Natural Miscarriage
Natural Miscarriage
by Lisa Blogger
First of all, if you’re reading this for advice, I am very sorry that you’re going through this. I’ve had two natural miscarriages, one at 8 weeks with a blighted ovum and one at 9 weeks with an embryo measuring only 6 weeks. I am not an expert on this by any means, and I do realize that every experience is different, but hopefully this will be of some help.
Pregnancy losses that occur prior to 20 weeks are called a miscarriage. While some pregnancy losses necessitate the use of a D & C, other pregnancies end without medical intervention or assistance. This write up is for a natural miscarriage.
Why You May Have a Natural Miscarriage (rather than using medical intervention)
Some doctors will take a “wait and see” approach once there is an indication of a potentially failing pregnancy, particularly if it is a first pregnancy. Other doctors are inclined to suggest natural miscarriage rather than a D&C due to the potential for post-D&C complications (scarring, for example, or if you are not good with anesthesia). If there is a possibility that you are off on your ovulation calculations, many doctors will not suggest a D&C until a second ultrasound a week later confirms that the pregnancy is not just progressing slower than expected.
What You Can Expect
While both of my natural miscarriages were different, there were also similarities. Both times, spotting was my indication that something was wrong, followed in both cases by an ultrasound that confirmed we were likely going to lose the pregnancy. After the ultrasound, things moved rather quickly the first time (I miscarried that evening), but more slowly the second (it took three days to complete).
In most cases, bleeding will begin to increase first. Cramps will begin, often mild but will intensify as the miscarriage progresses. My first miscarriage felt almost like what I’ve heard labor pains feel like, in that there was a rhythmic pattern to them and they were very intense at the end. When I was in the midst of one, it helped immensely to have a microwavable heating pad wrapped around my lower abdomen, and it was almost necessary that I was up and walking — sitting still seemed to make the cramps worse. Also — and this may sound odd — but I somehow knew when I was going to pass a clot or tissue, because I had the urge to go sit on the toilet. As a result I did not bleed as much on a pad as some people might.
The cramps will be the worst while you are passing tissue or large clots. After this occurs, the cramping will subside and the bleeding will begin to taper off, although this may still take a day or so. Your doctor will likely want to schedule a series of betas to make sure that your levels are dropping to zero (some doctors will only test to <5).
Problems That May Arise and Ways to Troubleshoot
If you are bleeding so much that you are soaking a pad in an hour or less, you should go to the emergency room, as this could indicate hemorraging or other problems. Have someone drive you — rapid blood loss could cause you to faint or pass out. It is possible that you will still need to have a D&C if there is retained tissue; a sign of this may be that you are still bleeding heavily after most of the tissue has passed. Your doctor will most likely want to do an ultrasound or at least a repeat beta to see whether your levels are not dropping off.
Personal Tips
If you have seen your doctor for an ultrasound or other diagnosis prior to the miscarriage, try to remember to ask your doctor what their recommendations are and for a script for pain medicine if you think you’ll need it. I know that it’s an emotional time, but try to make sure you are looking out for your body as well. I was distraught the day of our ultrasound and was given no advice on what would be considered an emergency, when to call the doctor, or whether it was safe to take Advil or something stronger. Luckily I had online friends and resources that could tell me some of the things I describe here. When I was still reading loss message boards, I’ve seen many people ask whether they should try to get a tissue sample to their doctor for chromosomal testing. There are a few problems with that with a natural miscarriage, mainly that by the time you would be able to get the sample to your doctor it would likely be unusable, not to mention collection/storage and the emotional aspect of doing this.
I was extremely calm during my miscarriages, but extremely emotional afterwards. Be sure that you take some time for yourself if at all possible and just allow yourself to feel whatever you feel. It will help with the grieving process if you do not try to resume “normal” life immediately.
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May I ask how far along you were with each one of your miscarriages?
Thank you for that. I am going through it this moment and your blog reassured me that what I am feeling is normal. Best of luck to you.
I had a miscarriage @ 7 weeks found out i was preg @ 5 weeks had bleeding for couple of days, so had a scan and was told had 50/50 chance. so was told to go back in 2weeks which i did and there was nothing there even though i had no further bleeding in them 2 weeks. i have since had to go back to the hospi every monday to test my hormone level they call me back every mond afternoon with the results and still after 3 weeks my hormone level is still 44, they have said until it drops below 25 i will not be discarged. i have not yet had a period do you know when i should get my period back so i can start trying again? also do you know why my hormone level is still high?
im 6 weeks pregnant, been bleeding like a period since yesterday with some cramps and small clots, the doc says it dont look good, but things may be ok if its a twin etc,im so upset i will lose baby i keep looking for it in the loo, im waiting for a scan now, i feel so alone as my bf dont want it anyway,i keep crying but its hard knowing as im loosing it, he is so relieved inside, lifes so tough sometimes, but its so wanted by me, how long can i bleed for before i may loose it? help any1 please??
My first miscarriage was at 6 weeks, and I kept having really intense pain for 1/2hr or so and then no pain at all for a couple of hours… it took me a while before it hit me that my body was going through contractions.
I am also going thru it right now. Sorry for all of you that had cause to come here. I was at 10 weeks (on a Thurs) when I found out via ultrasound that my baby had no heartbeat and had quit developing at about 8 weeks, I'm now just over 11 weeks. I had very light spotting and mild menstrual cramps the following Mon, then nothing, then some more intermittent spotting/cramping on Wed, not much heavier. That continued all week until today (Sun night 10pm) when I started having really bad cramping, that started to come in waves an hour later, very strong like labor contractions. I took 600mg ibuprofin once I realized it wasn't regular cramping but it takes my body about an hour and a half to feel relief so I had to gut it out. I passed a large clot about 0120 am. My doctor said to try to capture the sample of the baby to take it in for possible evaluation. So I tried to fish out the tissue from the toilet, looked just like someone else said, like a small liver in consistency. They said it was part of the placenta tissue. Nothing that resembled a baby or sac yet. Once I passed that clot the cramping stopped, but from reading these it is not over yet, just a break. I came on here to see what the heck I was looking for, if that tissue I passed should have the baby in it, but it sounds like it is just tissue and not the baby yet. Hopefully I will be able to find it, but they probably won't be able to do anything with it. How embarrassing it will be to take that thing to the ER and explain what it is and what they are supposed to do with it…don't look forward to that. Don't look forward to the next wave of cramping either….
For the girl with the unsupportive boyfriend I am especially sorry you have to go thru this. It is hard enough without having that to deal with. I hope you at least have a good girlfriend to help you get thru it. If not then go find a church close to you and talk to the pastor or whatever they are called there. Even if you are not religious, they are normally trained in helping people thru all sorts of things and can offer a shoulder to cry on and practical advice. If you don't want to be preached to, just tell them that right off the bat, if they are good they will agree. Hugs to you!!!!
I was told at twelve weeks, that my baby had stopped growing at nine weeks. It took another two weeks for the miscarriage to happen. It was such an awful feeling, to be walking around, just waiting for my baby to pass. When the time came, I was awoken at 5:am with horrible cramping and heavy bleeding. I had never been in so much pain. Mind you, I have been in several car accidents, and have had eight concussions. I could barely stand up, let alone walk. I took a Vicoden, and attempted to sleep a couple more hours. I awoke later to even more pain, and I was nauseous, so I couldn’t stomach any more medication. Believe it or not, I drove to work. What an idiot! I am lucky I didn’t pass out on the way there. There was no way of alieviating the pain. I was soaking a pad every 30-45 minutes, that first six hours. I laid curled up in the fetal positin with a heating pad across my abdomin. My husband finally had to come get me. It took about 48 hours for all to subside. The doctor didn’t even worn me about the amount of pain I would experience. I believe it was tantamount to what labor must feel like. Before this, I was all for natural childbirth, now I am not so sure. The pain was a level 13 on a scale of 1-10. I wasn’t able to collect any specimen for the lab, there was just way too much blood, clots, and misc. tissue. But time passes, your heart heals, and you will find the strength to try again.
I went in for my 12 week appointment and they couldn’t find a heartbeat. An ultrasound revealed that my baby had stopped developing by 6 weeks. In a way it was good to find out when I did, because the natural miscarriage started that night. It took a week before it was over and there was serious, serious pain at the end. It was similar to what I imagine labor is like- contraction-like cramps and pushing at the end. It was terrible- the emotional and physical pain were debilitating. I didn’t think to “collect” anything for the doctors, but my husband and I did bury the fetus in a beautiful outdoor spot. We didn’t share that with anyone- I’m sure they’d think it was strange- but it was really helpful for me.
One cycle later I found myself pregnant again. I’m now 13 weeks into a healthy pregnancy.
Sorry for more graphic details, but what I ultimately passed–after a lot of thick clotted blood/tissue– was sort of an air-filled balloon of maybe 1 and 1/2″ diameter.
I had a miscarriage between my 1 year old son and my 11 year old daughter. It was the year before I got pregnant with him. I had been in to see the sonogram and saw a heartbeat. The doctor assured me that even though I had spotted, the heartbeat meant that I most likely would be having a healthy child. My children were brokenhearted and it took a long time until I could walk through Wal-Mart without crying in the baby section. Nice people at church brought me food because I guess they knew I was living in a fog those first days. It felt wrong to bleed a ‘child’ out in to the toilet – at 10 weeks… but my doctor told me that I could have a natural miscarriage and did not need a D&C. It was horribly painful. I had previously given birth to two children, so I was not expecting something so tiny to hurt so bad. I guess labor is labor. No matter the result.
I was scared because I bled for nearly a month after the miscarriage. I do that after I have full term pregnancies also.
Before the pregnancy ended, and after the first sign of bleeding, my doctor put me on progesterone shots. I took these for two weeks. I believe that it is the reason that the baby took so long to abort. Even though we saw the heartbeat at 8 weeks, I believe there was distress – even then… because at 10 weeks the doctor could scarce see the baby on the monitor when I went in with the pain and cramping that began the whole thing.
Thanks for your blog. It is great to see someone sharing and helping with such a heartfelt and emotional topic!
I have had two miscarriages, and I couldn’t have said it better myself. I think it is extremely important to “left yourself feel whatever you feel”. You have to let yourself go to that awful, ugly place. Feel horrible, cry until your head hurts, and go ahead and think that it’s the end of the world. It’s not an easy road, but it will get easier…even if it’s just a little bit every day.
I went in for my 12 week check-up and found out the baby stopped developing at 8 weeks. Now just waiting for the inevitable. Started having some spotting and tissue come out a couple of days later but not much else has happened. I just wish it happen so I can past this but I’m a little scared now due to all the posts I’ve read. This was our first pregnancy so I have no idea what labor pains feel like and I’ve never gotten bad cramps with any periods. I didn’t want to use any drugs to hasten it along and definitely don’t want the D&C. Has everyone who has gone through this experienced bad pain and taken a long time for the process to finish?
Ok I’m a total idiot when it comes to this subject so I’m fortunate to have you to share this with me. Thank you. I have never had a miscarriage. I have three children but I’m not saying this to rub it in…please excuse me if I insult anyone (I’m an idiot remember?). I have a friend who’s been having miscarriages since 2007. She’s a WONDERFUL person. She’s the type of person who others can’t resist. I love her to pieces, but I don’t know what to say to her about her loss. To make matters worse, I feel like I add insult to injury because not only do I have three kids, but two of them happen to be twins. I feel like a super-fertile monster in her presence. I don’t know maybe it’s all in my head. Now she’s preggo again! I thank the sars for that, but I haven’t talked to her in about a year because I’m afraid of :
A. her losing this baby too (dont think I can handle it)
2.saying something stupid
So if you or anyone reading this has ANY advice for me, that would be great. I miss her sooooooo much. And again, I apologize for my ignorance if I’ve projected any. Thank you again.
Thank you for so openly and honestly sharing all of your experiences, especially grateful to the original poster. I just went through my 2nd miscarriage, literally last night. I was 8 weeks when the baby passed away. Yesterday would’ve been 13 weeks along and I had found out there was no more heartbeat at an u/s at 9 weeks, so I’ve been waiting for 5 weeks to miscarry naturally and these past 5 weeks have been emotional torture. But I’m glad to have closure finally. It’s scary to even think about what the future holds, but I’m a person of faith and I believe that God will give me a healthy pregnancy and baby one day if it is in His will. The 1st miscarriage was less painful. I basically saw no h/b at 12 weeks (they had me come in for an u/s because I started bleeding lightly, but more than spotting) and the next night I started heavy bleeding and passing out clots and also 1 glob that was definitely the fetus. The cramps I had were similar to that of a painful period but I was about to talk to my husband through them. I basically sat on the toilet for about 3 hours and then everything had come out and the heavy bleeding subsided and I was able to go to bed. I took 2 Motrin (200 mg each) and that was enough to get me through the worst of it. I then took Motrin PM which was very effective to help me sleep that first night.
This 2nd miscarriage (last night) was a lot more painful. I had contractions (they were much more painful than period cramps) that left me speechless, it was hard to even scream they were sooo painful. I bled more than last time (I think) and the clots were less well defined (last time was more circular globs, sorry if TMI) chunks. I continue to bleed but not so heavy as last night and I hope that everything has cleared out of me. I hope what I’ve shared help those who are also going through this.
Miscarriages are so painful, esp. emotionally, I do believe that God knows what He’s doing in my life and that these 2 pregnancies weren’t meant to be, but I hope to have even just 1 child biologically and so I will give my body time to heal for now and pray and ask God to lead me and my DH as we continue our journey to try to have a family.
I went into er at almost 11 weeks with bleeding and cramping. After the ultrasound was dine the doc said my baby had passed away at about 8 weeks. I will not ever recommend to have a natural miscarriage. I was in er two nights in a row screaming in agony with 1 min contractions that were horrific compared to giving birth to my twins. They gave me morphine that did nothing, they gave me the strongest pain killer they had after the morphine and I was still screaming and in the worst pain of my life. GET THE D&C it will save u so much pain and you may feel a bit yucky from it but compared to the last 2 nights of he’ll I’ve endured I wish they had sent me for d& c instead of going through this. God bless you- get the d& c
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