Comments on: How to Leave a Good Comment (Part One)

By: md

md — Tue, 31 May 2011 11:33:22 +0000

i really appreciated this post on commenting, and the one on building a blog following. i’ve moved to a new country recently, and not having found many friends with similar interests and likes, i’m finding refuge online. which is also inspiring me to blog more, and to comment on others’ blogs! may was my first ICLW experience, and it was awesome to have people commenting on my blog, as well as to find some new blogs to follow. thank you

By: Eve

Eve — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 19:25:33 +0000

I think this is a great discussion. You have really helped form such a community with your emphasis on commenting and empathy. It’s such a privelege to be a part of it! I have learned SO much from the comments I have received on my blog. They are such a gift. I was a lot better at crafting posts earlier this year that included my readers and evoked thoughtful responses. Lately, I’ve been under stress and been lucky to get a lot of wonderful supportive ‘keep your chin up’ type comments. I always leave my comments open. Maybe I’m boring, b/c I’ve never really received an off-color or rude comment.

By: meggowiggle

meggowiggle — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 16:23:34 +0000

I love getting comments as well, and I leave my comments open. I try to give them frequently, but I have hard time doing this because I like to be sure my comment adds to the discussion or helps in some way. Some posts just don’t evoke a response in me, and others will take me a long time to say something meaningful and worthwhile. I have noticed that when I make an effort to connect, others will too!

By: B

Tue, 27 Oct 2009 04:31:32 +0000

I too love getting and giving comments although I often worry about a day or two after posting that I have said something that was totally out of line or offfensive without realising.

It’s hard on the ineternet because you never know if you have done that. It’s not like you can see someones face as they read your comment.

Anyone else worry about this?

By: nixy

nixy — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 03:06:43 +0000

As someone very new to the infertility world, I find that the comments help me immensely to feel the sense of community; even when I haven’t commented before. It’s so amazing! While I have sent a small number of personal emails to some bloggers, I have been hesitant to post because I still feel like a bit of an outsider. But, I hope to be doing more of them!

By: Lollipopgoldstein

Lollipopgoldstein — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 01:48:43 +0000

I think it’s a dance of keeping the focus on them–their words, their story, their emotions. But sometimes it helps the person to hear they’re not alone. Or sometimes, something is best explained with a story. I think there’s a huge difference between telling a story that relates to the words on the screen and saying, “that’s great! Listen to what happened to me…”

Good question!

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 01:19:58 +0000

This is a great post. I love receiving comments from others, new or not. If someone comments on my blog, I see that as an opportunity to go comment on their blog, and perhaps even build a blog-lationship (I think I just created a new word) with that person.

One thing I always wonder is this: when commenting on someone else’s blog, should I relate with a story of my own? Or should I focus simply on responding to the blogger because, after all, it is THEIR site, THEIR story, THEIR time. I usually try to empathize by sharing my own story, but then I wonder if that is the wrong way to go about it? I am curious as to what others think about this.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 21:19:47 +0000

I love the comments…I guess who doesn’t? I also really try to leave a comment as often as possible, even if it is a I am listening or offering a hug. Sometimes as another commenter said it I worry about something I said being taken the wrong way. I have always been a fan of in person communication because things can be taken the wrong way. whenever, I leave a comment it always with the best heart and a sincere wish to connect.
I get excited when I see someone new has left a comment and I miss people who used to comment and then for some reason leave but I do understand everyone has there reasons.
This is a great post as usual and I am happy to hear that you are starting to feel better.

By: Erin

Erin — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 20:52:18 +0000

I love getting comments and I cant help but make them but I really detest the “I fell over a bean bag and got pregnant” or “go see a homeopath, naturopath sociopath and you will fall pregnant” comments. I think these probably fall under the advice comments box. I am sure they are well intentioned. (Well most of the time) but after you read them you wonder if they read your post or even got you at all….

By: JJ

JJ — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 20:27:02 +0000

Ugg, belated GET WELL wishes are coming at ya–so sorry all 4 of you were not feeling so hot.

And thanks for reminding me to always put some good meat in my comments