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A Whole Lot of Blogging–Brought to You Sorted and Filed

The blogroll is now housed here: http://www.stirrup-queens.com/a-whole-lot-of-blogging-brought-to-you-sorted-and-filed/.  Please update your links as this post will disappear soon.

Once upon a time, the blogroll was entirely contained in this space. And then it passed 1800 blogs, so I broke down the blogroll into smaller categories. The blogroll is sort of like a house, where this post (the table of contents) is the foyer and all the sections below are separate rooms. The blueprint below is interactive and you can click on any room in the picture to go directly to that space in the future, though please keep reading if this is your first time visiting the blogroll.

Adoption Room Loss Room Living Child-Free Room Donor Gamete and Surrogacy Room General Pregnancy or Parenting Room General Infertility and Treatments Diagnostics Room Miscellaneous Room Situation Room Table of Contents

So, here it is, the table of contents for the fantabulous adoption/loss/infertility (ALI) blogroll, organized by category and anally pruned for dead links or better-fitting labels.

A Blogroll of Current (and Former) Inhabitants of the Land of If and Its Suburbs

Misery loves company. Another person’s blog may help you understand your own journey. Click on the red, hyperlinked headings (room titles) to be transported to the room of the blogroll that contains the categories listed below it.

If you wish to be added, scroll to the bottom of this current post to read how.

Adoption Room
Adoption (Domestic)
Adoption (General, Undecided, Foster or Non-US)
Adoption (International)
Parenting After Adoption (Domestic or Foster)
Parenting After Adoption (International)
Parenting After Adoption (Non-US)

Donor Gamete and Surrogacy Room
Donor Egg/Insemination/Embryo
Other End of the Telescope–Donors and Surrogates
Parenting after DI, DE, or Surrogacy

Living Child-Free Room
Living Child-Free after Infertility

Loss Room
Pregnancy Loss
Stillbirth, Neonatal Death and Infant Death

General Infertility and Treatments
General Infertility
In the Beginning…

Diagnostics Room
Clotting and Immunology
Female Factor
Male Factor
Translocation and Chromosomal Issues
Unexplained Infertility
Uterine Anomalies

Situation Room
Cancer and Infertility (Trying to Conceive after Cancer)
The Elusive Male Point-of-View!
Family Building When Single
Gay and Lesbian
More on the Plate–IF and Health Issues
Over 35 and TTC
Secondary Infertility
Single Parent by Choice

General Pregnancy or Parenting Room
Parenting After Infertility or Loss
Pregnancy After Infertility or Loss
Pregnant or Parenting Multiples After Infertility
Parenthood (after the double lines)

Miscellaneous Room
Advice and Venting Posts
Helpful Sites and Support
In the News or Other Side of the Stirrups
Infertility and Marriage
No Longer Trying or On a Break
Non-English Infertility Blogs (French, Spanish, etc)
Non-IF but Written By IFers
Password Protected Blogs
Secondary Mourning (Friends and Family)
Virtual Playdate List

How to get on the list or move to another location:
Most blogs straddle multiple categories. Therefore, unless you specify a category in your email, I have chosen your category for you and I’ve done so trying to spread out blogs so that one category does not become too blog-heavy. You may move into any category you wish provided you belong in that category by emailing me.

I update the blogroll frequently–usually once a week. Feel free to link to this table of contents from your blog–you can call it the Stirrup Queen’s Completely Anal List of Blogs That Proves That She Really Missed Her Calling as a Personal Organizer. Or perhaps the Stirrup Queen’s Blogroll if that’s too long…

If you are not on the blogroll, please email me to add yourself. Place the word “blogroll” in the subject line. My blogroll is perhaps even more inclusive than you ever thought infertility could be. If you think you belong here, you probably belong here and I’m always open to starting new categories if I think there would be sufficient interest.

This list brings together anyone in the infertility/pregnancy loss/assisted conception/adoption/pregnant or parenting after infertility or loss community. From those who were shocked by their diagnosis to those who are utilizing assisted conception because they are single parents by choice. Gay or straight, male or female, every race and religion–all are welcome here. From the newly diagnosed to the oldest vets to those who finished their family building via ART years ago. Again, all welcome.

Prefer to be able to search the entire blogroll at once? Click here to access all of the blogroll rooms on the screen at one time.


1 jess { 08.31.07 at 1:40 pm }

st excellent blogroll! thank you.

2 Summer { 08.31.07 at 1:57 pm }

Very Impressive! You even have both my old and new blog sites! I don’t update on the blogger site anymore, so you could probably just take that link out and use the wordpress link.

3 Pamela Jeanne { 08.31.07 at 2:34 pm }

WOW! I can appreciate even more why you’d need the help of clickers to keep you posted. It would be a full time job and then some to read all of these blogs on a regular basis.

Thanks a hundred times over for the service you do on behalf of the infertility community. You’re a goddess in your own right.

4 natalee { 09.07.07 at 1:03 pm }

Hey, I’m feeling all warm as fuzzy, since I didn’t even know you had both of my blogs (old and new) on your list!

Aw, shucks!! :)

5 Geohde { 09.23.07 at 5:35 am }

Awesome blogroll.

I never can quite decide whether my quirky corner of the net belongs under male factor, female factor, IVF, or loss!

Better keep it general :)

6 Overwhelmed! { 09.27.07 at 6:12 am }

Wow, that’s quite an impressive list! Thanks so much for including my blog. :)

7 oneofhismoms { 10.27.07 at 7:22 pm }

Dag. That’s a lot of blogs. Now I feel even more honored when you read my blog! I feel like I’ve won the lottery. Are your eyes tired?

Thanks for mentioning me!

8 Shelli { 10.29.07 at 10:05 am }

LGBT / Adoption…



9 Not Afraid to Use It { 11.05.07 at 9:38 pm }

Thank you for this blogroll! I will be back to read lots and lots of stories. They make us stronger–we are not alone. And not in an X-Files way. :)

10 futurewise { 12.28.07 at 4:21 am }

Nice blogroll! Can you put my blog to ‘male factor’ list…

11 Ashley { 01.07.08 at 10:29 pm }

Please add me! I’m doing Injectables/IUI…



12 offsprung { 01.10.08 at 12:48 pm }

Mother of God, this is a ridiculous blogroll. You are one patient person to crank out this list. Thank you!

13 The Baby Chase { 01.11.08 at 6:54 pm }

Oh my god, I am such a loser. I have spent DAYS trying to find good IF blogs, and NOW I hit the mother load? Sheesh.

Though I have to say, what’s up with the man’s perspective selection? I clicked on four of them, randomly, and each one’s top entry said “so my wife is pregnant.”

If I get my husband to start a blog, will I get pregnant? Is that how it works?

Thanks again, hon.

14 Amanda { 01.14.08 at 6:45 pm }

Wow — amazing work! I cannot believe all the time that must have gone into this. Thanks for including me.

15 BethH6703 { 01.25.08 at 8:49 am }


Do you even have time to sleep? Blogging 3 sites at least once a week, supervising the blogroll to end all blogrolls, prepping for your soon to come book tour (OMG How exciting is THAT?!?!?!), making your own bread, maintaining a household, and being wife & mother to TWINS!

You, my dear, are an inspiration!

16 kristy { 02.10.08 at 4:26 am }

what an outstanding list of referrals…words could never say how grateful i am for your posting these! thank you!!!

17 Natalie Henman { 02.22.08 at 12:00 am }

Wow, I can’t believe I hit this mine field! Hubby and I are on the waiting list to adopt and I have been battling to find blogs about adoption…

Girl, you rock!

A million thank you’s!

18 Miss Conception { 03.01.08 at 4:19 pm }

I love this list and think that it is amazing! Thank you so much for the compilation.

I have been through six IUIs and two fresh IVFs all with no success. We are moving on to Embryo Donation and will be cycling this month. I noticed that there wasn’t a category for this and was wondering if you would consider adding one.
I need some support right now, but don’t know where to turn.

19 Shauna Wagner { 03.07.08 at 8:08 pm }

Fort Wayne, Indiana

‘thoughts from my life’

IVF and infertility
(male and female factor)


20 sarai { 03.09.08 at 7:14 am }

Thank you! I am 37, single, and have just decided to become a single mom, but haven’t yet decided through which avenue. This is incredibly helpful.


21 Alyson & Ford { 04.03.08 at 6:04 pm }

“all are welcome here”

Bless your heart. This is just ONE of the reasons why I love coming here and why I think you are special…


22 Ashley { 04.13.08 at 12:43 pm }

Can you please switch my blog “More Than Dog Children” to an adoption blog instead of an IF blog?? Thanks!

23 Sammi T. { 04.19.08 at 1:27 pm }

Yes, a motherload of blogs. What a list! Thanks, very impressive. I’m glad I dropped by.

24 smartypants { 04.21.08 at 4:36 pm }

Wow! I’ve been searching for this community for a little while now and I guess I just found it!
I’ve been writing a little about my journey to parenthood (cross your fingers. I’d love to be included if you feel I fit in :)


25 Leslee { 04.23.08 at 11:46 am }

Thank you so much for this great list of blogs. It has helped me more than I can say…

26 Kate { 04.26.08 at 8:58 pm }

Your blog is a great comfort to me lately. thank you for posting and for helping me connect to others.

i have a blog too… which could go under the categorization of “In the beginning”


27 Ashley { 05.02.08 at 6:29 pm }

Can you switch my blog from IUI to domestic adoption?? Thanks!!


28 Amy { 05.18.08 at 5:09 pm }

Wow! What an incredible (and comprehensive) list. Thank you so much!

29 agness { 05.24.08 at 2:38 pm }

I have a blog with information about fibroids, miscarriage, MFI, TTC post vasectomy reversal and alternative treatments. I do have a child now as well…not quite sure how to categorize my blog…

30 Tracey { 05.28.08 at 8:17 am }

do you have a little wiggit or html code so I can put your site on my list without taking up 10 lines to write the title! 😉

31 Momlissa { 05.28.08 at 4:12 pm }

Thank you so much for your wonderful blogroll.

I too have a blog – Chronicles of 40 year old WOHM to 3 under 3. Basically reflective parenting while trying to balance work/life balance with 3 small children (twins and a toddler).

(parenting multiples after infertility, I think)



32 neko { 06.04.08 at 10:27 am }

WOW excellent list.

I have two to add:
(thrombophilia, miscarriage, includes parenting near end.)

(parenting after loss/infertility, ppd)

33 alohajo { 06.05.08 at 5:21 am }

Thank you for this wonderful site!
I was wondering if you could add me to the Blogroll too: I’m currently starting my 2nd DE Cycle.


34 alohajo { 06.07.08 at 5:40 pm }

Thank you for this wonderful site!
I was wondering if you could add me to the Blogroll too: I’m currently starting my 2nd DE Cycle.


35 Kristi { 06.12.08 at 7:59 pm }

Thanks so much for providing this list, and for mentioning my blog. There are so many of us IF-ers in the blogosphere, and it’s great to have so many sisters in one spot. :)

36 Busted { 06.16.08 at 3:57 pm }

Could I be moved to the Loss category when you have a chance (out of Pregnant with Multiples)? Thanks!

37 Chelle { 06.17.08 at 2:48 pm }

Can you add my blog to your blogroll? We are dealing with MF and PCOS. We are starting our first IVF cycle in July. Thank you SO much for keeping the infertility community together and connected!

38 Nic { 06.22.08 at 3:20 pm }

I love your page!!! and would love to be added also – Mum of 2 after 2 IVFS, immune treatment, pre eclampsia and a natural surprise (such a show off!)

39 Bon { 06.22.08 at 5:58 pm }

You can add mine. :)

40 kate { 06.27.08 at 12:39 am }

Wow – was an IF blogger back in the day (Infertile not inferior) and wandered here in the hopes of finding those I used to read. What a list – thanks for compiling, I’m really hoping to find updates and this will help.

41 Princess Jo { 07.08.08 at 3:59 pm }

I would like to say thankyou for for such a great blogroll…I love it and plan to post a link to it in my blog (princessjo1988.blogspot.com). It is a great encouragement to me as a 20yr old struggling with infertility and as I begin the fostering journey!

So thanks so much!

42 Julybug { 07.09.08 at 8:53 pm }

Thanks Mel! I thought I was on here somewhere, but I don’t see mine… could you add me in the PCOS category? Thanks!

43 andbabymakesfive { 07.11.08 at 9:40 pm }

Hi there! I am currently journaling my journey as an intended mother who is expecting twins through gestational surrogacy. I would love to be added to your blogroll! http://andbabymakesfive.wordpress.com.

Thank you! — Sarah

44 Happy Not-So-Newlywed { 07.11.08 at 9:50 pm }

Hi Mel- thank you for all that you do! I would be lost without you!

Do you mind moving me over to the IUI category? I think I have moved past the “in the beginning” stage and would love to get support from others in the IUI category :)

Thank you!


45 dana { 07.16.08 at 6:30 am }

Hi! What a great site you’ve got going on! I’ve been a lurker for many months.

We’ve been TTC since March 2006 and earlier this year I started to chronicle our journey thru IF(with a few other thoughts, too)…I have PCOS and ovulation is an issue…seems the problem lies w/ me!

I’d love it if you could add me to your blogroll: http://probableimpossibilities.blogspot.com


46 JessT79 { 07.22.08 at 2:17 am }
47 This_Cross_I_Embrace { 07.25.08 at 6:14 pm }

Hey, I’d love to be added to your bloglist, as well (if possible). Thanks!


48 Sarah { 07.30.08 at 6:40 am }

I love this! Man, are you organized! I have learned a lot just from scrolling through ALL( well, not all..but a lot) of these blogs listed here.

Thank you!!


49 ☆ Loren ☆ { 07.31.08 at 5:10 pm }

I have moved from “Waiting for two pink lines” to “First Comes Love…” …. Could you please add my new blog to the General Infertility Section! Thanks!!!


50 Murgdan { 08.07.08 at 5:31 am }

Love the blogroll…and you ARE an excellent organizer. Whew.

Could you add me in? I guess I fit in ‘In the beginning…’

Conceive This!

51 CD and SP { 08.10.08 at 7:53 pm }

Just what you need..another gay/lesbian parenting blog. We’re new parents after IVF and would love to be included. Thanks for the organizing.

52 Stacey { 08.13.08 at 8:58 am }

This is an amazing resource! Thanks for putting it together. I’d love to be added – probably under Pregnancy Loss or General Infertility. (I suffer from recurrent miscarriage.)


53 More Beans Please { 08.27.08 at 1:58 am }

Thank you for putting together such an incredible list. Can you please add me under Gay and Lesbian


54 Lisa DG { 08.30.08 at 2:37 pm }

This has been so helpful for me- one place to get all I need- info, support, hope. Thanks.

55 Michelle { 09.25.08 at 11:55 pm }

Hi, this really is an impressive list. I would love my blog to be added too and hopefully others can learn some of what I did over the course of a year enduring unexplained infertility.

56 RMCarter { 09.27.08 at 10:33 pm }

VERY helpful! I was looking for others like me. I hope to gain strength from their stories.

If you want to add my blog, it is:

I have had unexplained infertility for 5 years now.

57 angrycanrn { 09.28.08 at 12:22 pm }

Hey Mel,

I have a new blog since my husband died and we moved to Canada.

If you would like to add it:


Parenting after donor conception is likely the most appropriate category. Although loss is a big part of it too….. I have returned to work as a nurse, so this blog is really a mixed bag.

Hope all is well with you. Your site is awesome! Many changes since I was last here.

I’m still trying to figure out what to do with our 10 frozen embryos….

58 The Bruce's { 10.01.08 at 1:39 pm }

So I am new to this whole blogging thing and have no idea of how to search for blogs. Your sorted and filed list of blogs I stumbled on is fabulous.. if it pertained to me a bit more. I am wondering if you could direct me on how to search for blogs talking about incompetent cervix, bedrest and premies

59 Michael, Karen and Morgan { 10.20.08 at 6:27 am }


Thank you sooo much Mel for your hard work and dedication!

Your blog roll have bee invaluable to me!

60 syn70 { 10.28.08 at 3:35 pm }

After long hiatus, I return with

61 body mind soul { 11.03.08 at 6:59 am }

very very wonderful list you have. Would love to be added into your list. I am an IVF blogger and my url is http://ivfsingapore.blogspot.com

62 Rachel { 11.13.08 at 11:23 am }

Wish I would have known about this site when I was going thru infertility treatment and ttc thru DI. I’m a single mom by choice, and love to talk to other moms like me!

63 the passionate "peach" { 12.02.08 at 10:46 pm }

Wow ~ what a great list of blogs. In the interest of fairness, you could check out the listing of blogs on my blogroll for voices from adult adoptees & birthparents.

64 Virginia { 12.07.08 at 7:39 pm }

Wow! Impressive list – what a lot of work. And, thanks.

65 Jenn { 12.16.08 at 12:53 pm }

I’ve recently started my IF journey in June. Have been TTC since Oct ’06. We are just in the beginning stages of treatments with an RE.
I would love to be added to your list.




66 Binh Nguyen { 12.16.08 at 6:27 pm }

Nice list of blog sites there. Plenty to read. This is going to keep me busy…

67 jbrown707 { 12.18.08 at 10:40 pm }

What a great resource- Thanks! Please add my husband’s blog to your list ‘from the male perspective’..


68 bre { 12.23.08 at 8:46 am }

I didn’t see any blogs about failed vasectomy reversals. This is where I am and would like to connect with anyone else.
thank you

69 Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen { 12.31.08 at 10:10 pm }

Wow, this is an amazing blog! I love your Connections Abound – I found you because you posted my request for couples coping with infertility.

Could you add Quips & Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility to your blogroll? http://theadventurouswriter.com/blogbaby/


70 Christa { 01.02.09 at 12:13 am }

I’m so glad I found this! Could you also add my blog http://endoandfertility.blogspot.com!

71 Lindsay { 01.12.09 at 10:15 pm }

Mel, I think your site is great, and your collection of blogs is unmatched, but as I was looking through them I felt that the feelings of those of grown up “bundles of joy” have been forgotten about.

I would hope in the future you would be inclined to also add our perspectives (as donor conceived and adoptees), as you have added the perspectives of every other person involved.

Confessions of a Cryokid

72 R.J. { 02.05.09 at 7:53 pm }

Hello! Could you please post my blog under Male Factor? Thanks!

73 Jamila Low { 10.14.09 at 6:28 pm }

Love the new look to the website, especially the pomegranate!

74 Ali { 10.23.09 at 1:55 pm }

Hi. Can I please be added to your blogrole under the loss (stillbirth) category.

Thank you so much!

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