Comments on: Natural Miscarriage

By: Mrsp

Mrsp — Sat, 30 Apr 2011 19:46:54 +0000

I went into er at almost 11 weeks with bleeding and cramping. After the ultrasound was dine the doc said my baby had passed away at about 8 weeks. I will not ever recommend to have a natural miscarriage. I was in er two nights in a row screaming in agony with 1 min contractions that were horrific compared to giving birth to my twins. They gave me morphine that did nothing, they gave me the strongest pain killer they had after the morphine and I was still screaming and in the worst pain of my life. GET THE D&C it will save u so much pain and you may feel a bit yucky from it but compared to the last 2 nights of he’ll I’ve endured I wish they had sent me for d& c instead of going through this. God bless you- get the d& c

By: joyce

joyce — Sun, 10 Apr 2011 16:10:49 +0000

Thank you for so openly and honestly sharing all of your experiences, especially grateful to the original poster. I just went through my 2nd miscarriage, literally last night. I was 8 weeks when the baby passed away. Yesterday would’ve been 13 weeks along and I had found out there was no more heartbeat at an u/s at 9 weeks, so I’ve been waiting for 5 weeks to miscarry naturally and these past 5 weeks have been emotional torture. But I’m glad to have closure finally. It’s scary to even think about what the future holds, but I’m a person of faith and I believe that God will give me a healthy pregnancy and baby one day if it is in His will. The 1st miscarriage was less painful. I basically saw no h/b at 12 weeks (they had me come in for an u/s because I started bleeding lightly, but more than spotting) and the next night I started heavy bleeding and passing out clots and also 1 glob that was definitely the fetus. The cramps I had were similar to that of a painful period but I was about to talk to my husband through them. I basically sat on the toilet for about 3 hours and then everything had come out and the heavy bleeding subsided and I was able to go to bed. I took 2 Motrin (200 mg each) and that was enough to get me through the worst of it. I then took Motrin PM which was very effective to help me sleep that first night.

This 2nd miscarriage (last night) was a lot more painful. I had contractions (they were much more painful than period cramps) that left me speechless, it was hard to even scream they were sooo painful. I bled more than last time (I think) and the clots were less well defined (last time was more circular globs, sorry if TMI) chunks. I continue to bleed but not so heavy as last night and I hope that everything has cleared out of me. I hope what I’ve shared help those who are also going through this.

Miscarriages are so painful, esp. emotionally, I do believe that God knows what He’s doing in my life and that these 2 pregnancies weren’t meant to be, but I hope to have even just 1 child biologically and so I will give my body time to heal for now and pray and ask God to lead me and my DH as we continue our journey to try to have a family.

By: Gingersnap Alley

Gingersnap Alley — Mon, 21 Mar 2011 15:56:51 +0000

Ok I’m a total idiot when it comes to this subject so I’m fortunate to have you to share this with me. Thank you. I have never had a miscarriage. I have three children but I’m not saying this to rub it in…please excuse me if I insult anyone (I’m an idiot remember?). I have a friend who’s been having miscarriages since 2007. She’s a WONDERFUL person. She’s the type of person who others can’t resist. I love her to pieces, but I don’t know what to say to her about her loss. To make matters worse, I feel like I add insult to injury because not only do I have three kids, but two of them happen to be twins. I feel like a super-fertile monster in her presence. I don’t know maybe it’s all in my head. Now she’s preggo again! I thank the sars for that, but I haven’t talked to her in about a year because I’m afraid of :
A. her losing this baby too (dont think I can handle it)
2.saying something stupid

So if you or anyone reading this has ANY advice for me, that would be great. I miss her sooooooo much. And again, I apologize for my ignorance if I’ve projected any. Thank you again.

By: Debi

Debi — Sun, 14 Nov 2010 15:58:18 +0000

I went in for my 12 week check-up and found out the baby stopped developing at 8 weeks. Now just waiting for the inevitable. Started having some spotting and tissue come out a couple of days later but not much else has happened. I just wish it happen so I can past this but I’m a little scared now due to all the posts I’ve read. This was our first pregnancy so I have no idea what labor pains feel like and I’ve never gotten bad cramps with any periods. I didn’t want to use any drugs to hasten it along and definitely don’t want the D&C. Has everyone who has gone through this experienced bad pain and taken a long time for the process to finish?

By: Katie

Katie — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 04:03:20 +0000

I have had two miscarriages, and I couldn’t have said it better myself. I think it is extremely important to “left yourself feel whatever you feel”. You have to let yourself go to that awful, ugly place. Feel horrible, cry until your head hurts, and go ahead and think that it’s the end of the world. It’s not an easy road, but it will get easier…even if it’s just a little bit every day.

By: sprittibee

sprittibee — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 23:39:15 +0000

I had a miscarriage between my 1 year old son and my 11 year old daughter. It was the year before I got pregnant with him. I had been in to see the sonogram and saw a heartbeat. The doctor assured me that even though I had spotted, the heartbeat meant that I most likely would be having a healthy child. My children were brokenhearted and it took a long time until I could walk through Wal-Mart without crying in the baby section. Nice people at church brought me food because I guess they knew I was living in a fog those first days. It felt wrong to bleed a ‘child’ out in to the toilet – at 10 weeks… but my doctor told me that I could have a natural miscarriage and did not need a D&C. It was horribly painful. I had previously given birth to two children, so I was not expecting something so tiny to hurt so bad. I guess labor is labor. No matter the result.

I was scared because I bled for nearly a month after the miscarriage. I do that after I have full term pregnancies also.

Before the pregnancy ended, and after the first sign of bleeding, my doctor put me on progesterone shots. I took these for two weeks. I believe that it is the reason that the baby took so long to abort. Even though we saw the heartbeat at 8 weeks, I believe there was distress – even then… because at 10 weeks the doctor could scarce see the baby on the monitor when I went in with the pain and cramping that began the whole thing.

Thanks for your blog. It is great to see someone sharing and helping with such a heartfelt and emotional topic!

By: Racheli

Racheli — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:46:45 +0000

Sorry for more graphic details, but what I ultimately passed–after a lot of thick clotted blood/tissue– was sort of an air-filled balloon of maybe 1 and 1/2″ diameter.

By: Racheli

Racheli — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:42:20 +0000

I went in for my 12 week appointment and they couldn’t find a heartbeat. An ultrasound revealed that my baby had stopped developing by 6 weeks. In a way it was good to find out when I did, because the natural miscarriage started that night. It took a week before it was over and there was serious, serious pain at the end. It was similar to what I imagine labor is like- contraction-like cramps and pushing at the end. It was terrible- the emotional and physical pain were debilitating. I didn’t think to “collect” anything for the doctors, but my husband and I did bury the fetus in a beautiful outdoor spot. We didn’t share that with anyone- I’m sure they’d think it was strange- but it was really helpful for me.

One cycle later I found myself pregnant again. I’m now 13 weeks into a healthy pregnancy.

By: Anni

Anni — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 19:58:01 +0000

I was told at twelve weeks, that my baby had stopped growing at nine weeks. It took another two weeks for the miscarriage to happen. It was such an awful feeling, to be walking around, just waiting for my baby to pass. When the time came, I was awoken at 5:am with horrible cramping and heavy bleeding. I had never been in so much pain. Mind you, I have been in several car accidents, and have had eight concussions. I could barely stand up, let alone walk. I took a Vicoden, and attempted to sleep a couple more hours. I awoke later to even more pain, and I was nauseous, so I couldn’t stomach any more medication. Believe it or not, I drove to work. What an idiot! I am lucky I didn’t pass out on the way there. There was no way of alieviating the pain. I was soaking a pad every 30-45 minutes, that first six hours. I laid curled up in the fetal positin with a heating pad across my abdomin. My husband finally had to come get me. It took about 48 hours for all to subside. The doctor didn’t even worn me about the amount of pain I would experience. I believe it was tantamount to what labor must feel like. Before this, I was all for natural childbirth, now I am not so sure. The pain was a level 13 on a scale of 1-10. I wasn’t able to collect any specimen for the lab, there was just way too much blood, clots, and misc. tissue. But time passes, your heart heals, and you will find the strength to try again.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 16:49:56 +0000

I am also going thru it right now. Sorry for all of you that had cause to come here. I was at 10 weeks (on a Thurs) when I found out via ultrasound that my baby had no heartbeat and had quit developing at about 8 weeks, I'm now just over 11 weeks. I had very light spotting and mild menstrual cramps the following Mon, then nothing, then some more intermittent spotting/cramping on Wed, not much heavier. That continued all week until today (Sun night 10pm) when I started having really bad cramping, that started to come in waves an hour later, very strong like labor contractions. I took 600mg ibuprofin once I realized it wasn't regular cramping but it takes my body about an hour and a half to feel relief so I had to gut it out. I passed a large clot about 0120 am. My doctor said to try to capture the sample of the baby to take it in for possible evaluation. So I tried to fish out the tissue from the toilet, looked just like someone else said, like a small liver in consistency. They said it was part of the placenta tissue. Nothing that resembled a baby or sac yet. Once I passed that clot the cramping stopped, but from reading these it is not over yet, just a break. I came on here to see what the heck I was looking for, if that tissue I passed should have the baby in it, but it sounds like it is just tissue and not the baby yet. Hopefully I will be able to find it, but they probably won't be able to do anything with it. How embarrassing it will be to take that thing to the ER and explain what it is and what they are supposed to do with it…don't look forward to that. Don't look forward to the next wave of cramping either….
For the girl with the unsupportive boyfriend I am especially sorry you have to go thru this. It is hard enough without having that to deal with. I hope you at least have a good girlfriend to help you get thru it. If not then go find a church close to you and talk to the pastor or whatever they are called there. Even if you are not religious, they are normally trained in helping people thru all sorts of things and can offer a shoulder to cry on and practical advice. If you don't want to be preached to, just tell them that right off the bat, if they are good they will agree. Hugs to you!!!!