Comments on: 172nd Friday Blog Roundup

By: lynn @ human, being

lynn @ human, being — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 06:08:33 +0000

Send the card. It will be kindly received.

In 2005, right before I met my husband, I decided to seek out all my old crushes to extinguish them … or kindle them. I found almost every one, and each of them was nothing like I remembered them. The one I couldn’t find I mostly think about because of the tragic way he went out in high school (he hit a classmate with his car, paralyzing him, then dropped out and disappeared.)

By: Battynurse

Battynurse — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 00:14:05 +0000

Weekly What If: I’d pick the guy in my sophmore year of high school that I fell for hard. I remember the first time I ever saw him and I couldn’t figure out what it was that I was excited about but I was excited that he was in my class. Who knows what might have happened if we hadn’t moved to Montana. Yes I’ve tried googling him many times over the years. Funny thing is that just recently I tried the 411 thing and I’m pretty sure I found him.

By: Fertility Chick

Fertility Chick — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 21:18:09 +0000

I am sorry to hear about your friend’s loss and definitely agree that a card would be most welcomed and appreciated. Grief can be such a lonely and isolating thing – words expressed – whether written or spoken can make such a difference.

As for googling/looking up former flames, etc. – GUILTY!

Thanks again for ICLW – this is my second time participating – did my first in the summer but then life and work kept me out of the loop. So glad to be back at it.

By: Wishing4One

Wishing4One — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 17:12:05 +0000

Print the stamp girl. She will appreciate it more than you know.

Past crushes….. well since i consider most of everything before 1997 a PAST LIFE (thats a few posts in itself, one day… maybe) I am not sure I would like to know anything about anyone I used to know. Although there is one person, I do admit I have googled their name, not facebooked, just to see if they were dead or committed any crimes. No such luck.

By: PFM

PFM — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 14:33:24 +0000

It is shocking to hear of death of people around our age. It is sad b/c there is so much life to live. I think she would appreciate a card. Time gets away from us and we lose connections but it does not mean that they don’t still mean something to you.

By: C h i r l e e n

C h i r l e e n — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 13:23:26 +0000

Hm. I can see your dilemma about sending the card but I do think it would welcomed. I’m so sorry to hear about your friend’s brother.

And would I want to know about past crushes, where they are and what they are up to? Sure, I would. I just have to avoid the pull to check in with my ex hubby… (his current wife can’t be nearly as great as me!)

I’m enjoying ICLW this 2nd time around… I’ve gained 4 new followers! Thank you so much for organizing such an awesome idea! YOU’RE AWESOME!

By: Terry

Terry — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 11:19:46 +0000

Hi Mel ! I nominated you for a Kreativ Blogger Award. http://pandabox33.wordpress.com/2010/01/23/kreativ-blogger-award/

By: Emmy

Emmy — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 07:28:18 +0000

I say offer your condolences. With my 25 year old brother dying 10 months ago, I appreciate all of the support I can get, no matter how long it’s been. Being the sister and not the mother (only surviving parent) I did not get much support, aside from this community.

Do anything you can to support your friend, no matter how long it’s been. As a sibling who has lost a sibling, I felt a bit left out of IRL support, because I was ‘just the sister’ and not a parent. Send your friend food, flowers, comfort something, anything. It’s amazing how lonely losing a sibling can be. She’ll need all of the support she can get. I still do, despite the fact that I don’t get any. In this case, there’s no such thing as too little, too late. Please.

By: S.I.F.

S.I.F. — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 05:26:51 +0000

I am so sorry to hear about your friends brother. I think you should definitly send her a card… If I were in her position I would love to hear from an old friend.

As for my crush: About a year ago I said to a friend of mine that I had tried to look up a guy I had dated my sophomore year in high school on myspace, but hadn’t found him. She responded with “Well yeah, you won’t find him anywhere. He’s dead.” I was shocked. Apparently he had died of a drug overdose and the news had just never made it to me. It was very surreal. I don’t worry too much about looking up old crushes now: I’m too afraid of what I may find out.

By: Vee

Vee — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 04:25:27 +0000

Sorry for the loss of your friend’s brother. Just knowing someone that has passed , even if you have only met them only for a moment, has an impact. I would send the card..

Yes I have searched for my primary school crush, actually I was totally in love with him! I have never seen him since and would love to know where he is at.

I would love for you to get that ring Mel, it sounds so lovely!