Comments on: Location Casualties

By: Michelle

Michelle — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 18:19:00 +0000

At least you can drown your sorrows in chips and margaritas at Cactus Cantina, right?

By: bonniekay

bonniekay — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 23:58:00 +0000

Mel, I think it’s amazing how you can resonate with so many of us so often–thanks for your thoughtful and thought-provoking posts.

For me, it’s a bittersweet spot, the state forest where we went walking when we learned my partner was going to M/C. It was fall, and a completely beautiful spot. I’ve been back since, but never without reliving that moment.

By: Grad3

Grad3 — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 13:26:00 +0000

I have small panic attacks when I have ultrasounds. So that means my locations of casualties are…

Sadly, my RE’s office and the OB’s office. Nothing good ever happens to me there. Ever.

By: Karaoke Diva

Karaoke Diva — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 12:30:00 +0000

I don’t have a location casualty, but I do have a human casualty. Even though she was nicer than she had any reason to be, the sweet u/s tech at my RE’s office will always be associated with my miscarriage. I think about it every time she does my folicle check u/s each month.

By: Bea

Bea — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 07:15:00 +0000

They stay ruined for a while, and then they become just “changed”. It can be good to remember what you once went through, after it stops hurting so much.

Bea

By: Kim

Kim — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 01:24:00 +0000

Although beautiful, Deep Creek, has some sad reminders. I spent the big one year mark there in ’06. I was in a 2ww and realized what I missed out on when I returned home w/ a BFN & AF. Could have been a fun one.

Also, Wal-Mart. I buy tampons there once AF arrives. Talk about a walk of shame. I sit in the parking lot and cry before I march in. Maybe I should just spend $100 next pay and never go back.

By: Paz

Paz — Tue, 21 Aug 2007 00:23:00 +0000

I was in amsterdam when “something felt wrong” and indeed returned to no heartbeat at 11 weeks. Then I was in Amsterdam again at 20-somehting weeks and I bled a little. Boy, did bad memories come flooding back. second time around, I was lucky and everything was OK. But for me the first Amsterdam is not the same place as the second…I have thought about that often.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 23:34:00 +0000

I definitely avoid all baby stores. Ordering online is the best, you can cry in the privacy of your own home.

Work is tough because I usually leave to go to the RE appointments and come back with hope or sometimes sadness. Unfortuately I can’t avoid that yet.

By: pink

pink — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 21:34:00 +0000

My location casualty is not IF-related, but rather due a screwed-up relationship with my father and step-mother: Hilton Head, SC. I had a number of horrible trips down there when I was trying to work on our relationship before his death four years ago. As a result of these bad memories, Hilton Head is hell on earth for me. We have family and friends who vacation there every year and I just shake my head because that entire island makes me feel nauseated. You could offer me an all-expenses paid trip there and I would turn it down so quickly your head would spin. Pity, because I could use a vacation!

By: Pamela Jeanne

Pamela Jeanne — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 21:05:00 +0000

A restaurant called Steamers — went there right after my last IVF resulted in a BFN. I was seated next to a table of fertile myrtles gathered for an informal pregnancy celebration. It just about killed me listening to them while I waited for DH to join me. Alone, coping with a BFN and the universe seemed to be mocking me.