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Perfect Moment Monday

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It has been a long time since I have dressed up for Purim. My last true costume was Martha Stewart (Josh went as a protester wearing a Free Martha t-shirt) which should tell you how long ago it was. Growing up, I was always Vashti if I dressed up from the story. I tried being Esther one year in grad school–it just wasn’t me.

Tonight, I was getting ready to take the twins to shul for the Megillah reading and I decided to see if I could still fit into a dress that I haven’t worn in a while. I took it in the other room, just in case it…cough…didn’t fit. But it did and I came back into the bedroom. The twins looked up at me and the ChickieNob said, “you look so fancy. You’re just like Vashti.”

That was my perfect moment.

Later, outside, as Josh took these pictures, the ChickieNob started to sob and went to bury her face in my arm. She finally explained that I just didn’t look like myself and it scared her. I thought it would make her feel better to know that her mother wouldn’t dance naked on the table. I mean, who the hell knows what Esther is capable of doing if the king asks–at least you know where Vashti stands.

Unfortunately, I’m covering up the great beadwork at the top of the dress; a double layer of gold beads around the neck. Though it’s a great dress–I feel like I should whip it out for BlogHer this summer.

Looking for other Perfect Moments? Head over to Lori’s for Perfect Moment Monday.


The last time I wore this blue dress, we had gone over to a friend’s apartment for dinner. I had peed on a stick in the morning and it was negative, but I decided that I really wanted to try one more test that night. But I also wanted to hold in my pee for four hours to give it a better chance of having enough hCG to tip the test (never mind the fact that I wasn’t pregnant that cycle and therefore there was no hCG regardless).

No problem; we’d eat dinner, I’d go easy on the liquids until the end, and then we’d head home and I’d take the test. So, we eat dinner, I start drinking water towards the end of the meal, and I soon have to pee. But we’re not making any moves towards the door. Then, our friend suggests that we take a walk around his neighbourhood. So I said, “well, I’m not really dressed for a walk.” But that excuse was shot down and I had to haul my ass outside and walk around while I had to pee so badly that I was starting to get cold sweats. We were pausing on street corners so I could keep from wetting myself.

Finally, we went back to the apartment to collect our things and I ran to the bathroom because I was never going to make it through the drive home. Josh insisted that the holding-the-pee thing shouldn’t really matter and told me to take the test anyway when we got home. And I cursed the friend who made me take the stupid walk instead of come straight home to the comfort of my pee stick. Which, you know, would have been positive if I had just peed at the right time…


1 astral { 03.09.09 at 6:54 pm }

You look beautiful! I’m glad your dress fit you 🙂 It feels good when something unexpected happens like that.

2 Hillary { 03.09.09 at 6:55 pm }

What a beautiful dress — you look gorgeous 🙂

3 Vee { 03.09.09 at 7:12 pm }

Stunning !

4 Parenthood For Me { 03.09.09 at 7:42 pm }

I love it when you think something won’t fit and it does. I always gain weight in the long winters. But it comes off by May and then my clothes fit better again. Beautiful dress.

5 battynurse { 03.09.09 at 7:52 pm }

You look fantastic!!

6 Kristin { 03.09.09 at 8:46 pm }

You look gorgeous and that must have been a magical moment to hear her say that.

7 Lori { 03.09.09 at 8:49 pm }

Yay, it still fits!

I loved seeing you all fancied up.

Vashti is such a pretty name; fit for a pillar in the story.

Yay for folk heroes. Of any era.

8 Kalei { 03.09.09 at 9:19 pm }

you look great. great perfect moment!

9 Beautiful Mess { 03.09.09 at 10:59 pm }

Beautiful! The color really suits you.

10 loribeth { 03.10.09 at 6:04 am }

I need to get out my Bible — I remember Esther, but not Vashti. Anyway, you look great — that’s a gorgeous colour!!

11 infertilityrocks { 03.10.09 at 7:16 am }

Ahh, the magical ‘it fits’ moment, followed by the superiorly magical ‘Mom, you’re the greatert’. Can’t beat that! What a great day!!!


12 Brenna { 03.10.09 at 8:05 am }

Beautiful color of blue! And yay for the good fit.

13 annacyclopediaisworkingonit { 03.10.09 at 9:27 am }

What a beautiful perfect moment! And beautiful you, too!

14 Jendeis { 03.10.09 at 10:01 am }

You look gorgeous! Vashti was always my favorite too. Esther just seemed to be too much of a goody-goody.

15 Josh { 03.10.09 at 10:03 am }

Ahh. I remember that night now. Yeah. You weren’t too happy with me.

16 Lollipop Goldstein { 03.10.09 at 10:05 am }

Or him. He who shall remain nameless but criticized my soap and pie.

17 Bea { 03.10.09 at 5:30 pm }

Ah, peestick rules. I still don’t like those things. The peesticks or the rules.

But we can’t see the dress properly! You need to rewear it and model it properly!


18 Billy { 03.10.09 at 5:40 pm }

I love Vashti!

[Loribeth – Vashti was Ahshveros’s first wife who wouldn’t come to his party when he summoned her (she was having fun at her own party), so he executed her (then there’s a parade of new possible wives and Esther and her uncle Mordechi who uses vitamin P etc).
Growing up, Esther was always portrayed as the good queen, the one who saved our (Jewish) people, while Vashti was a deemed as this evil woman. I think she was brave and a true feminist, and I really like her!]

And Mel – you look a really great Vashti!

19 Coffeegrl { 03.11.09 at 1:43 am }

What a fabulous looking dress!

20 Artblog { 03.11.09 at 3:05 am }

Happy Purim my dear! You look superb 🙂 xxx

21 itsazooaroundhere { 03.11.09 at 11:20 am }


22 Io { 03.11.09 at 5:15 pm }

Sorry did you say you *wouldn’t* dance naked on a table?
Sure Mel. Sure.

23 JamieD { 03.11.09 at 6:11 pm }

I love the dress – you look so beautiful!

24 WiseGuy { 03.13.09 at 12:00 am }

Is that something like a salwar kurta?

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