ice cream? Death By Chocolate all the way . . .
Hi Melissa. I’m a time-to-time reader, though I recently signed up for the stirrup queen ballroom site too.
Close to 2.5 years ttc, 1.5 years with the RE, we recently found out we are dealing with an inverted chromosome (DH’s). This has knocked me for a bit of a loop, resulting in less posting on my blog… I guess we’ll see what happens.
Happy delurking week!
Here, but “just a reader,” not a blogger. Thanks for writing and writing and writing!
delurking! your site has been a wonderful resource many times over. thank you!
we’re unexplained (joy!) and we have been trying for 2+ years now. we’re currently in the middle of an IVF cycle. wish us luck!
I found Stirrup Queens after my miscarriage September ’08 and since then I have still been trying using various meds and procedures. I find such solace in your site, it has meant so much to me in a time that I feel so alone and frustrated. Thank you for sharing so much and for making me smile on some of those rough days.
I meant to do this weeks ago. Oh, better late than never. Hello!
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