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Natural Miscarriage

Natural Miscarriage
by Lisa Blogger

First of all, if you’re reading this for advice, I am very sorry that you’re going through this. I’ve had two natural miscarriages, one at 8 weeks with a blighted ovum and one at 9 weeks with an embryo measuring only 6 weeks. I am not an expert on this by any means, and I do realize that every experience is different, but hopefully this will be of some help.

Pregnancy losses that occur prior to 20 weeks are called a miscarriage. While some pregnancy losses necessitate the use of a D & C, other pregnancies end without medical intervention or assistance. This write up is for a natural miscarriage.

Why You May Have a Natural Miscarriage (rather than using medical intervention)

Some doctors will take a “wait and see” approach once there is an indication of a potentially failing pregnancy, particularly if it is a first pregnancy. Other doctors are inclined to suggest natural miscarriage rather than a D&C due to the potential for post-D&C complications (scarring, for example, or if you are not good with anesthesia). If there is a possibility that you are off on your ovulation calculations, many doctors will not suggest a D&C until a second ultrasound a week later confirms that the pregnancy is not just progressing slower than expected.

What You Can Expect

While both of my natural miscarriages were different, there were also similarities. Both times, spotting was my indication that something was wrong, followed in both cases by an ultrasound that confirmed we were likely going to lose the pregnancy. After the ultrasound, things moved rather quickly the first time (I miscarried that evening), but more slowly the second (it took three days to complete).

In most cases, bleeding will begin to increase first. Cramps will begin, often mild but will intensify as the miscarriage progresses. My first miscarriage felt almost like what I’ve heard labor pains feel like, in that there was a rhythmic pattern to them and they were very intense at the end. When I was in the midst of one, it helped immensely to have a microwavable heating pad wrapped around my lower abdomen, and it was almost necessary that I was up and walking — sitting still seemed to make the cramps worse. Also — and this may sound odd — but I somehow knew when I was going to pass a clot or tissue, because I had the urge to go sit on the toilet. As a result I did not bleed as much on a pad as some people might.

The cramps will be the worst while you are passing tissue or large clots. After this occurs, the cramping will subside and the bleeding will begin to taper off, although this may still take a day or so. Your doctor will likely want to schedule a series of betas to make sure that your levels are dropping to zero (some doctors will only test to <5).

Problems That May Arise and Ways to Troubleshoot

If you are bleeding so much that you are soaking a pad in an hour or less, you should go to the emergency room, as this could indicate hemorraging or other problems. Have someone drive you — rapid blood loss could cause you to faint or pass out. It is possible that you will still need to have a D&C if there is retained tissue; a sign of this may be that you are still bleeding heavily after most of the tissue has passed. Your doctor will most likely want to do an ultrasound or at least a repeat beta to see whether your levels are not dropping off.

Personal Tips

If you have seen your doctor for an ultrasound or other diagnosis prior to the miscarriage, try to remember to ask your doctor what their recommendations are and for a script for pain medicine if you think you’ll need it. I know that it’s an emotional time, but try to make sure you are looking out for your body as well. I was distraught the day of our ultrasound and was given no advice on what would be considered an emergency, when to call the doctor, or whether it was safe to take Advil or something stronger. Luckily I had online friends and resources that could tell me some of the things I describe here. When I was still reading loss message boards, I’ve seen many people ask whether they should try to get a tissue sample to their doctor for chromosomal testing. There are a few problems with that with a natural miscarriage, mainly that by the time you would be able to get the sample to your doctor it would likely be unusable, not to mention collection/storage and the emotional aspect of doing this.

I was extremely calm during my miscarriages, but extremely emotional afterwards. Be sure that you take some time for yourself if at all possible and just allow yourself to feel whatever you feel. It will help with the grieving process if you do not try to resume “normal” life immediately.

47 comments

1 Mrs. B { 10.07.07 at 11:54 am }

May I ask how far along you were with each one of your miscarriages?

2 emilylime { 02.17.08 at 6:28 am }

Thank you for that. I am going through it this moment and your blog reassured me that what I am feeling is normal. Best of luck to you.

3 cheryl { 04.23.08 at 5:30 am }

I had a miscarriage @ 7 weeks found out i was preg @ 5 weeks had bleeding for couple of days, so had a scan and was told had 50/50 chance. so was told to go back in 2weeks which i did and there was nothing there even though i had no further bleeding in them 2 weeks. i have since had to go back to the hospi every monday to test my hormone level they call me back every mond afternoon with the results and still after 3 weeks my hormone level is still 44, they have said until it drops below 25 i will not be discarged. i have not yet had a period do you know when i should get my period back so i can start trying again? also do you know why my hormone level is still high?

4 bubbalewy { 02.02.09 at 11:36 am }

im 6 weeks pregnant, been bleeding like a period since yesterday with some cramps and small clots, the doc says it dont look good, but things may be ok if its a twin etc,im so upset i will lose baby i keep looking for it in the loo, im waiting for a scan now, i feel so alone as my bf dont want it anyway,i keep crying but its hard knowing as im loosing it, he is so relieved inside, lifes so tough sometimes, but its so wanted by me, how long can i bleed for before i may loose it? help any1 please??

5 Luta { 08.03.09 at 7:34 pm }

My first miscarriage was at 6 weeks, and I kept having really intense pain for 1/2hr or so and then no pain at all for a couple of hours… it took me a while before it hit me that my body was going through contractions.

6 Anonymous { 09.06.09 at 10:49 am }

I am also going thru it right now. Sorry for all of you that had cause to come here. I was at 10 weeks (on a Thurs) when I found out via ultrasound that my baby had no heartbeat and had quit developing at about 8 weeks, I'm now just over 11 weeks. I had very light spotting and mild menstrual cramps the following Mon, then nothing, then some more intermittent spotting/cramping on Wed, not much heavier. That continued all week until today (Sun night 10pm) when I started having really bad cramping, that started to come in waves an hour later, very strong like labor contractions. I took 600mg ibuprofin once I realized it wasn't regular cramping but it takes my body about an hour and a half to feel relief so I had to gut it out. I passed a large clot about 0120 am. My doctor said to try to capture the sample of the baby to take it in for possible evaluation. So I tried to fish out the tissue from the toilet, looked just like someone else said, like a small liver in consistency. They said it was part of the placenta tissue. Nothing that resembled a baby or sac yet. Once I passed that clot the cramping stopped, but from reading these it is not over yet, just a break. I came on here to see what the heck I was looking for, if that tissue I passed should have the baby in it, but it sounds like it is just tissue and not the baby yet. Hopefully I will be able to find it, but they probably won't be able to do anything with it. How embarrassing it will be to take that thing to the ER and explain what it is and what they are supposed to do with it…don't look forward to that. Don't look forward to the next wave of cramping either….
For the girl with the unsupportive boyfriend I am especially sorry you have to go thru this. It is hard enough without having that to deal with. I hope you at least have a good girlfriend to help you get thru it. If not then go find a church close to you and talk to the pastor or whatever they are called there. Even if you are not religious, they are normally trained in helping people thru all sorts of things and can offer a shoulder to cry on and practical advice. If you don't want to be preached to, just tell them that right off the bat, if they are good they will agree. Hugs to you!!!!

7 Anni { 10.27.09 at 3:58 pm }

I was told at twelve weeks, that my baby had stopped growing at nine weeks. It took another two weeks for the miscarriage to happen. It was such an awful feeling, to be walking around, just waiting for my baby to pass. When the time came, I was awoken at 5:am with horrible cramping and heavy bleeding. I had never been in so much pain. Mind you, I have been in several car accidents, and have had eight concussions. I could barely stand up, let alone walk. I took a Vicoden, and attempted to sleep a couple more hours. I awoke later to even more pain, and I was nauseous, so I couldn’t stomach any more medication. Believe it or not, I drove to work. What an idiot! I am lucky I didn’t pass out on the way there. There was no way of alieviating the pain. I was soaking a pad every 30-45 minutes, that first six hours. I laid curled up in the fetal positin with a heating pad across my abdomin. My husband finally had to come get me. It took about 48 hours for all to subside. The doctor didn’t even worn me about the amount of pain I would experience. I believe it was tantamount to what labor must feel like. Before this, I was all for natural childbirth, now I am not so sure. The pain was a level 13 on a scale of 1-10. I wasn’t able to collect any specimen for the lab, there was just way too much blood, clots, and misc. tissue. But time passes, your heart heals, and you will find the strength to try again.

8 Racheli { 02.06.10 at 4:42 pm }

I went in for my 12 week appointment and they couldn’t find a heartbeat. An ultrasound revealed that my baby had stopped developing by 6 weeks. In a way it was good to find out when I did, because the natural miscarriage started that night. It took a week before it was over and there was serious, serious pain at the end. It was similar to what I imagine labor is like- contraction-like cramps and pushing at the end. It was terrible- the emotional and physical pain were debilitating. I didn’t think to “collect” anything for the doctors, but my husband and I did bury the fetus in a beautiful outdoor spot. We didn’t share that with anyone- I’m sure they’d think it was strange- but it was really helpful for me.

One cycle later I found myself pregnant again. I’m now 13 weeks into a healthy pregnancy.

9 Racheli { 02.06.10 at 4:46 pm }

Sorry for more graphic details, but what I ultimately passed–after a lot of thick clotted blood/tissue– was sort of an air-filled balloon of maybe 1 and 1/2″ diameter.

10 sprittibee { 07.21.10 at 7:39 pm }

I had a miscarriage between my 1 year old son and my 11 year old daughter. It was the year before I got pregnant with him. I had been in to see the sonogram and saw a heartbeat. The doctor assured me that even though I had spotted, the heartbeat meant that I most likely would be having a healthy child. My children were brokenhearted and it took a long time until I could walk through Wal-Mart without crying in the baby section. Nice people at church brought me food because I guess they knew I was living in a fog those first days. It felt wrong to bleed a ‘child’ out in to the toilet – at 10 weeks… but my doctor told me that I could have a natural miscarriage and did not need a D&C. It was horribly painful. I had previously given birth to two children, so I was not expecting something so tiny to hurt so bad. I guess labor is labor. No matter the result.

I was scared because I bled for nearly a month after the miscarriage. I do that after I have full term pregnancies also.

Before the pregnancy ended, and after the first sign of bleeding, my doctor put me on progesterone shots. I took these for two weeks. I believe that it is the reason that the baby took so long to abort. Even though we saw the heartbeat at 8 weeks, I believe there was distress – even then… because at 10 weeks the doctor could scarce see the baby on the monitor when I went in with the pain and cramping that began the whole thing.

Thanks for your blog. It is great to see someone sharing and helping with such a heartfelt and emotional topic!

11 Katie { 09.09.10 at 12:03 am }

I have had two miscarriages, and I couldn’t have said it better myself. I think it is extremely important to “left yourself feel whatever you feel”. You have to let yourself go to that awful, ugly place. Feel horrible, cry until your head hurts, and go ahead and think that it’s the end of the world. It’s not an easy road, but it will get easier…even if it’s just a little bit every day.

12 Debi { 11.14.10 at 10:58 am }

I went in for my 12 week check-up and found out the baby stopped developing at 8 weeks. Now just waiting for the inevitable. Started having some spotting and tissue come out a couple of days later but not much else has happened. I just wish it happen so I can past this but I’m a little scared now due to all the posts I’ve read. This was our first pregnancy so I have no idea what labor pains feel like and I’ve never gotten bad cramps with any periods. I didn’t want to use any drugs to hasten it along and definitely don’t want the D&C. Has everyone who has gone through this experienced bad pain and taken a long time for the process to finish?

13 Gingersnap Alley { 03.21.11 at 11:56 am }

Ok I’m a total idiot when it comes to this subject so I’m fortunate to have you to share this with me. Thank you. I have never had a miscarriage. I have three children but I’m not saying this to rub it in…please excuse me if I insult anyone (I’m an idiot remember?). I have a friend who’s been having miscarriages since 2007. She’s a WONDERFUL person. She’s the type of person who others can’t resist. I love her to pieces, but I don’t know what to say to her about her loss. To make matters worse, I feel like I add insult to injury because not only do I have three kids, but two of them happen to be twins. I feel like a super-fertile monster in her presence. I don’t know maybe it’s all in my head. Now she’s preggo again! I thank the sars for that, but I haven’t talked to her in about a year because I’m afraid of :
A. her losing this baby too (dont think I can handle it)
2.saying something stupid

So if you or anyone reading this has ANY advice for me, that would be great. I miss her sooooooo much. And again, I apologize for my ignorance if I’ve projected any. Thank you again.

14 joyce { 04.10.11 at 12:10 pm }

Thank you for so openly and honestly sharing all of your experiences, especially grateful to the original poster. I just went through my 2nd miscarriage, literally last night. I was 8 weeks when the baby passed away. Yesterday would’ve been 13 weeks along and I had found out there was no more heartbeat at an u/s at 9 weeks, so I’ve been waiting for 5 weeks to miscarry naturally and these past 5 weeks have been emotional torture. But I’m glad to have closure finally. It’s scary to even think about what the future holds, but I’m a person of faith and I believe that God will give me a healthy pregnancy and baby one day if it is in His will. The 1st miscarriage was less painful. I basically saw no h/b at 12 weeks (they had me come in for an u/s because I started bleeding lightly, but more than spotting) and the next night I started heavy bleeding and passing out clots and also 1 glob that was definitely the fetus. The cramps I had were similar to that of a painful period but I was about to talk to my husband through them. I basically sat on the toilet for about 3 hours and then everything had come out and the heavy bleeding subsided and I was able to go to bed. I took 2 Motrin (200 mg each) and that was enough to get me through the worst of it. I then took Motrin PM which was very effective to help me sleep that first night.

This 2nd miscarriage (last night) was a lot more painful. I had contractions (they were much more painful than period cramps) that left me speechless, it was hard to even scream they were sooo painful. I bled more than last time (I think) and the clots were less well defined (last time was more circular globs, sorry if TMI) chunks. I continue to bleed but not so heavy as last night and I hope that everything has cleared out of me. I hope what I’ve shared help those who are also going through this.

Miscarriages are so painful, esp. emotionally, I do believe that God knows what He’s doing in my life and that these 2 pregnancies weren’t meant to be, but I hope to have even just 1 child biologically and so I will give my body time to heal for now and pray and ask God to lead me and my DH as we continue our journey to try to have a family.

15 Mrsp { 04.30.11 at 3:46 pm }

I went into er at almost 11 weeks with bleeding and cramping. After the ultrasound was dine the doc said my baby had passed away at about 8 weeks. I will not ever recommend to have a natural miscarriage. I was in er two nights in a row screaming in agony with 1 min contractions that were horrific compared to giving birth to my twins. They gave me morphine that did nothing, they gave me the strongest pain killer they had after the morphine and I was still screaming and in the worst pain of my life. GET THE D&C it will save u so much pain and you may feel a bit yucky from it but compared to the last 2 nights of he’ll I’ve endured I wish they had sent me for d& c instead of going through this. God bless you- get the d& c

16 c { 03.03.12 at 5:52 am }

I found out several days ago (at 9.5 weeks pregnant) that my baby stopped developing at eight weeks and that there was no heartbeat. My doctor was extremely sensitive and expained my options thoroughly. I could wait, which could take days or months in the worst-case scenario, get a D&C, or take a drug called Cytotec. With what little I could think following that devastating news, I thought I might wait until nature took its course, though I did ask my doctor for a paper prescription of cytotec unless I changed my mind. I left my dd3 with my mother so I could spend some time alone. After several hours of mourning and thinking, it occurred to me that my body was still working very hard to maintain a life that was no longer (my body was yet unaware and still producing plenty of hormones as though all was well)… and that could go on for some time to come. Psychologically, I didn’t think I could personally handle the reality of my body trying to nourish a baby that was in reality no longer alive. My husband came home early from work at that point, and I asked him to bring me to the pharmacy. I picked up my prescriptions for cytotec and vicodin soon after and headed to the house. The decision to take such a medicine (as cytotec) was difficult. I try to live as naturally as possible… I hardly ever even take ibuprofen unless my pain is severe. Of course, we all have to do what is best for ourselves, but for me, cytotec was a Godsend. I took four pills along with a Vicodin shortly after coming back home. I started cramping moderately within an hour, and within six or seven hours I went to the bathroom and passed the first of many clots. The second major clot (which I caught ) contained the tiny fetus and passed within 10 hours of taking the medicine. I passed many more blood clots during the rest of day one, but things seemed to be lightening up by day two. So, I was pretty shocked when on the afternoon of day two I felt like I had to move my bowels. I felt an insane urge to bear down and out came a large solid clump of tissue… it was my placenta. I know that’s a lot of info, but I would like other women to know what to expect. We all came here looking for info, right? Anyway, I am emarking now on day five and still bleeding quite a bit, with the occasional clot. I’m cramping much worse now that my uterus is contracting back to its original size. The pain has been awful, but the Vicodin has been really helpful. I tried to avoid taking it, but the pain became unbearable. I just wish I knew how long this process is going to last.
My husband and I planted a tree in memoriam and buried our baby right beside it. I was embarrassed to even tell my husband that I kept the baby, but he understood completely. Some may find that strange, but — however small and undeveloped he or she my have been — that tiny fetus was my child. One can do an awful lot of dreaming and hoping in five to six weeks, which is how much time passed between the time I learned I would be having a baby and the time I learned I wouldn’t. Now that the physical part is coming to a close, I can work on healing. I have been blessed with a supportive husband and family who are all helping me and praying for me in this time of need.
Thanks to everyone for sharing here, and thanks for giving me the opportunity to share.

17 Mrs. Watts { 07.23.12 at 11:19 am }

I do believe I am currently going through a miscarriage. I am about 7wks. I have been cramping for a few days, but not bleeding. Yesterday morning I began to spot bright red and the cramping became a little more intense. It stayed that way pretty much all day. As the day progress the tenderness I was feeling in my breast from the pregnancy has disappeared and I don’t have any other pregnancy symptoms. I woke this morning and the bleeding has stopped, but the cramping is still there and is coming in waves like contractions. The pain is spreading to my back. Can I still be in the mist of a miscarriage if there is no bleeding right now?

18 Southerngirl { 07.31.12 at 11:43 am }

I found out July 18th that I was 6 weeks pregnant. My husband and I were always of the mindset that if it happened it happened. Though at age 39, I had it in my head that if we were going to do it, this should be the year. Much to my own surprise, we were blessed and after a few days of getting my head wrapped around the idea, we were very excited. After some blood work, my doctor put me on progesterone pills twice a day, as the HCG level was high, but progesterone was in the low end of the normal range. On Thursday July 26, I downloaded Melissa’s book “Navigating the Land of IF” because one of my employees has been dealing with endometriosis issues since the beginning of the year, and I really wanted to know more of what she is dealing with and hopefully gain some insight in order to share my news with her in the most sensitive way. In the week since finding out my positive results, we shared the news with close friends and family. I did have some light spotting sporatically during the week. On Saturday July 28th I woke up with lower back pain, and began bleeding throughout the day, the cramping was consistent and getting worse. I called my doctor and was told to go to the ER for an ultrasound. My husband drove me to the ER, the on call doctor did a pelvic exam and attempted to reassure me that it was just implantation bleeding. I didn’t see how that could be possible at this stage and at this level of bleeding. They drew some bloodwork and after about a half hour a technician came to transport me to the ultrasound room. When I stepped off the bed, everything gushed out of me all over the floor. I started crying, the technician was freaked and unsure what to do, and my husband was just dumbfounded. I continued to bleed heavily throughout the ultrasound which showed only the numerous fibroids on my uterus but nothing else. The on call doctor came into the room about an hour later to confirm what I already knew, that I was miscarrying. Everyone keeps telling me its not my fault and I know that’s probably true, but I can’t help but wonder if there was something I could have done.

For instance, I drank alcohol for two months prior to finding out I was pregnant. How much damage did that do?

Though I met with a specialist 2 years ago who assured me the fibroids were on the outside of my utereus and wouldn’t interfere with a pregnancy, could that have changed in the two years since?

In Melissa’s book, she states that progesterone pills are more effective if inserted vaginally. My doctor only said to insert them vaginally if the drowsiness was to much for me to take. Would it have made a difference if I had inserted them vaginally rather than taking orally?

Could I have done more through diet or acupuncture to increase my progesterone naturally?

I’m going in for a followup untrasound today, and I will ask the doctor these questions, but for now just getting them out of my head is a good thing. For now I’m just hoping the bleeding stops soon and I can get some answers.

I also am trying to gather the strength the face the world and deal with the people who were aware that we were expecting and having to tell them otherwise.

Melissa’s book has been extremely helpful and opened my eyes to an entire world I was ignorant about.

19 -elle { 08.08.12 at 3:47 pm }

I am currently miscarrying right now, this will be my second miscarriage. My first was in April 2011 at 7 weeks 5 days and I was so scared during the whole process that I thought I was dying. No one seems to tell you what to expect during a miscarriage, not even doctors.

In both of my miscarriages my early pregnancy warning symptoms were almost the same, except for a few things. I will explain and hopefully give another woman going through this some ease about what is going on with her body, so not to be as confused as I was.

During both pregnancies I began spotting within the first week of learning about the exciting news. During the first, I was not concerned and had read about implantation bleeding so I thought this was normal and would be okay. However, the spotting lasted weeks and my doctor said there was nothing to do besides take it easy and cross my fingers and she scheduled me for an ultrasound after my 7 week marker to see if we could hear a heartbeat. At the appointment the ultrasound tech would not let me know what was going on and made me wait until the next day so my doc could go over the results with me. I understood this for practical reasons but it was hard not knowing what was going to happen but feeling that something was wrong.

The next day my doc told me that there was no HB and I was going to lose the baby. I had a ‘missed miscarriage’ due to chromosomal defects–the baby stopped growing. I started crying hysterically. This pregnancy was our first planned pregnancy (we had our first child in 2004, he was unexpected) and it felt like a bad joke or a slap in the face. The following day I experienced contractions that were worse than my contractions during the delivery of my son!! I had no idea things would be that bad and thought that I wouldn’t make it through the miscarriage. My husband felt helpless and could not get a hold of our doc right away to see if this was normal. The pain lasted 2-3 hours and after I went to sleep. In the middle of the night I felt something different than the clots I was passing. I went to the bathroom and my baby passed. When I got up to look I could not believe what I saw. It was an actual baby. I had no clue that the baby would come out looking like that and it was the most sad and disturbing thing I have ever seen. I held it, said goodbye and that I loved it and flushed it down the toilet. It took a while to do this though because I felt like it deserved better. But I had no choice.

So now this pregnancy was very similar from the early bleeding, which I kept positive thoughts in hopes that things would be different but yet in the back of my mind knew they weren’t, up until the diagnosis of miscarriage. 1 week ago I had an ultrasound and the heard the baby’s HB and the development was right on. I was so relieved of this and excited that the little nugget was doing well. 2 days later I woke up to go to the bathroom and passed a blood clot the size of my fist. My heart dropped. I went to Urgent Care and my doc again gave me another ultrasound. The HB was still there and she gave me my baby’s first picture! The next few days I began to bleed heavily and went back to the doc after 2 days. A different doc examined me and told me that I was going to miscarry. I was devastated. After giving my hopes up that this one would be different from the last I felt an immediate sense of sadness, hurt, anger, and confusion.

Today I would be 8 weeks and 5 days. Yesterday I had extremely bad contractions, like the last miscarriage. This time I knew it was normal so I just bared through the pain and wished for it to be over. However, the baby has not yet passed as the other did so quickly. Now I do not know what to think or to do. I really want for all of this to be over so I can begin to heal.

Miscarriages give a whole new meaning to feeling empty. I am sorry to all of the women and families that have to suffer through such a hard and unfair time. I just hope that we can all find peace, understanding and acceptance somehow.

It is these moments that make us put life in to perspective and realize how precious life really is. I hope we all have at least one thing that will allow us to appreciate life and not to give up. For me it is my son. Although unplanned I am glad I had him. If I had not I might now never have been able to have another. Since this is my 2nd miscarriage (well, technically 3rd–I had a chemical pregnancy between the miscarriages) my doc wants to run tests to see if there’s a reason for them and if I will be able to conceive or have a normal pregnancy again. I hope everything turns out good.

Every woman and pregnancy is different but I hope that reading my story will allow other women to cope with their pain knowing that others are going through the same thing.I know reading others stories have helped me significantly. I wish the very best to all of you! Keep strong.

20 mrs micheal { 08.16.12 at 6:40 am }

am die emmotionaly as dis is my first baby. l was 2mnths pregnant when l had spotting,brown nd it stpd afta 2mths again i had red colour spottn it wil drop nd stop i went 2 clinic wia l was testd 2 stil be pregnant afta 2wks l went 4 ultrasound i was told 2be 2month pregnan instead of 5mnths l was counting it 2be,a wk latar l begn 2 bleed lightly it lasted 4 2wks wit brown,red colour l went 4 scan l was told dat my has developn in 2months dat it hav 2be cleand off rit nw am so scard if am going 2 pass 2ru DC.l somuch it wit passion hw l wish it wil jst out passed out lik.l beliv dat by God infinite mercy l wil try again afta d afta d fetus has bin cleaned.Am tinkn of leaving the baby 2 see if he or she wil latar develop.

21 Michi { 08.17.12 at 7:40 pm }

I found out a couple days ago that my baby has no heartbeat.i am nine weeks and this is my second pregnancy. I have a son that will be three in november and his pregnancy was perfect in every way so when this happened i was floored and clearly an emotional wreck. The pain i have is increasing and i have passed some clots and small amounts of tissue and i am terrified to do this alone. I would prefer being in the hospital but doc wants me to wait it out… This blog has helped me a bit more and im more calm but its not any less difficult or scary deep down… My heart goes out to all of you and this pain no one deserves to bare.

22 Mrs Joseph { 09.13.12 at 1:23 pm }

I sympathize with ALL you ladies I had my lmp around July 4… I work so much didnt even notice I didn’t have another period on 8-13-12 I had this Incredible pain on my right side I thought I was ovulationing so I took the ovulation test came back with two lines I was like huh no I can’t be pregnant…..but excited no I couldn’t believe my eyes so on 8-15-12 I bought hpt it came back positive so excited I text my husband and told he was floored when he came to pick me up from work I showed him the test he was happy and it made me grow even closer to him then on 8-20-12 I recieved my proof of pregnancy from the drs office I was sufficient it was done by blood test we were so happy my due date was 4-11-2013….then on 8-31-12 I spotted I thought it was my body reacting to a period suppose to come but recognizing I’m pregnant I spotted a piece of tissue came out I bled all day the next day I spotted the last day another piece of tissue came out that was it until 9-11-12 I started bleeding left work went to er they informed me I miss carried without giving me an pelvic or vaginal exam or ultrasound I was left there bleeding for what seemed like forever to be sent home saying it was my menstrual cycle I’m not pregnant they took urine and blood sample it came back negative so they say I have an appt with my obgyn today to find out what and why this happened to my angel….

23 my angle above { 10.05.12 at 12:59 pm }

Hello everyone, I was about 24 weeks when I went to my check up. I just went and found out I was having a little girl. My doctor who I would never recommend going to discovered h couldn’t find her heart beat. He said she was jus being stubborn he then jus sent me home
and told me he wanted me to get a ultra sound at the hospital. When all along he knew I had lost my baby. I went to the hospital and had some guy do the test asked him how everything was he then left room

24 my angle above { 10.05.12 at 1:08 pm }

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Then 5 mins later I had some random guy told me I had lost my baby… I found myself mad, disappointed, sad, curious and more. I then went through with a medical procedure and had to he induced it took 18 hrs, I felt very little pain. The contractions hurt for awhile but went away with dialadin. I got a call before this happened my dog I have had for years I raised as my child got out of my yard cuz she was so worried about her mama and sissy her life was taken also.
I never knew how much pain and how unreal this was. I had list my children my life my everything. God I guess didn’t like me very much idk…..

25 Charley { 10.05.12 at 1:11 pm }

Hi everyone my name is charley and I was told I may not be able to have kids but I had one beautiful little miracle my son and I just found out that I’m five weeks pregnant and I started spotting the other day and went to the hospital to see what was going on the midwife told me it was the beginning of a miscarriage I have been in pain for the last 2 days and I have another appointment today to get my levels checked but I started bleeding very bad today and I’m scared my husband seems to not want to beleave it I think I knew I was going to miscarry s soon as I found out I was pregnant I was excited but I started to get a bad feeling could I have caused my self to have one I’m scared that I did and I’m so sorry to all of you guys it breaks my heart to read all these story’s I will keep u all in my prayers and I’m here with you lady’s I’m almost positive I know what’s going on and in so heart broken and feel so alone but I’m not sure what I should look for in the toilet I would like to burry my little baby if someone could explain to me what to look for thank you

26 my angle above { 10.05.12 at 1:12 pm }

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They had told me after a week when the autopsy was finished I had a viral infection basically a cold and this was the reason i had lossmy child. Still don’t understand when she was very healthy and strong. If anyone has any advise for me please reply. I would like to try again but I am terrifies something might happen like his again. :(

27 mariam { 10.10.12 at 7:12 am }

i am going through this hard phase… had a 7 weeks and 6 days baby… my pregnancy was confimred a week before my miscarrying news… i am passing clots with heavy bleeding ..it was almost like labour pain last night but it has subsided after passing out a big clot around 3 15 am… i hope i have a clean system inside now,,, i dont want to go for d&c… i am scared of it…. child is such a beautiful tthing …developed emotional attachment with the coming soul… telling may daughter that be ready to welcome a new member but Alas! it was Allah Almightys will… i am satisfied that whatever happens, happens for good but i am a human and above all a mother… i feel sorry to read abt the above experiences but when i was going thru the pain lsat night read ur blog and was satisfied everything is going normal in this natural process cz i thought that may b this pain isnt normal or something… thanks ladies for sharing the stories… they are heart touching as we all are mothers and we develope natural bond with a baby the very minute we come to know abt them…

28 Anonymous { 12.21.12 at 11:17 am }

Thank you so much for your posts. I think I had a miscarriage last night and by the description of what you ladies went through I am not more than confident that I did. I actually am taking a birth control pill, however I would sometimes leave it at home when I didn’t know I was going to be out late and ended up taking it a couple of hours later than my scheduled time. However, I was on the week of the pill when you’re supposed to get your period so I just figured it was my period catching up to me for the two months I didn’t bleed (the BCP I’m taking is supposed to give you periods 4 times a year). I had brownish spotting Wednesday and I didn’t have too many cramps so I thought “YAY my period isn’t as bad as it usually is”. Well, last night around 7pm I started getting these bad cramps that got progressively worse and they came in waves but they were very close in intervals. The first thing that came to my head was contractions, however I didn’t even so much as suspect I was pregnant because, well, I’m taking the pill. Around 11:30pm the cramps/contractions were almost reaching their peak when I was squeezing my fiancee’s hand because the pain was so intense and he rubbed my back & my stomach to try & help me feel better. I was literally writhing in pain. Then shortly after midnight I got this notion to sit on the toilet & “push” (nature has it’s funny way of letting you handle things with absolutely no experience). I found this weird because in my 25 years of being alive I had never so much as had a pregnancy scare. So I’m going through these painful waves when suddenly I feel this sudden rush like I had peed myself. This occurred to me like when the water breaks before you give birth. As I stated I’ve never so much as had a pregnancy scare, that’s the best way I could describe it. I thought maybe I was pushing too hard that I might have peed only it didn’t feel that way. Then, I noticed I started bleeding so heavily I couldn’t so much as sit up straight without feeling a gush of blood. I was sitting there for another 10 minutes when I felt something pass and I heard it hit the toilet like a wad of toilet paper. When I look, it was like a small spongy red tissue. Something deep down told me I had just miscarried. The bleed tapered off a bit and I was able to go back to bed. I feel very confused about this because since my fiancee and I are planning our wedding in November of 2013 I feel relieved that we won’t be having a baby out of wedlock (he has two from a previous gf) but it does scare me because I worry if we are going to have problems conceiving when we DO want a family. Which we do, we plan on it, but we are struggling financial right now as it is. I just hope that this is a result of the birth control and not anything to do with me. Obviously his sperm are fine, but infertility and trouble conceiving does run rampant in my mom’s side of the family.

29 mel { 01.06.13 at 7:11 am }

Hi to everyone;
My heart goes out to you all. I know the pain that endures with this.I to have been having a slow m for three weeks. I went to the hospital to have a ultrasound measuring baby at 7half weeks even thou I understood it to be 9 weeks no heartbeat this was on the 3rd jan me and my partner devestated this would be our second child I’m booked in for a dc next week. I have faith to get through this.I am thankful for having a loving family and church friends. It is mportant to take time out and be good to yourself. God bless you all

30 Mrs LALA { 02.20.13 at 9:59 am }

I feel for everyone. I know the pain. I had a miscarriage almost 2 years ago. The crazy thing is I didnt even know I was pregnant. I can tell you with prayer it does get better.
To the lady with the friend who had a miscarriage, Im sure your friend is wondering why you dont call her anymore. Don’t be afraid to speak to her you might be the person she actually needs at this time. As far as her having another miscarriage I’d say just pray to God that she has a healthy baby!!!
God Bless You All!!!!!!

31 Anonymous { 03.15.13 at 4:13 am }

I want to say thank you so much to all of you wonderful women for sharing all of your very personal, and helpful information. I believe I’m going through a miscarriage right now… I’m 20 yrs old and this was unplanned, it was a very difficult time when I found out that I was pregnant as my boyfriend was quite concerned about multiple things and his family was not happy with my decision to keep this child. But that is what I wanted, and just as it finally is all settling with him and I am growing more and more excited, I start bleeding, yesterday. I had such intense pains tonight I thought something may be very wrong, so I decided to google it, and stumbled upon this which has been the most helpful source yet. I am very saddened at all of these stories, but I feel less alone now. I am going to be very heartbroken for the next.. Who knows how long, but as they say, whatever happens, happens for a reason. I did believe that strongly, but at this point it’s hard to fully put my belief in that.. Anyways thank you all so much for your help, it’s going to help me immensely in this process.

32 HelenaDC { 04.10.13 at 5:28 pm }

Today I am almost certain I’m pregnant, I’m 5 days late and nauseosus. I’m going to take a blood test tomorrow morning. It is not an event I cherish anymore, this will be my 4th pregnancy, the first 3 were miscarriages.

This pregnancy waas not planned, and the possibilites of a child are very slim. I have what is called unknwown infertility, I’ve had everything done, been there done that. So we are preparing for a new loss, as much as one can prepare. I’ve had 2 DC and 1 natural. In my second I waited to have it natural but had to go to the hospital almost fainting. The 3rd we waited and catched the sack and burried it. My fetus get up to 5 weeks and then die. There is not much we can do but wait. I’m scared, but hopeful that whatever the outcome everything will go smoothly.

So here we are waiting for the wheel of life to roll and hoping for the best and planning for the worst. I’m trying to take it one day at a time as to have some semblance of life.

Although it is a very difficult time, there is life after this.

33 Stacy { 06.25.13 at 4:27 am }

Greetings all. First, I’m feel very lucky to have stumbled onto this page tonight… er, this morning. I feel so alone, disappointed, angry and a bit scared right now and it’s a welcome feeling to read all your very personal stories about when you went through what I am going through right now.
I found out that I was pregnant at about five weeks after my LMP. I’m 35 years old and I have a beautiful five-year-old daughter already but I’m a single mother and I had just ended a six-month long relationship with the father to be. At first I was terrified at the prospect of being a single mother with two children from two different fathers at my age and those fears were only compounded when I told the father and he requested I have an abortion. Abortion is not an option for me. He made it clear he wanted nothing to do with me, the pregnancy or the child to be.
Despite all that I found myself becoming quite excited about the idea of having another life growing inside me to nourish and love. At six weeks I had my first ultrasound (inter-vag) and was just elated as I watched the tiny heart beat. I scheduled my follow up, more complete ultrasound for two weeks later and went today at 12:30 PM. The ultrasound tech was an older woman with a very cold demeanor so I wasn’t too surprised when she acted somewhat complacent while viewing my baby. She said something about my baby measuring approximately six weeks three days – which was about the same as it measured two weeks ago when my OB did the initial exam. She left the room to get my OB to check. When my OB came in and started looking at the screen too neither showed any emotion as they went about their business. I asked if everything looked alright and was met with a sharp reply of “no.” Then the two of them went on taking measurements and talking about a cyst, etc. I felt like I wasn’t even in the room. Finally I said “wait, slow down. This is new to me. Please explain” and they finally slowed down and told me there was no heartbeat and that my OB would explain better after they were done. I was advised to schedule a follow-up appointment in one week to double check, at which point if there was still no heartbeat and I hadn’t had a miscarriage, my OB wanted to schedule me for a D&C. I wasn’t given any real advice about a miscarriage, what to expect, etc and in my distraught state I didn’t think to ask any more. I left with my new growing dreams shattered.
Since I hadn’t told anybody that I was expecting, Except for the father, who I really didn’t feel like talking to, I’ve just been on my own since then. Fortunately, my five-year-old daughter is with her father right now. At around 8 pm I went to the bathroom and had some bleeding, which I knew could be the result of the invasive vaginal ultrasound or the beginning of a miscarriage. I went to bed and try to fall asleep. At around midnight I awoke with some cramping and went to the bathroom. I was bleeding more heavily now and passed a rather large clot. After that I went back to my bedroom And I’ve been having regular cramping for the last four hours.
At such a difficult time emotionally it is at least a little comforting to read the accounts of other women who have gone through a similar experience. I do believe that everything happens for a reason and ultimately this probably is the best thing that could happen in my life right now (the way things are) but that doesn’t make it much easier to bear… Especially as I lie here alone in my bed tonight. Thank you to all you beautiful women who have shared your stories and if my story can help just one person, then that makes me feel a little better too.
Warmth and light to all of you – especially anyone going through this right now.

34 Andrea { 07.14.13 at 4:26 pm }

It meant so much to me finding this article since I am going through a miscarriage….my doctors didn’t listen to me when I said I wasn’t filling the pad but everything was coming out into the toilet because I would have the urge to go……so when I read ur article I knew I wasn’t crazy…..ur article actually gave me comfort since my doctor didn’t explain miscarriage very well….well actually the three doctors I dealt with didn’t explain it well….ur article seemed like it was written for me…I can’t thank u enough

35 Rebekah { 07.23.13 at 4:24 pm }

I’ve just had my first miscarriage resulting from an unviable first pregnancy. I was diagnosed with a silent miscarriage at 11 weeks that showed no more growth from 8 weeks and there was little hope of me miscarrying naturally. However, I took Dong quai (500-100mg) and Black Cohosh (500mg) every 4 hours for three days plus 500 mg Vitamin C every hour. I’m unsure as to whether these contributed to my 6 hour miscarriage with severe haemorrhaging but I am very grateful that surgical intervention was not necessary. I was also blessed to have a friend working the night shift at A&E. It made the experience less daunting. May all those who have challenges at this moment in time be blessed with peace and comfort that all will be well in the future. My husband and I are looking positively to what the future will bring.

36 Rebecca { 07.23.13 at 11:15 pm }

I have just passed my baby at 10weeks this is the 11th miscarriage and the furthest into any of my pregnancys I’ve ever bin the fetal hb was still dectable at 8weeks though hml did increase for week and development stoped at5weeks it has been a slowlow loss as the oth came suddenly. And finnished quickly this time I had bleeding for and crampingr 2.5 week I known that to try again carries a high risk and I nolonger know ifwaiting to meet us one day I can pay the price may all our lost once rip feel no pain and be

37 thandekka { 10.11.13 at 12:17 am }

i also found out that i was miscarrying on my bithday the 6th of october around 9pm. This is my 2nd miscarriage had one on the 31st of April and thank God it wasnt so painful like this one. Last time i was about 7wks and this time 10wks.during the day on the 6th i was feeling some mild pain which felt like a period pain up to my thighs and i started bleeding around 9. I went to the hospital and was given misoprostol 600mg stat but unlike last time it was very painful just like labour. The contractions were more intense and i felt the urge to push and it came out. I am very sad why this is happening to me for the 2nd time. I am 35 and i am blessed with 2kids a girl 16 and a boy 10. They say it was a blighted ovum.

38 maira hurtado { 01.08.14 at 12:38 am }

Hi my name is Maira Hurtado,
12-29-13 I had a miscarrage and i started bleeding heavyly. after few hours it was like a normal period. Today is 1-7-14 and just went i thought that my period was over , i started feeling week and i soaked up my pad in less than 5 minutes. I ran to the bathroom and felt something come out, but i quickly changed pad and layed down. right know my privet part it hurting and burning and it wont go away…. im also starting to feel sharp cramps in my privet area too. does anyone have advice???

39 smiley { 01.31.14 at 3:29 pm }

Hi i’m going tru the same thing now, i’m sorry for all it’s a berry hard and painful moment in, our lifes my question is how can I find out why this happening I ask my dr and they only say that if it’s not ment to be is not hi will test me and how.?

40 Catherine { 02.03.14 at 3:17 am }

So sorry for your loss. This experience has for me been the most emotional and physical pain I have had to bear. Reading and sharing experiences with everyone here and on other websites has been immensely comforting and helpful to learn and realise what’s happening to me has and is happening to others so I, we are not alone. My miscarriage started as a slight pink spotting on sat morning after the first sex since we knew we were pregnant. I panicked but then reading that this was normal due to vascularized cervix relaxed. It turned brown with thin streaks of darker blood stains and I felt comfortable it was ending and older blood drying up as was fairly light over the next few days although I did call my mW for reassurance… She said 50% of woman with this can go onto have healthy babies call again if it turns red or becomes heavy or painful. I was 6 weeks and 2 days on the sat. At the 7 week mark I noticed a bit of bright red and a bit more amount. It was this day eve and I had started with a bad headache. Went to rest before tea and felt worried and stressed that all was not OK. I think I knew. I also knew there was nothing I could do and if that was it then nature would take its course. My headache got worse and I had period like cramping that I had had mildly on and off throughout the duration of the 7 weeks and decided was normally growth, but it worsened over the next few hours. I remember googling a lot about symptoms and came across the 24 hour early pregnancy unit details at my local hospital. It was out of hours to contact the mw. The nurse there was so nice, we chatted and she encouraged me to take painkillers for my headache and come down to a & e… Even just to reassure you… She never actually said she though it was a miscarriage, but I told her I knew it was.
I cried on the 10 min drive, at my cramping and my head and the tension and realisation of it all. My husband drove me silently tried to say don’t think the worst til you see the Dr and see what they say. Triaged in ten mins but then waited 2 hours. It was quiet in the q though busy. At least my headache went off and the cramps subsided. I remember seeing one cm sized dark brown clot but I don’t think it was a foetus just blood. The Dr felt my tummy all over she pressed quiet hard and there were tender points low down. Satisfied there was no ectopic and after lots of q’s and reassurance it was common to bleed and be OK, which in hindsight gave me false hope and was wrong maybe ( though at least relaxed to go home and sleep) booked me a us scan the next day. My husband had a very big day at work and as we both had some hope let me go alone in the morning though he felt bad about it. After a quick clarking in with a nurse on the epu I went down for my scan. Running late I had to wait 20 mins and they ask you to drink water, it was very uncomfortable. I almost burst. She asked and I said I thought it was already over, scanning me she confirmed my thoughts but said she would just check closely via the internal scan which thankfully I got to pee beforehand.
I was numb and just wanted to go home then.
It was all new to me to hear the 3 options. My miscarriage was incomplete, she told me everything had collapsed down, no distinct anything to be seen there as was all dropping down within my uterus no foetus or sac to be made out though I got the impression it was still in there just ad a mass collapsed together Rather than distinctly visible. She mentioned the size of the tissue mass something like 3 cm x 2.5 cm and when I asked said expect something like a heavy period.
That was 2 and a half weeks ago. I cried a lot the first week, wanted to be alone felt numb didn’t want to discuss it, had nightmare dreams and was in shock and almost disbelief it had happened. I took one and a half weeks off work. Stayed busy at home and walked my dog a lot. Ate healthy meals and had early nights. Not much bleeding or pain but uncomfortable sitting still. At night mild cramping woke me and I felt sad most of the time but stuck in my grief process. Back at work reality hit me, I hadn’t told my colleagues on my first day and couldn’t bring myself to but wanted to. Cried that night and it would have been my first mW appointment (continue)

41 Catherine { 02.03.14 at 5:02 pm }

The tears just flowed silently it was pure grief something I have never experienced, that sort of crying tears that I didn’t seem able to stop.

42 Catherine { 02.05.14 at 3:43 am }

Continued…
Feeling emotionally drained it stayed at home the following day, it was a Friday, two weeks since my scan had confirmedbthe incomplete miscarriage. I was glad to have got over the big hurdle of returning to work and feeling as though I was moving on with the grief process having talked about the things in reality with colleagues was an immense relief. Composed an email to my close family and had nice messages of support back from them in the evening my husband and I shared a takeaway and wine and I began to feel so much more positive… That life was moving on and I would soon be back to some normality.
The mild cramping that had bothered me and occasions when me in the middle of the night returned at 2 am and became progressively worse. I began to feel sick and at first wondered if I was starting with a sickness bug. Shortly the cramping became rhythmical and contractions of pain came in waves building up to an intensity of pain I have never experienced. I felt faint and couldn’t stand to make it to the loo which is where I felt I should be in case I exploded. I woke my husband to hold me as was frightened. I even told him I thought I was dying! I wasn’t actually sick but felt it because of the pain. Between the contractions I made the toilet expecting to be bleeding heavily or to pass something that my uterus was attempting to expelled but nothing came apart from that the contractions had upset my bowels and I had a lot of loose stools ( so sorry for that tmi..)
The episode of pain went on for at least 2 or 3 hours. I felt boiling hot at worst and was sweating a lot and writhing around on my bed whilst moaning and crying in pain holding my husbands hand for support. Luckily I had some idea of what was happening as had read others accounts of this online.
We both eventually went to sleep around 5 am. I found my wheatbag really helped and we had a cup of tea to settle back down. I took some paracetamol then, ironically far too late but they possibly helped me sleep. Its never come back and I never passed anything the next day. I felt tender and weary in the morning and rang the early pregnancy unit for advice. I was prepared for it to happen again and they had encouraged me to go there via a and e if it got worse and they could give me stronger drugs. I wouldn’t have been able to get in a car during the event that’s for sure! I be taken naproxen at bedtime since but been fine each night. My bleeding increased so think my body or cervix is letting more out, may be the cervix has opened more. Passed occasional small clots and one small bit of tissue, similar in size to the other 2 I passed a week or so ago. So apart from more heavy bleeding but not really heavy to soak a pad an hour, only changing them 3 or 4 times a day at the moment nothings changed. I wish it would, I wish I would pass a sac or a large clot, something to get it all over with. Right now it still feels like Im waiting to move on with my life. Physically and emotionally. I went back to my gp on Monday and she signed me off this week. On Friday it will be 3 weeks since my scan. almost a month since that first slight pink bleeding. I tested my hormone level this morning like they asked me to. The pregnancy test is still positive but fainter than this time last week. At least am going in the right direction. Hope others will find my story helpful, sorry bits rather long and detailed. I might update it again later. Love to all who have found themselves here and are feeling sad. You all get through it in the end it will be OK. I know that even though I m not there yet. And I m prepared that it could get worse yet before its gets better. Catherine x

43 ann { 03.04.14 at 8:22 pm }

I’ve just come home from hospital after I miscarried, it started Friday evening, a&e just sent me home (I was on hols) I decided to go back home on the sat, I knew what was coming, Sunday was spent bleeding & churches to in bed till my appointment on Mon morn in our hospital, got to hospital for 12 noon, didn’t get home till 4 pm, all they did was take some bloods and feel my stomach, they weren’t worried as I was not in any pain, I on the other hand new I was losing my baby, at 4.15pm I was waiting for my blood results & had to pass the phone to my mum, I had a sudden urge just to go sit on the loo, I could here my mum on the phone booking a scan as my hcg levels were very high – it was a viable pregnancy according to the results fromwhere you would be able to see the baby in a scan (11wks 4 days by lmp), I had to sit to my mum to cancel my scan :’( by 5.30pm I had passed my babies, there were 2 :’(
6 pm I was rushed via ambulance as I heamoraged & they nearly lost me in a&e, I never had a scan or bloods done, they don’t tend to bother if your under 12wks, I was under by 3 damn days. I am now home & in bed, still loosing, lightly, been classed as border line for blood transfusion, the hardest part is actually going into my bathroom knowing my babies went down there, I couldn’t retrieve them as there was just so so much and my life was at risk. That is my biggest regret, not getting my babies xx

44 Melissa { 03.11.14 at 6:53 pm }

Looking for some advice. Two weeks ago I had an ultrasound and the fetus measured 6wk 4 days but no heatbeat. 48 hcg tests showed levels dropped 8200 to 6500 approximately. I just started spotting yesterday but it is extremely light with very intermittent cramping. Is this normal for a miscarriage or should I call my doctor? This is my 3rd in a row, one at 12 wks – d&c, a double blighted ovum – again d&c and now this. I keep having this nagging feeling that this one could actually be viable and there’s something wrong that could be corrected, but I’m not sure my doctors would listen given the drop in hcg. Am I just misguidedly hopeful?

45 natalie { 04.02.14 at 1:04 pm }

Hi.. just thought id share my m/c with you.. I found out on monday that my little peanut had stopped growing at 6weeks.. I would of been 10weeks.. but last week I started having brown discharge then it stopped for 3days and then came bk with a vengeance sun night mon morning.. I went to the drs this morning and she said it would be best to let nature take its course so that id feel more in control in my own home.. im in so much pain right.. I can only imagine that its like the start of labour like contractions.. I had an over whelming urge to go to the toilet to which I sat down and 2 golfball sized clots came out.. I yelled for my boyfriend who tried to calm me down.. since then ive been to the toilet 6 times an most times have passed more clots but not as big.. I no this is natures way of “getting rid” of what wasnt meant to be but I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.. the pain keeps coming in waves and is making me deel sick.. I have an app at hospital next week to see if its “all gone” and in a way im glad nature’s doing its thing as I dont like the thought of having a d&c.. sorry to go on a bit but I came here looking for advise and found it reassuring reading all the other ladies m/c storys so it makes me feel more at ease cz im quite a hypochondriac.. so thoughts are with all the women who are and have gone through this.. sending prayers to you all xx

46 Cathy { 04.05.14 at 3:30 am }

I was always told by the doctor I could never have children as i have pcos but to mine and my husband’s surprise I feel pregnant. I went to the doctor and got a blood test, the next day he confirmed I was pregnant. I was so happy as I never thought this would ever happen and always wanted to be a mum. A week later he sent me for a dating scan which came back saying I was 6w 2d. I did as he said and got folate tablets and vitamin D as my levels were low. He also told me to have a papsmear. I was hesitant about this but was told it was safe to do so before 15 weeks. After having my papsmear I started bleeding the nurse told me it was normal as my cervix would be more sensitive at that point. The bleeding lasted a few hours then went away everything was back to normal. Last Friday night I went to the hospital because after having intercourse with my husband I stared bleeding. This time it was heavier. The hospital did an ultrasound and had trouble finding the heart beat at this point I was upset and scared. They did a pelvic exam and said my cervix was still closed but I had a vaginal hemeridge. They suggested going to the woman’s and children’s hospital the next day to find out what was going on. They did an ultrasound and found bubs heart beat. I was so relieved. I was still bleeding but all doctors thought that was because of my hemeridge and my cervix was still closed so no need to worry. Monday morning I had a doctors appointment to get my results from my papsmear and he told me if I was still bleeding by tonight I had to go straight back to the hospital. Hubby was working so about 5.30pm I rang him and said I needed to go to the hospital so he came home. Just before he got back I felt like I really needed to go to the toilet and felt like something was trying to come out. I was right it was my baby :( When my husband got home it took me straight to the hospital that’s when I started to get really bad cramps. Ive never been in so much pain. That is when the doctor confirmed we had lost our baby :( When she did the ultrasound she said that the baby had already passed and that there was only some tissue and clots left that needed to come out. She put me on Misoprostol ( abortion pill ) and said this will speed up the process. I had to take 3 a day for 2 days. I finished the course on Thursday I had heavier bleeding with really bad cramps. Its now Saturday and im still bleeding ( Filling 1-2 pads a day and still having some cramps with really bad back pain. Does anybody know when the bleeding should stop ? The cramps have gotten less painful but the back pain is still pretty bad.

47 Cathy { 04.05.14 at 3:43 am }

Sorry for the novel I needed to express everything. I forgot to say at this point I was 10 weeks 5 days according to my dating scan. In both ultrasounds they told me bubs only looked to be about 9 weeks but knew that it still had a heart beat on the Saturday so unfortunately I have no idea how far along I really was. I am so sorry to everyone who is or has gone through this. I know how hard it is :(

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