Comments on: The American Dream http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2008/10/american-dream/ Tue, 07 Feb 2012 05:42:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Julia http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2008/10/american-dream/comment-page-2/#comment-41003 Julia Fri, 21 Nov 2008 00:33:00 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/test/?p=977#comment-41003 I want to suggest to you a different way to word things. You are right that "at least" diminishes the problem you are talking about. I found a different way to talk and think about these issues. Instead of diminishing a problem by talking about the blessings I tend to say "it could have been worse if [I didn't have the blessings I do have]." Maybe semantics, but it helps me, and to me it seems more respectful of the problem and the blessings both. I want to suggest to you a different way to word things. You are right that “at least” diminishes the problem you are talking about. I found a different way to talk and think about these issues. Instead of diminishing a problem by talking about the blessings I tend to say “it could have been worse if [I didn't have the blessings I do have].” Maybe semantics, but it helps me, and to me it seems more respectful of the problem and the blessings both.

]]> By: Bea http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2008/10/american-dream/comment-page-2/#comment-41002 Bea Tue, 21 Oct 2008 05:49:00 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/test/?p=977#comment-41002 And I apologise for not keeping up as well as I should be lately.<br/><br/>"And they're right.<br/><br/>And they're wrong."<br/><br/>This is a gorgeous post. I started it many times and kept getting interrupted and have only just made it to the end. I hope you get to live the dream that suits you best.<br/><br/>Bea And I apologise for not keeping up as well as I should be lately.

“And they’re right.

And they’re wrong.”

This is a gorgeous post. I started it many times and kept getting interrupted and have only just made it to the end. I hope you get to live the dream that suits you best.

Bea

]]> By: Gypsyhick http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2008/10/american-dream/comment-page-2/#comment-41001 Gypsyhick Tue, 14 Oct 2008 17:29:00 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/test/?p=977#comment-41001 Giant hugs to you and your amazingness the eminates all the way up to Canada to open my mind and warm my heart. Giant hugs to you and your amazingness the eminates all the way up to Canada to open my mind and warm my heart.

]]> By: Alyson &amp; Ford http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2008/10/american-dream/comment-page-2/#comment-41000 Alyson &amp; Ford Mon, 13 Oct 2008 05:56:00 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/test/?p=977#comment-41000 Reading this late at night (I am NOT complaining about sleep deprivation!), you are very thoughtful and gracious. Quiet times, let's me thing too much.<br/>Life goes by quickly; seek your dream. Define it. Don't wait. Life is to be content and dreams aren't helping if they take away your joy and blessings you do have; dreams should make it better; bring more joy. Hear your story. Hear from God. You are right, infertility is a problem; overriding is a good word, but don't force your will. Maybe since I have been infertile for so long and no hope; one must face our own purpose and find contentment and joy - they do go together. (I do want to write some comfort for you, so sorry for your blues, you write beautifully)<br/><br/>Alyson<br/>Celebrating 25 days as Alyzabeth's Mommy Reading this late at night (I am NOT complaining about sleep deprivation!), you are very thoughtful and gracious. Quiet times, let’s me thing too much.
Life goes by quickly; seek your dream. Define it. Don’t wait. Life is to be content and dreams aren’t helping if they take away your joy and blessings you do have; dreams should make it better; bring more joy. Hear your story. Hear from God. You are right, infertility is a problem; overriding is a good word, but don’t force your will. Maybe since I have been infertile for so long and no hope; one must face our own purpose and find contentment and joy – they do go together. (I do want to write some comfort for you, so sorry for your blues, you write beautifully)

Alyson
Celebrating 25 days as Alyzabeth’s Mommy

]]> By: Cassandra http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2008/10/american-dream/comment-page-2/#comment-40999 Cassandra Sun, 12 Oct 2008 18:34:00 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/test/?p=977#comment-40999 Fascinating post. <br/><br/>I won't deign to offer you any wisdom, since as you say this is a decision that must be made in your own house. But I invite you to continue to share your thought process in blog form. It hopefully will be helpful to you, but I guarantee it will be helpful to hundreds (thousands?) who experience many of the same dilemmas.<br/><br/>I wish you all the best, always. Fascinating post.

I won’t deign to offer you any wisdom, since as you say this is a decision that must be made in your own house. But I invite you to continue to share your thought process in blog form. It hopefully will be helpful to you, but I guarantee it will be helpful to hundreds (thousands?) who experience many of the same dilemmas.

I wish you all the best, always.

]]> By: Pamela Jeanne http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2008/10/american-dream/comment-page-2/#comment-40998 Pamela Jeanne Sat, 11 Oct 2008 02:08:00 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/test/?p=977#comment-40998 We can be our own worst enemy at times, can't we?<br/><br/>Each day I try to be a better person. Some days I succeed more than others... We can be our own worst enemy at times, can’t we?

Each day I try to be a better person. Some days I succeed more than others…

]]> By: Samantha http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2008/10/american-dream/comment-page-2/#comment-40997 Samantha Fri, 10 Oct 2008 18:43:00 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/test/?p=977#comment-40997 I think your post rings so true to any time we think about taking risks when we are situation where we know we could remain comfortable. Things could turn out beautifully or horribly wrong. It's hard to know where true happiness lies or when we have caught up with our dreams or pursuing them no longer seems worthwhile.<br/><br/>I hope this yom kippur will give you some time for peaceful reflection. I think your post rings so true to any time we think about taking risks when we are situation where we know we could remain comfortable. Things could turn out beautifully or horribly wrong. It’s hard to know where true happiness lies or when we have caught up with our dreams or pursuing them no longer seems worthwhile.

I hope this yom kippur will give you some time for peaceful reflection.

]]> By: Piccinigirl http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2008/10/american-dream/comment-page-2/#comment-40996 Piccinigirl Fri, 10 Oct 2008 16:14:00 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/test/?p=977#comment-40996 I understand the need to process, to be still. I have been quiet a lot this year, and it's because I have things to say but don't know "how". I don't want the regrets that come with writing down, logging, summing up feelings of shame, inadequacy, love and pure joy. <br/>The decisions are never easy. I used to say "at least that my decisions about 'this' are over" but everyday I am reminded that they will never be, because everyday brings new questions about those decisions. <br/><br/>Much love and hugs to you. wishing you peace, quiet and decisions that make your heart sing. I understand the need to process, to be still. I have been quiet a lot this year, and it’s because I have things to say but don’t know “how”. I don’t want the regrets that come with writing down, logging, summing up feelings of shame, inadequacy, love and pure joy.
The decisions are never easy. I used to say “at least that my decisions about ‘this’ are over” but everyday I am reminded that they will never be, because everyday brings new questions about those decisions.

Much love and hugs to you. wishing you peace, quiet and decisions that make your heart sing.

]]> By: Barb http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2008/10/american-dream/comment-page-2/#comment-40995 Barb Fri, 10 Oct 2008 01:50:00 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/test/?p=977#comment-40995 Oh My. It is NEVER easy.<br/><br/>"But this is the only life I get to live. I don't want to have any regrets. I want to do it "right."<br/><br/>-That blurb is me to an absolute T. I feel you on this. It's one of the reasons I have such a hard time "giving up" on my body. I had to do everything the "right way," in my life, and I'm terrified of regrets. Oh My. It is NEVER easy.

“But this is the only life I get to live. I don’t want to have any regrets. I want to do it “right.”

-That blurb is me to an absolute T. I feel you on this. It’s one of the reasons I have such a hard time “giving up” on my body. I had to do everything the “right way,” in my life, and I’m terrified of regrets.

]]> By: JamieD http://www.stirrup-queens.com/2008/10/american-dream/comment-page-2/#comment-40994 JamieD Fri, 10 Oct 2008 00:31:00 +0000 http://www.stirrup-queens.com/test/?p=977#comment-40994 It should be me apologizing to you . . . I have received so much comfort from you since discovering your blog. More than you could ever realize.<br/><br/>It's okay to go quiet. Take what you need. It should be me apologizing to you . . . I have received so much comfort from you since discovering your blog. More than you could ever realize.

It’s okay to go quiet. Take what you need.

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