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IComLeavWe: January

Pretty please with snow on top, read through the directions even if you’ve done IComLeavWe before.

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn’t it sounds like “I come; [but] leave [as a] we”? And that’s sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug–a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):

  • The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere–blog writers and/or blog readers.
  • Add yourself to the list by leaving in the comment section your blog name, blog url, and three words that describe what you blog about most often.
Stirrup Queens (please capitalize your title)
http://stirrup-queens.blogspot.com (please use http:// at the beginning of your url)
(infertility, twins, books) (please leave all three words in lowercase and place parentheses around your three words)
  • I move the information from the comment section into the post (usually within 24 hours).
  • Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it’s up.
  • Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer…). Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
  • Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
  • The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch out breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.
The January List
  1. Stirrup Queens (infertility, twins, books)
  2. Two Hot Mamas (ttc, miscarriage, cooking)
  3. The Unfair Struggle (male-factor IF, friendship, life on the ice)
  4. Baby Smiling In Back Seat (IVF/ICSI, infertility, philosophy)
  5. Trying To Make 3… (recent m/c, TTC, life in general)
  6. When Hello Means Goodbye (infant loss, kidney transplant, faith)
  7. Building Heavenly Bridges (grief, writing, stillbirth)
  8. The Bear and the Comedian (parenting after loss, sisters, siblings)
  9. On The Road to Baby (miscarriage, ttc, adoption)
  10. Clio (endometriosis, adoption, parenting)
  11. New Year New Ute (recurrent miscarriage, ttc, random)
  12. Elana’s Musings (pregnancy, twins, judaism)
  13. To Baby and Beyond (infertility, miscarriage, PCOS)
  14. emilythehopeless (IVF#2, dogs, pessimism)
  15. Adventures in Parenting (kids, motherhood, marriage)
  16. Life Induces Thoughts Mostly Random (life, random, family)
  17. The Johnson Family Journey (balanced translocation, miscarriage, donor egg)
  18. Conceive This! (MFI, IVF/ICSI, waiting)
  19. Mrs Spock (parenting, health care, infertility)
  20. Heeeeere Storkey, Storkey! (twins, ttc, life)
  21. Unquestionable Love (break cycle, acupuncture, life in general)
  22. Mandolyn (miscarriage, autoimmune diseases, G-d/faith/christianity)
  23. The Baby Chase (IVF, donor sperm, adoption)
  24. Three of a Kind Working on a Full House… (neonatal death, secondary infertility, parenting)
  25. Faith, Hope, & Poop? (parenting, teaching, adoption)
  26. April (Broken Bits) (IVF #2/ICSI, PCOS, life)
  27. My Life Crazy As It May Seem (loss of a child, everyday life, new life)
  28. Portraits in Sepia (adoption, endometriosis, life)
  29. The Musings of a Princess (ttc, crohn’s disease, life)
  30. All Grown Up (multiple IVF/infertility, random, adoption)
  31. Hello Jello (family, college, people)
  32. Making Me Mom (male-factor IF, varicocelectomy, faith)
  33. The Steadfast Warrior (TTC, m/c, life)
  34. Birds and Squirrels (infertility, pcos, male factor)
  35. Thinking Positively (TTC, Clomid/IUI, endometriosis)
  36. The Fertile Infertile (parenting, crafts, secondary infertility)
  37. Communique (infertility, life)
  38. In Due Time (infertility, PCOS, life)
  39. We Say IVF They Say FIV (IVF, pregnancy, expat life)
  40. Getting There (endo, future plans, life)
  41. Woman Anyone? (primary subfertility, miscarriage, rants)
  42. Sticky Feet (IVF #6, parenting, baking)
  43. TandCookies (PCOS, marriage, teaching)
  44. Musings of a Fat Chick (smc, trying, life)
  45. Awake in the World (grief, infertility, body acceptance)
  46. The Baby Making Chronicles (ttc my first, miscarriage, nursing)
  47. ISO the Golden Egg (TTC over 40, donor embryo, FET)
  48. The Non-Housewife Wife (TTC, life, random)
  49. I’m a Smart One (surrogacy, infertility, parenting after IF)
  50. Infertile Myrtle (infertility, endometriosis, lupron)
  51. Bella And Her Fella (donor eggs, POF, thyroid cancer)
  52. A New Wheeler for the World? (PCOS, TTC, waiting for IUI)
  53. I Just Want To Be A Mom (IUI, family rants, friendship)
  54. The Not So Secret Life Of Us (recurrent miscarriages, IVF, emigration)
  55. I Married Barney, Now What? (PCOS, IUI, miscarriage)
  56. Maybe It’s Just Me… (TTC, marriage, random)
  57. Helping Make Sense (infertility, multiple IVF’s, 4th opinion)
  58. Becoming Parents (IF, adopting, grad school)
  59. Lifeslurper (ttc over 40, depression, weight)
  60. Sunflower Seeds (life, international adoption, faith)
  61. Not The Path I Chose (secondary IF, RPL, weight loss)
  62. Aurelia Ann (pregnancy, miscarriage, parenting)
  63. Sippy Cups Are Not For Starbucks (sarcasm, parenting, life)
  64. Being Infertile (infertility, treatment, faith)
  65. Our Life In A Nutchell (miscarriage, ivf #2, life)
  66. Are We There Yet (ttc, MFI, healthy living)
  67. When Will Hope and Faith Pay Off? (TTC, miscarriage, stress of everyday life and IF)
  68. The Imaginative World Of Jen (surrogacy, Hereditary Sensory Autonomic Neuropathy, life in general)
  69. Wheresmy2lines (multiple IVF’s, pcos, varicocele)
  70. Be Still and Know (adoption, infertility, faith)
  71. Life in the White House (donor sperm, daily life, infertility)
  72. Yes, We’re One of THOSE Couples (male factor IF, weight, ttc)
  73. Baby Shmaybe? (life, IF and loss, annoyances)
  74. Hope.Faith.Patience (IVF/ICSI, MF infertility, life)
  75. The Long Journey (ttc, life, parenting and natural hair care)
  76. Anla knits. No, really she does! (knitting, life, infertility related chaos)
  77. It Is Tuesday, Right?? (new parenthood after IVF, life, goofiness)
  78. Mustard Seed Baby (endo, IVF#2, faith)
  79. Patience Song (IVF, Infertility, marriage)
  80. That’s My Answer (questions, fun, life)
  81. The Maybe Baby (Babies) (life after loss, life after cancer, gearing up for FET#3 w/ donor eggs)
  82. Raindrops on Roses (ttc, daily life, books)
  83. In Search of Biscuit 2.0 (secondary IF, parenting, life in general)
  84. The Not-So-Fertile Myrtle (infertility, marriage, life)
  85. Just Want to be a Mom (azoospermia, marriage, TTC)
  86. Eye Heart Internet (infertility, expat, france)
  87. Mom To Twins Plus One (infertility, twins after IVF, scrapbooking)
  88. Little Bluebirds Fly (pregnancy loss, twins, infertility)
  89. Blissful Body Yoga Blog (yoga, meditation, blissful living)
  90. My Little Drummer Boys (stillbirth, IVF twins, parenting)
  91. Our Way to Happily Ever After (none)
  92. Gas Passer aka UUer (unicornuate uterus, parenting after IVF, anesthesia)
  93. The list is closed and the new February list will reopen on January 28th
You have questions…I have answers:

Q: What if I miss a day?
A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments–12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?
A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?
A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you’re on the right list). This month, the icon is silvery-ish, the next month it will be purple, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you’ll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It’s the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend’s blog! I want to join the list–why can’t I?
A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it’s closed. If you’re finding out about this on the 23rd, you can’t join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it’s still the 21st where I am. Why aren’t you moving my information onto the list?
A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours).

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?
A: Well, that really doesn’t happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn’t covered at all. What do I do?
A: Email me; I’m quite friendly. It helps to place “IComLeavWe” in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

(c) 2006 Melissa S. Ford
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