Natural Miscarriage
Natural Miscarriage
by Lisa Blogger
First of all, if you’re reading this for advice, I am very sorry that you’re going through this. I’ve had two natural miscarriages, one at 8 weeks with a blighted ovum and one at 9 weeks with an embryo measuring only 6 weeks. I am not an expert on this by any means, and I do realize that every experience is different, but hopefully this will be of some help.
Pregnancy losses that occur prior to 20 weeks are called a miscarriage. While some pregnancy losses necessitate the use of a D & C, other pregnancies end without medical intervention or assistance. This write up is for a natural miscarriage.
Why You May Have a Natural Miscarriage (rather than using medical intervention)
Some doctors will take a “wait and see” approach once there is an indication of a potentially failing pregnancy, particularly if it is a first pregnancy. Other doctors are inclined to suggest natural miscarriage rather than a D&C due to the potential for post-D&C complications (scarring, for example, or if you are not good with anesthesia). If there is a possibility that you are off on your ovulation calculations, many doctors will not suggest a D&C until a second ultrasound a week later confirms that the pregnancy is not just progressing slower than expected.
What You Can Expect
While both of my natural miscarriages were different, there were also similarities. Both times, spotting was my indication that something was wrong, followed in both cases by an ultrasound that confirmed we were likely going to lose the pregnancy. After the ultrasound, things moved rather quickly the first time (I miscarried that evening), but more slowly the second (it took three days to complete).
In most cases, bleeding will begin to increase first. Cramps will begin, often mild but will intensify as the miscarriage progresses. My first miscarriage felt almost like what I’ve heard labor pains feel like, in that there was a rhythmic pattern to them and they were very intense at the end. When I was in the midst of one, it helped immensely to have a microwavable heating pad wrapped around my lower abdomen, and it was almost necessary that I was up and walking — sitting still seemed to make the cramps worse. Also — and this may sound odd — but I somehow knew when I was going to pass a clot or tissue, because I had the urge to go sit on the toilet. As a result I did not bleed as much on a pad as some people might.
The cramps will be the worst while you are passing tissue or large clots. After this occurs, the cramping will subside and the bleeding will begin to taper off, although this may still take a day or so. Your doctor will likely want to schedule a series of betas to make sure that your levels are dropping to zero (some doctors will only test to <5).
Problems That May Arise and Ways to Troubleshoot
If you are bleeding so much that you are soaking a pad in an hour or less, you should go to the emergency room, as this could indicate hemorraging or other problems. Have someone drive you — rapid blood loss could cause you to faint or pass out. It is possible that you will still need to have a D&C if there is retained tissue; a sign of this may be that you are still bleeding heavily after most of the tissue has passed. Your doctor will most likely want to do an ultrasound or at least a repeat beta to see whether your levels are not dropping off.
Personal Tips
If you have seen your doctor for an ultrasound or other diagnosis prior to the miscarriage, try to remember to ask your doctor what their recommendations are and for a script for pain medicine if you think you’ll need it. I know that it’s an emotional time, but try to make sure you are looking out for your body as well. I was distraught the day of our ultrasound and was given no advice on what would be considered an emergency, when to call the doctor, or whether it was safe to take Advil or something stronger. Luckily I had online friends and resources that could tell me some of the things I describe here. When I was still reading loss message boards, I’ve seen many people ask whether they should try to get a tissue sample to their doctor for chromosomal testing. There are a few problems with that with a natural miscarriage, mainly that by the time you would be able to get the sample to your doctor it would likely be unusable, not to mention collection/storage and the emotional aspect of doing this.
I was extremely calm during my miscarriages, but extremely emotional afterwards. Be sure that you take some time for yourself if at all possible and just allow yourself to feel whatever you feel. It will help with the grieving process if you do not try to resume “normal” life immediately.
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May I ask how far along you were with each one of your miscarriages?
Thank you for that. I am going through it this moment and your blog reassured me that what I am feeling is normal. Best of luck to you.
I had a miscarriage @ 7 weeks found out i was preg @ 5 weeks had bleeding for couple of days, so had a scan and was told had 50/50 chance. so was told to go back in 2weeks which i did and there was nothing there even though i had no further bleeding in them 2 weeks. i have since had to go back to the hospi every monday to test my hormone level they call me back every mond afternoon with the results and still after 3 weeks my hormone level is still 44, they have said until it drops below 25 i will not be discarged. i have not yet had a period do you know when i should get my period back so i can start trying again? also do you know why my hormone level is still high?
im 6 weeks pregnant, been bleeding like a period since yesterday with some cramps and small clots, the doc says it dont look good, but things may be ok if its a twin etc,im so upset i will lose baby i keep looking for it in the loo, im waiting for a scan now, i feel so alone as my bf dont want it anyway,i keep crying but its hard knowing as im loosing it, he is so relieved inside, lifes so tough sometimes, but its so wanted by me, how long can i bleed for before i may loose it? help any1 please??
My first miscarriage was at 6 weeks, and I kept having really intense pain for 1/2hr or so and then no pain at all for a couple of hours… it took me a while before it hit me that my body was going through contractions.
I am also going thru it right now. Sorry for all of you that had cause to come here. I was at 10 weeks (on a Thurs) when I found out via ultrasound that my baby had no heartbeat and had quit developing at about 8 weeks, I'm now just over 11 weeks. I had very light spotting and mild menstrual cramps the following Mon, then nothing, then some more intermittent spotting/cramping on Wed, not much heavier. That continued all week until today (Sun night 10pm) when I started having really bad cramping, that started to come in waves an hour later, very strong like labor contractions. I took 600mg ibuprofin once I realized it wasn't regular cramping but it takes my body about an hour and a half to feel relief so I had to gut it out. I passed a large clot about 0120 am. My doctor said to try to capture the sample of the baby to take it in for possible evaluation. So I tried to fish out the tissue from the toilet, looked just like someone else said, like a small liver in consistency. They said it was part of the placenta tissue. Nothing that resembled a baby or sac yet. Once I passed that clot the cramping stopped, but from reading these it is not over yet, just a break. I came on here to see what the heck I was looking for, if that tissue I passed should have the baby in it, but it sounds like it is just tissue and not the baby yet. Hopefully I will be able to find it, but they probably won't be able to do anything with it. How embarrassing it will be to take that thing to the ER and explain what it is and what they are supposed to do with it…don't look forward to that. Don't look forward to the next wave of cramping either….
For the girl with the unsupportive boyfriend I am especially sorry you have to go thru this. It is hard enough without having that to deal with. I hope you at least have a good girlfriend to help you get thru it. If not then go find a church close to you and talk to the pastor or whatever they are called there. Even if you are not religious, they are normally trained in helping people thru all sorts of things and can offer a shoulder to cry on and practical advice. If you don't want to be preached to, just tell them that right off the bat, if they are good they will agree. Hugs to you!!!!
I was told at twelve weeks, that my baby had stopped growing at nine weeks. It took another two weeks for the miscarriage to happen. It was such an awful feeling, to be walking around, just waiting for my baby to pass. When the time came, I was awoken at 5:am with horrible cramping and heavy bleeding. I had never been in so much pain. Mind you, I have been in several car accidents, and have had eight concussions. I could barely stand up, let alone walk. I took a Vicoden, and attempted to sleep a couple more hours. I awoke later to even more pain, and I was nauseous, so I couldn’t stomach any more medication. Believe it or not, I drove to work. What an idiot! I am lucky I didn’t pass out on the way there. There was no way of alieviating the pain. I was soaking a pad every 30-45 minutes, that first six hours. I laid curled up in the fetal positin with a heating pad across my abdomin. My husband finally had to come get me. It took about 48 hours for all to subside. The doctor didn’t even worn me about the amount of pain I would experience. I believe it was tantamount to what labor must feel like. Before this, I was all for natural childbirth, now I am not so sure. The pain was a level 13 on a scale of 1-10. I wasn’t able to collect any specimen for the lab, there was just way too much blood, clots, and misc. tissue. But time passes, your heart heals, and you will find the strength to try again.
I went in for my 12 week appointment and they couldn’t find a heartbeat. An ultrasound revealed that my baby had stopped developing by 6 weeks. In a way it was good to find out when I did, because the natural miscarriage started that night. It took a week before it was over and there was serious, serious pain at the end. It was similar to what I imagine labor is like- contraction-like cramps and pushing at the end. It was terrible- the emotional and physical pain were debilitating. I didn’t think to “collect” anything for the doctors, but my husband and I did bury the fetus in a beautiful outdoor spot. We didn’t share that with anyone- I’m sure they’d think it was strange- but it was really helpful for me.
One cycle later I found myself pregnant again. I’m now 13 weeks into a healthy pregnancy.
Sorry for more graphic details, but what I ultimately passed–after a lot of thick clotted blood/tissue– was sort of an air-filled balloon of maybe 1 and 1/2″ diameter.
I had a miscarriage between my 1 year old son and my 11 year old daughter. It was the year before I got pregnant with him. I had been in to see the sonogram and saw a heartbeat. The doctor assured me that even though I had spotted, the heartbeat meant that I most likely would be having a healthy child. My children were brokenhearted and it took a long time until I could walk through Wal-Mart without crying in the baby section. Nice people at church brought me food because I guess they knew I was living in a fog those first days. It felt wrong to bleed a ‘child’ out in to the toilet – at 10 weeks… but my doctor told me that I could have a natural miscarriage and did not need a D&C. It was horribly painful. I had previously given birth to two children, so I was not expecting something so tiny to hurt so bad. I guess labor is labor. No matter the result.
I was scared because I bled for nearly a month after the miscarriage. I do that after I have full term pregnancies also.
Before the pregnancy ended, and after the first sign of bleeding, my doctor put me on progesterone shots. I took these for two weeks. I believe that it is the reason that the baby took so long to abort. Even though we saw the heartbeat at 8 weeks, I believe there was distress – even then… because at 10 weeks the doctor could scarce see the baby on the monitor when I went in with the pain and cramping that began the whole thing.
Thanks for your blog. It is great to see someone sharing and helping with such a heartfelt and emotional topic!
I have had two miscarriages, and I couldn’t have said it better myself. I think it is extremely important to “left yourself feel whatever you feel”. You have to let yourself go to that awful, ugly place. Feel horrible, cry until your head hurts, and go ahead and think that it’s the end of the world. It’s not an easy road, but it will get easier…even if it’s just a little bit every day.
I went in for my 12 week check-up and found out the baby stopped developing at 8 weeks. Now just waiting for the inevitable. Started having some spotting and tissue come out a couple of days later but not much else has happened. I just wish it happen so I can past this but I’m a little scared now due to all the posts I’ve read. This was our first pregnancy so I have no idea what labor pains feel like and I’ve never gotten bad cramps with any periods. I didn’t want to use any drugs to hasten it along and definitely don’t want the D&C. Has everyone who has gone through this experienced bad pain and taken a long time for the process to finish?
Ok I’m a total idiot when it comes to this subject so I’m fortunate to have you to share this with me. Thank you. I have never had a miscarriage. I have three children but I’m not saying this to rub it in…please excuse me if I insult anyone (I’m an idiot remember?). I have a friend who’s been having miscarriages since 2007. She’s a WONDERFUL person. She’s the type of person who others can’t resist. I love her to pieces, but I don’t know what to say to her about her loss. To make matters worse, I feel like I add insult to injury because not only do I have three kids, but two of them happen to be twins. I feel like a super-fertile monster in her presence. I don’t know maybe it’s all in my head. Now she’s preggo again! I thank the sars for that, but I haven’t talked to her in about a year because I’m afraid of :
A. her losing this baby too (dont think I can handle it)
2.saying something stupid
So if you or anyone reading this has ANY advice for me, that would be great. I miss her sooooooo much. And again, I apologize for my ignorance if I’ve projected any. Thank you again.
Thank you for so openly and honestly sharing all of your experiences, especially grateful to the original poster. I just went through my 2nd miscarriage, literally last night. I was 8 weeks when the baby passed away. Yesterday would’ve been 13 weeks along and I had found out there was no more heartbeat at an u/s at 9 weeks, so I’ve been waiting for 5 weeks to miscarry naturally and these past 5 weeks have been emotional torture. But I’m glad to have closure finally. It’s scary to even think about what the future holds, but I’m a person of faith and I believe that God will give me a healthy pregnancy and baby one day if it is in His will. The 1st miscarriage was less painful. I basically saw no h/b at 12 weeks (they had me come in for an u/s because I started bleeding lightly, but more than spotting) and the next night I started heavy bleeding and passing out clots and also 1 glob that was definitely the fetus. The cramps I had were similar to that of a painful period but I was about to talk to my husband through them. I basically sat on the toilet for about 3 hours and then everything had come out and the heavy bleeding subsided and I was able to go to bed. I took 2 Motrin (200 mg each) and that was enough to get me through the worst of it. I then took Motrin PM which was very effective to help me sleep that first night.
This 2nd miscarriage (last night) was a lot more painful. I had contractions (they were much more painful than period cramps) that left me speechless, it was hard to even scream they were sooo painful. I bled more than last time (I think) and the clots were less well defined (last time was more circular globs, sorry if TMI) chunks. I continue to bleed but not so heavy as last night and I hope that everything has cleared out of me. I hope what I’ve shared help those who are also going through this.
Miscarriages are so painful, esp. emotionally, I do believe that God knows what He’s doing in my life and that these 2 pregnancies weren’t meant to be, but I hope to have even just 1 child biologically and so I will give my body time to heal for now and pray and ask God to lead me and my DH as we continue our journey to try to have a family.
I went into er at almost 11 weeks with bleeding and cramping. After the ultrasound was dine the doc said my baby had passed away at about 8 weeks. I will not ever recommend to have a natural miscarriage. I was in er two nights in a row screaming in agony with 1 min contractions that were horrific compared to giving birth to my twins. They gave me morphine that did nothing, they gave me the strongest pain killer they had after the morphine and I was still screaming and in the worst pain of my life. GET THE D&C it will save u so much pain and you may feel a bit yucky from it but compared to the last 2 nights of he’ll I’ve endured I wish they had sent me for d& c instead of going through this. God bless you- get the d& c
I found out several days ago (at 9.5 weeks pregnant) that my baby stopped developing at eight weeks and that there was no heartbeat. My doctor was extremely sensitive and expained my options thoroughly. I could wait, which could take days or months in the worst-case scenario, get a D&C, or take a drug called Cytotec. With what little I could think following that devastating news, I thought I might wait until nature took its course, though I did ask my doctor for a paper prescription of cytotec unless I changed my mind. I left my dd3 with my mother so I could spend some time alone. After several hours of mourning and thinking, it occurred to me that my body was still working very hard to maintain a life that was no longer (my body was yet unaware and still producing plenty of hormones as though all was well)… and that could go on for some time to come. Psychologically, I didn’t think I could personally handle the reality of my body trying to nourish a baby that was in reality no longer alive. My husband came home early from work at that point, and I asked him to bring me to the pharmacy. I picked up my prescriptions for cytotec and vicodin soon after and headed to the house. The decision to take such a medicine (as cytotec) was difficult. I try to live as naturally as possible… I hardly ever even take ibuprofen unless my pain is severe. Of course, we all have to do what is best for ourselves, but for me, cytotec was a Godsend. I took four pills along with a Vicodin shortly after coming back home. I started cramping moderately within an hour, and within six or seven hours I went to the bathroom and passed the first of many clots. The second major clot (which I caught ) contained the tiny fetus and passed within 10 hours of taking the medicine. I passed many more blood clots during the rest of day one, but things seemed to be lightening up by day two. So, I was pretty shocked when on the afternoon of day two I felt like I had to move my bowels. I felt an insane urge to bear down and out came a large solid clump of tissue… it was my placenta. I know that’s a lot of info, but I would like other women to know what to expect. We all came here looking for info, right? Anyway, I am emarking now on day five and still bleeding quite a bit, with the occasional clot. I’m cramping much worse now that my uterus is contracting back to its original size. The pain has been awful, but the Vicodin has been really helpful. I tried to avoid taking it, but the pain became unbearable. I just wish I knew how long this process is going to last.
My husband and I planted a tree in memoriam and buried our baby right beside it. I was embarrassed to even tell my husband that I kept the baby, but he understood completely. Some may find that strange, but — however small and undeveloped he or she my have been — that tiny fetus was my child. One can do an awful lot of dreaming and hoping in five to six weeks, which is how much time passed between the time I learned I would be having a baby and the time I learned I wouldn’t. Now that the physical part is coming to a close, I can work on healing. I have been blessed with a supportive husband and family who are all helping me and praying for me in this time of need.
Thanks to everyone for sharing here, and thanks for giving me the opportunity to share.
I do believe I am currently going through a miscarriage. I am about 7wks. I have been cramping for a few days, but not bleeding. Yesterday morning I began to spot bright red and the cramping became a little more intense. It stayed that way pretty much all day. As the day progress the tenderness I was feeling in my breast from the pregnancy has disappeared and I don’t have any other pregnancy symptoms. I woke this morning and the bleeding has stopped, but the cramping is still there and is coming in waves like contractions. The pain is spreading to my back. Can I still be in the mist of a miscarriage if there is no bleeding right now?
I found out July 18th that I was 6 weeks pregnant. My husband and I were always of the mindset that if it happened it happened. Though at age 39, I had it in my head that if we were going to do it, this should be the year. Much to my own surprise, we were blessed and after a few days of getting my head wrapped around the idea, we were very excited. After some blood work, my doctor put me on progesterone pills twice a day, as the HCG level was high, but progesterone was in the low end of the normal range. On Thursday July 26, I downloaded Melissa’s book “Navigating the Land of IF” because one of my employees has been dealing with endometriosis issues since the beginning of the year, and I really wanted to know more of what she is dealing with and hopefully gain some insight in order to share my news with her in the most sensitive way. In the week since finding out my positive results, we shared the news with close friends and family. I did have some light spotting sporatically during the week. On Saturday July 28th I woke up with lower back pain, and began bleeding throughout the day, the cramping was consistent and getting worse. I called my doctor and was told to go to the ER for an ultrasound. My husband drove me to the ER, the on call doctor did a pelvic exam and attempted to reassure me that it was just implantation bleeding. I didn’t see how that could be possible at this stage and at this level of bleeding. They drew some bloodwork and after about a half hour a technician came to transport me to the ultrasound room. When I stepped off the bed, everything gushed out of me all over the floor. I started crying, the technician was freaked and unsure what to do, and my husband was just dumbfounded. I continued to bleed heavily throughout the ultrasound which showed only the numerous fibroids on my uterus but nothing else. The on call doctor came into the room about an hour later to confirm what I already knew, that I was miscarrying. Everyone keeps telling me its not my fault and I know that’s probably true, but I can’t help but wonder if there was something I could have done.
For instance, I drank alcohol for two months prior to finding out I was pregnant. How much damage did that do?
Though I met with a specialist 2 years ago who assured me the fibroids were on the outside of my utereus and wouldn’t interfere with a pregnancy, could that have changed in the two years since?
In Melissa’s book, she states that progesterone pills are more effective if inserted vaginally. My doctor only said to insert them vaginally if the drowsiness was to much for me to take. Would it have made a difference if I had inserted them vaginally rather than taking orally?
Could I have done more through diet or acupuncture to increase my progesterone naturally?
I’m going in for a followup untrasound today, and I will ask the doctor these questions, but for now just getting them out of my head is a good thing. For now I’m just hoping the bleeding stops soon and I can get some answers.
I also am trying to gather the strength the face the world and deal with the people who were aware that we were expecting and having to tell them otherwise.
Melissa’s book has been extremely helpful and opened my eyes to an entire world I was ignorant about.
I am currently miscarrying right now, this will be my second miscarriage. My first was in April 2011 at 7 weeks 5 days and I was so scared during the whole process that I thought I was dying. No one seems to tell you what to expect during a miscarriage, not even doctors.
In both of my miscarriages my early pregnancy warning symptoms were almost the same, except for a few things. I will explain and hopefully give another woman going through this some ease about what is going on with her body, so not to be as confused as I was.
During both pregnancies I began spotting within the first week of learning about the exciting news. During the first, I was not concerned and had read about implantation bleeding so I thought this was normal and would be okay. However, the spotting lasted weeks and my doctor said there was nothing to do besides take it easy and cross my fingers and she scheduled me for an ultrasound after my 7 week marker to see if we could hear a heartbeat. At the appointment the ultrasound tech would not let me know what was going on and made me wait until the next day so my doc could go over the results with me. I understood this for practical reasons but it was hard not knowing what was going to happen but feeling that something was wrong.
The next day my doc told me that there was no HB and I was going to lose the baby. I had a ‘missed miscarriage’ due to chromosomal defects–the baby stopped growing. I started crying hysterically. This pregnancy was our first planned pregnancy (we had our first child in 2004, he was unexpected) and it felt like a bad joke or a slap in the face. The following day I experienced contractions that were worse than my contractions during the delivery of my son!! I had no idea things would be that bad and thought that I wouldn’t make it through the miscarriage. My husband felt helpless and could not get a hold of our doc right away to see if this was normal. The pain lasted 2-3 hours and after I went to sleep. In the middle of the night I felt something different than the clots I was passing. I went to the bathroom and my baby passed. When I got up to look I could not believe what I saw. It was an actual baby. I had no clue that the baby would come out looking like that and it was the most sad and disturbing thing I have ever seen. I held it, said goodbye and that I loved it and flushed it down the toilet. It took a while to do this though because I felt like it deserved better. But I had no choice.
So now this pregnancy was very similar from the early bleeding, which I kept positive thoughts in hopes that things would be different but yet in the back of my mind knew they weren’t, up until the diagnosis of miscarriage. 1 week ago I had an ultrasound and the heard the baby’s HB and the development was right on. I was so relieved of this and excited that the little nugget was doing well. 2 days later I woke up to go to the bathroom and passed a blood clot the size of my fist. My heart dropped. I went to Urgent Care and my doc again gave me another ultrasound. The HB was still there and she gave me my baby’s first picture! The next few days I began to bleed heavily and went back to the doc after 2 days. A different doc examined me and told me that I was going to miscarry. I was devastated. After giving my hopes up that this one would be different from the last I felt an immediate sense of sadness, hurt, anger, and confusion.
Today I would be 8 weeks and 5 days. Yesterday I had extremely bad contractions, like the last miscarriage. This time I knew it was normal so I just bared through the pain and wished for it to be over. However, the baby has not yet passed as the other did so quickly. Now I do not know what to think or to do. I really want for all of this to be over so I can begin to heal.
Miscarriages give a whole new meaning to feeling empty. I am sorry to all of the women and families that have to suffer through such a hard and unfair time. I just hope that we can all find peace, understanding and acceptance somehow.
It is these moments that make us put life in to perspective and realize how precious life really is. I hope we all have at least one thing that will allow us to appreciate life and not to give up. For me it is my son. Although unplanned I am glad I had him. If I had not I might now never have been able to have another. Since this is my 2nd miscarriage (well, technically 3rd–I had a chemical pregnancy between the miscarriages) my doc wants to run tests to see if there’s a reason for them and if I will be able to conceive or have a normal pregnancy again. I hope everything turns out good.
Every woman and pregnancy is different but I hope that reading my story will allow other women to cope with their pain knowing that others are going through the same thing.I know reading others stories have helped me significantly. I wish the very best to all of you! Keep strong.
am die emmotionaly as dis is my first baby. l was 2mnths pregnant when l had spotting,brown nd it stpd afta 2mths again i had red colour spottn it wil drop nd stop i went 2 clinic wia l was testd 2 stil be pregnant afta 2wks l went 4 ultrasound i was told 2be 2month pregnan instead of 5mnths l was counting it 2be,a wk latar l begn 2 bleed lightly it lasted 4 2wks wit brown,red colour l went 4 scan l was told dat my has developn in 2months dat it hav 2be cleand off rit nw am so scard if am going 2 pass 2ru DC.l somuch it wit passion hw l wish it wil jst out passed out lik.l beliv dat by God infinite mercy l wil try again afta d afta d fetus has bin cleaned.Am tinkn of leaving the baby 2 see if he or she wil latar develop.
I found out a couple days ago that my baby has no heartbeat.i am nine weeks and this is my second pregnancy. I have a son that will be three in november and his pregnancy was perfect in every way so when this happened i was floored and clearly an emotional wreck. The pain i have is increasing and i have passed some clots and small amounts of tissue and i am terrified to do this alone. I would prefer being in the hospital but doc wants me to wait it out… This blog has helped me a bit more and im more calm but its not any less difficult or scary deep down… My heart goes out to all of you and this pain no one deserves to bare.
I sympathize with ALL you ladies I had my lmp around July 4… I work so much didnt even notice I didn’t have another period on 8-13-12 I had this Incredible pain on my right side I thought I was ovulationing so I took the ovulation test came back with two lines I was like huh no I can’t be pregnant…..but excited no I couldn’t believe my eyes so on 8-15-12 I bought hpt it came back positive so excited I text my husband and told he was floored when he came to pick me up from work I showed him the test he was happy and it made me grow even closer to him then on 8-20-12 I recieved my proof of pregnancy from the drs office I was sufficient it was done by blood test we were so happy my due date was 4-11-2013….then on 8-31-12 I spotted I thought it was my body reacting to a period suppose to come but recognizing I’m pregnant I spotted a piece of tissue came out I bled all day the next day I spotted the last day another piece of tissue came out that was it until 9-11-12 I started bleeding left work went to er they informed me I miss carried without giving me an pelvic or vaginal exam or ultrasound I was left there bleeding for what seemed like forever to be sent home saying it was my menstrual cycle I’m not pregnant they took urine and blood sample it came back negative so they say I have an appt with my obgyn today to find out what and why this happened to my angel….
Hello everyone, I was about 24 weeks when I went to my check up. I just went and found out I was having a little girl. My doctor who I would never recommend going to discovered h couldn’t find her heart beat. He said she was jus being stubborn he then jus sent me home
and told me he wanted me to get a ultra sound at the hospital. When all along he knew I had lost my baby. I went to the hospital and had some guy do the test asked him how everything was he then left room
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Then 5 mins later I had some random guy told me I had lost my baby… I found myself mad, disappointed, sad, curious and more. I then went through with a medical procedure and had to he induced it took 18 hrs, I felt very little pain. The contractions hurt for awhile but went away with dialadin. I got a call before this happened my dog I have had for years I raised as my child got out of my yard cuz she was so worried about her mama and sissy her life was taken also.
I never knew how much pain and how unreal this was. I had list my children my life my everything. God I guess didn’t like me very much idk…..
Hi everyone my name is charley and I was told I may not be able to have kids but I had one beautiful little miracle my son and I just found out that I’m five weeks pregnant and I started spotting the other day and went to the hospital to see what was going on the midwife told me it was the beginning of a miscarriage I have been in pain for the last 2 days and I have another appointment today to get my levels checked but I started bleeding very bad today and I’m scared my husband seems to not want to beleave it I think I knew I was going to miscarry s soon as I found out I was pregnant I was excited but I started to get a bad feeling could I have caused my self to have one I’m scared that I did and I’m so sorry to all of you guys it breaks my heart to read all these story’s I will keep u all in my prayers and I’m here with you lady’s I’m almost positive I know what’s going on and in so heart broken and feel so alone but I’m not sure what I should look for in the toilet I would like to burry my little baby if someone could explain to me what to look for thank you
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They had told me after a week when the autopsy was finished I had a viral infection basically a cold and this was the reason i had lossmy child. Still don’t understand when she was very healthy and strong. If anyone has any advise for me please reply. I would like to try again but I am terrifies something might happen like his again.
i am going through this hard phase… had a 7 weeks and 6 days baby… my pregnancy was confimred a week before my miscarrying news… i am passing clots with heavy bleeding ..it was almost like labour pain last night but it has subsided after passing out a big clot around 3 15 am… i hope i have a clean system inside now,,, i dont want to go for d&c… i am scared of it…. child is such a beautiful tthing …developed emotional attachment with the coming soul… telling may daughter that be ready to welcome a new member but Alas! it was Allah Almightys will… i am satisfied that whatever happens, happens for good but i am a human and above all a mother… i feel sorry to read abt the above experiences but when i was going thru the pain lsat night read ur blog and was satisfied everything is going normal in this natural process cz i thought that may b this pain isnt normal or something… thanks ladies for sharing the stories… they are heart touching as we all are mothers and we develope natural bond with a baby the very minute we come to know abt them…
Thank you so much for your posts. I think I had a miscarriage last night and by the description of what you ladies went through I am not more than confident that I did. I actually am taking a birth control pill, however I would sometimes leave it at home when I didn’t know I was going to be out late and ended up taking it a couple of hours later than my scheduled time. However, I was on the week of the pill when you’re supposed to get your period so I just figured it was my period catching up to me for the two months I didn’t bleed (the BCP I’m taking is supposed to give you periods 4 times a year). I had brownish spotting Wednesday and I didn’t have too many cramps so I thought “YAY my period isn’t as bad as it usually is”. Well, last night around 7pm I started getting these bad cramps that got progressively worse and they came in waves but they were very close in intervals. The first thing that came to my head was contractions, however I didn’t even so much as suspect I was pregnant because, well, I’m taking the pill. Around 11:30pm the cramps/contractions were almost reaching their peak when I was squeezing my fiancee’s hand because the pain was so intense and he rubbed my back & my stomach to try & help me feel better. I was literally writhing in pain. Then shortly after midnight I got this notion to sit on the toilet & “push” (nature has it’s funny way of letting you handle things with absolutely no experience). I found this weird because in my 25 years of being alive I had never so much as had a pregnancy scare. So I’m going through these painful waves when suddenly I feel this sudden rush like I had peed myself. This occurred to me like when the water breaks before you give birth. As I stated I’ve never so much as had a pregnancy scare, that’s the best way I could describe it. I thought maybe I was pushing too hard that I might have peed only it didn’t feel that way. Then, I noticed I started bleeding so heavily I couldn’t so much as sit up straight without feeling a gush of blood. I was sitting there for another 10 minutes when I felt something pass and I heard it hit the toilet like a wad of toilet paper. When I look, it was like a small spongy red tissue. Something deep down told me I had just miscarried. The bleed tapered off a bit and I was able to go back to bed. I feel very confused about this because since my fiancee and I are planning our wedding in November of 2013 I feel relieved that we won’t be having a baby out of wedlock (he has two from a previous gf) but it does scare me because I worry if we are going to have problems conceiving when we DO want a family. Which we do, we plan on it, but we are struggling financial right now as it is. I just hope that this is a result of the birth control and not anything to do with me. Obviously his sperm are fine, but infertility and trouble conceiving does run rampant in my mom’s side of the family.
Hi to everyone;
My heart goes out to you all. I know the pain that endures with this.I to have been having a slow m for three weeks. I went to the hospital to have a ultrasound measuring baby at 7half weeks even thou I understood it to be 9 weeks no heartbeat this was on the 3rd jan me and my partner devestated this would be our second child I’m booked in for a dc next week. I have faith to get through this.I am thankful for having a loving family and church friends. It is mportant to take time out and be good to yourself. God bless you all
I feel for everyone. I know the pain. I had a miscarriage almost 2 years ago. The crazy thing is I didnt even know I was pregnant. I can tell you with prayer it does get better.
To the lady with the friend who had a miscarriage, Im sure your friend is wondering why you dont call her anymore. Don’t be afraid to speak to her you might be the person she actually needs at this time. As far as her having another miscarriage I’d say just pray to God that she has a healthy baby!!!
God Bless You All!!!!!!
I want to say thank you so much to all of you wonderful women for sharing all of your very personal, and helpful information. I believe I’m going through a miscarriage right now… I’m 20 yrs old and this was unplanned, it was a very difficult time when I found out that I was pregnant as my boyfriend was quite concerned about multiple things and his family was not happy with my decision to keep this child. But that is what I wanted, and just as it finally is all settling with him and I am growing more and more excited, I start bleeding, yesterday. I had such intense pains tonight I thought something may be very wrong, so I decided to google it, and stumbled upon this which has been the most helpful source yet. I am very saddened at all of these stories, but I feel less alone now. I am going to be very heartbroken for the next.. Who knows how long, but as they say, whatever happens, happens for a reason. I did believe that strongly, but at this point it’s hard to fully put my belief in that.. Anyways thank you all so much for your help, it’s going to help me immensely in this process.
Today I am almost certain I’m pregnant, I’m 5 days late and nauseosus. I’m going to take a blood test tomorrow morning. It is not an event I cherish anymore, this will be my 4th pregnancy, the first 3 were miscarriages.
This pregnancy waas not planned, and the possibilites of a child are very slim. I have what is called unknwown infertility, I’ve had everything done, been there done that. So we are preparing for a new loss, as much as one can prepare. I’ve had 2 DC and 1 natural. In my second I waited to have it natural but had to go to the hospital almost fainting. The 3rd we waited and catched the sack and burried it. My fetus get up to 5 weeks and then die. There is not much we can do but wait. I’m scared, but hopeful that whatever the outcome everything will go smoothly.
So here we are waiting for the wheel of life to roll and hoping for the best and planning for the worst. I’m trying to take it one day at a time as to have some semblance of life.
Although it is a very difficult time, there is life after this.
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