Comments on: Can You Figure Out What's Wrong With Mama Bird? (Children Mentioned)

By: nursejayton

nursejayton — Sat, 26 Nov 2011 23:22:41 +0000

omg i can so relate to this, i thought it was all in my head, i work at a hospital so i run into kids constantly, have lots of friends with babies…but wow,whew it feels good to finally realize im not mental.I always wondered if it was my dashing good looks and lovely smile tht made babies stare at me straight in the eyes as if they were in some sorta trance. Children cling to me, they love me, even before i knew i was infertile they knew…Wondered why it was so easy to get my 3 yr old niece to call me mommy when we went out together….now i knw, her babedar was wrking overdrive!

By: Ella

Ella — Thu, 27 Jul 2006 18:54:00 +0000

My 10 yr old nephew was playing with his cousin (not related to me) and when the cousin said…oooh, youre so nice why don’t you have any kids, my nephew responded with …She had a baby and it died. I guess this is the way my sis in law communicated to her son that I had a miscarriage. She put it in context that his 10 yr old brain can understand and process. It really stung.

By: Piccinigirl

Piccinigirl — Fri, 21 Jul 2006 16:09:00 +0000

I se this all the time too, and children LOVE, LOVE, LOVE my husband. It’s interesting to watch them become enthralled with him and have him just as smitten. It drives the daggar deeper. I also have a way of just noticing babies, children, PG women everywhere. I often joke that ” at least we won’t see a PG here”..and inevitably there she is , in a place that she would never be unless I was standing here.
I have had our neices (my DH’s neices) say to me , “I just want Aunt Kir to have a baby, she ‘s cool and seems like she’d be a good mom”…now that is a reason to KEEP TRYING.

Kir

By: Anonymous Infertile

Anonymous Infertile — Fri, 21 Jul 2006 00:28:00 +0000

I agree on the babedar. But for me its been more like I never saw kids before I was ttc and now they are everywhere. When we first started ttc I was all happy to be around kids, daydreaming about how I would soon be a mother to my own. As I took on the role of the infertile woman, being around kids just started to make me feel sad.
A lot of women I work with bring their kids in every once in a while and I swear it is just like they are drawn to me.

Kelly

By: Royalyne

Royalyne — Thu, 20 Jul 2006 14:21:00 +0000

My stepson’s babedar is in full effect. His mother keeps getting pregnant (still guessing on who actually is the daddy for babies #3 & 4), and he comes to me and asks me to make her stop having babies so I can have one instead. He’s stopped coming over to me and rubbing my belly saying that I’m pregnant, but still asks me to have his baby brother or sister for him so his mom will stop.

And all random children that just love me- friends’ babies, cousin’s friends’ babies, babies with unknown connection that just happen to be at the same party, complete strangers’ babies at the mall. It hurts to see a baby smile sometimes, but I can’t help but try to be the one to make it happen. My 3 year old nephew refused to go with my parents because he wanted to stay with “Mama Royal” (name given to me by my mother when my stepson and nephews were all together, the got confused when they each called me something different, now it’s universal). Last weekend my best friend’s daughter fell asleep on my shoulder, she still has stranger anxiety and I’ve only been around her 3 times since she was born (a year ago tomorrow), but she has never seen me as a stranger. It’s like they know, and they have to be as close to it as possible.

I think that it’s because we treasure them so much more than “fertiles” do. We crave it so much, our hearts call out to them, our hearts are calling out to tiny innocence and they respond when our own babies cannot. It’s when mom and dad come over and say “you really do need to get pregnant and have your own soon” that I want to hide and cry.

By: Tara

Tara — Thu, 20 Jul 2006 13:39:00 +0000

My 5 year old niece is very aware of the fact that we would love to have a child and is typically very sweet–includes us in her bedtime prayers and gives me Mother’s Day gifts and things like that. She is often very full of questions about why God isn’t giving us a baby right now. One time a few months ago we were eating dinner and she looked at me and said “You’re never going to have a baby, are you?” She said it in a very concerned, sweet way, but her parents were mortified. She immediately knew she had said something wrong and began to cry…was so upset she had maybe hurt my feelings.

But she also comes out with some really beautiful things, too…like the other day while she was giving me a nice big hug she whispered in my ear out of the blue “I hope you have a baby really, really soon!”