Comments on: Surviving Christmas

By: Battynurse

Battynurse — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 20:38:13 +0000

As someone who celebrated Christmas for the first time at 21 I still usually feel like I’m making up for lost time. I was Christmas deprived as a child. And children or not, for the most part I can’t imagine not decorating my house at Christmas time, even if I am the only one who gets to see it (since you know I’m not putting decorations outside again anytime soon after the great christmas tree theivery this year) . Since I’m not religious I get more into the decorating and doing for others. That said there is still a part of me that has a hard time with the whole Santa and the magic and wonder of Christmas that I never got to experience as a child and that I long to experience through the eyes of a child now.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 05:13:54 +0000

For me Christmas itself is not all that difficult…I just focus on the REAL meaning! My Savior was born! Christmas is much more than food, presents, etc. It is a time to remember what my life would be like if Jesus never came to this world as a baby to save me from my sins! Remember that and steer clear of family and friends with young children…and those that might want to ask you when it will be your turn…

By: loribeth

loribeth — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 21:05:18 +0000

(Knocking wood here) The holidays (so far) have not been too bad for me. We are at my parents’, doing the things we always do & always have done. There is just us, my parents and my (childfree by choice) sister & her boyfriend — no small children, no pressures (not these days, with both of us in our late 40s — most people realize that ship has now sailed…) — which makes things a lot easier than many people have it.

At the same time, I know that some day my parents will be gone — and then what? I try not to think about the Christmases yet to come too much, & just enjoy what we have right now.

By: Manapan

Manapan — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 17:53:03 +0000

I wanted to say more than ought to be left in a proper comment, so I blogged about it here.

By: Carrie

Carrie — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 15:59:34 +0000

We all know that its impossible to trick ourselves out of identiying where the underlaying sadness of the season is coming from but I don’t think that means that we have to stand in the line of fire either. Its ok to turn down party invitations, to not hang the thousands of photo Holiday cards with pictures of our friends babies on our refrigerators, to not deny ourselves our truth…that this time of the year is really hard for us. Let’s acknowledge our feelings, not appologize for them or for allowing them to color the mood of someone elses Holiday…we all share the Holiday after all.

By: nh

nh — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 16:39:05 +0000

Unlike the last few years; this year I am celebrating Christmas with family. Instead of hiding away, I am going to my S-I-L’s (who has two daughters). And there will be tears, and I will cry. And I won’t go to the main Church Service, because I know that the mid-night service will have no children at it. But we haven’t celebrated Christmas with those girls that give me so much joy for the last 6 years – so this is the start of something new.

By: Half of a Duo, Raising a Duo

Half of a Duo, Raising a Duo — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 11:39:34 +0000

Here is how I am getting through it.

Being a voice for the barren. Yes, I wrote a stunning ICLW post.

And I am going for Iron Commentor status. It keeps me hopping at 4-5 am. I am determined, since there seems to be A LOT of people on the rolls this month. I am determined.

I am also away from home. Which is a good thing since, the pull of having a 3rd child is strong upon me. Now that the boys are 21 mos and stellar and I am kicking butt and taking no prisoners in the mama dept, I feel confident a trio would be great.

Except I am barren.

And the expense of yet another surrogacy journey would kill us. We have to save for college and retirement and the last journey decimated our savings.

So I am savoring these moments. At nearly 48 years old, having the little dudes saying “I love you”. And obsessing over everything car/truck/plane/train related. As boys universally are, I guess.

By: coffeegrl

coffeegrl — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 11:25:16 +0000

A colleague of mine is having a kind of “adult only” Christmas party on Christmas day. It’s a potluck party for adults with nowhere else to go/no one to celebrate with which involves food, music, and games. It sounds like a lot of fun to me and the perfect antidote!

By: Rach

Rach — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 07:11:44 +0000

How are we getting through this Christmas?

We’re spending the day on the back of our motorcycle, no destination in mind, though the coast sounds good because it’s going to be a lovely 36 degrees (celcius not F!).

The only thing we HAVE to do on Christmas Day is stop by a friends place for drinks…it will be blissfully child free!

By: nycphoenix

nycphoenix — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 04:42:25 +0000

I just wrote the ups and down of church and advent and christmas. I get thorought it by trying to remember that I am more than my uterus and by the faith that I have that my God has something wonderful for me