Comments on: Book Tour #21: It Sucked, and Then I Cried…

By: Baby Smiling In Back Seat

Baby Smiling In Back Seat — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 05:18:50 +0000

“The ones we hope never happen to us”:
It seems like for a lot of people, they think that not talking about it means it won’t happen, and talking about it will draw the evil to them. Fill in whatever you like for the “it.”

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:15:37 +0000

I loved how you phrased this:
“But turn it towards the darker topics–the ones we hope never happen to us, in other words–and everyone goes quiet, even though they wish others would speak up about it too.”
That cringingly quiet moment when everyone should speak up but doesn’t makes me sad in real life and very thankful for the blog world.

By: loribeth

loribeth — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 22:58:21 +0000

I agree with your points on blogging. In some ways, I’m more open on my blog than I am in real life, at least when it comes to how I feel about loss, infertility & childlessness. But I do have some concerns about privacy on the Internet (or lack thereof), so I do try to be careful on other points.

Also true about PPD, like loss & infertility, being taboo topics. Books like Heather’s help a lot to break down the barriers, I think. Especially when you can use a little humour to make the topic more accessible.

By: JuliaS

JuliaS — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 19:49:32 +0000

From personal experience with PPD – it is very difficult to talk about. It’s very hard to admit that you are falling apart at a time when you should be on top of the world and especially so when you have dealt with infertility and most of your friends have. I always felt like how dare I “whine” when I have what we have all been hoping and working so hard for?

Then you have idiots like Tom Cruise who go on television shows and say it’s all in your head and you just need vitamins and exercise, and that taking antidepressants is just irresponsible.

By: furrow

furrow — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 19:31:50 +0000

It was very hard for me to talk about my post-partum feelings, but when I did, I found a lot of support and gratitude for speaking the truth about how new motherhood can be. I, too, imagined what I would be like as a mother. I was a divinely patient earth mother type. And I pictured a baby who cried a lot less, too.

By: Lavender Luz

Lavender Luz — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 19:08:24 +0000

“before we had kids, I imagined more what I’d be like as a mother than what they’d be like as kids”

Me, too!

So it MUST mean self-actualization.

I DID get help for PADS (post-adoptive depression syndrome). I’m not sure what might have happened had I not.

By: Sheri

Sheri — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 18:05:44 +0000

I agree that it’s more difficult to talk about issues like postpartum depression, and yet, it would be so helpful to bring people together. And…mental illness can be and is sometimes looked upon with shame whereas people rarely question physical illness. Is it that physical illnesses can be seen or proven?

I agree with your points on blogging. I can tell my story, but feel inclined to draw the line when I am talking about someone else. I also change the names and facts to “protect the innocent.”

Thanks for a great review and for hosting this book club.

By: Kristin

Kristin — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 15:37:38 +0000

Thanks for the review. I really meant to participate in this one and somehow never got to the store to buy the book.